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I hope this will help. [Depression Advice, Helping others.]
12 years ago
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To anyone who deals with a friend, partner, family member, etc. that suffers from depression, suicidal thoughts or any mental health issue, I would like to give some advice to you, I am an individual who has frequent suicidal thoughts and extremely low self esteem so I am only speaking from my experience.
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NEVER. I MEAN NEVER. YELL AT THE PERSON FOR HOW THEY ARE FEELING.
That is never fucking okay in any situation. They need your help and comfort, trust me, I know how scary it is to think you might lose a loved one when they are like that but yelling at them and telling them they are stupid or wrong is not going to help. If you are there with them, hold them and even if you are not tell them how much they are loved and desired. Remind them that even if there's nothing else that you will be there for them. Tell them how much they mean to you, because some people just want to know how you individually feel, not everyone else.
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DO NOT THREATEN TO CALL AN AMBULANCE OR LEAVE THEM.
Do not threaten to call an ambulance unless they are very serious about the threat. Please, they are probably scared and don't want to be forced into anything and for god's sake, DON'T fucking threaten to leave or abandon them. How would you feel if someone did that to you? Why the hell would you crush someone like that? Not okay. Be there for them and reassure them that you will be there for them through it all and do your best to convince them that whatever harmful thing they want to do isn't worth and tell them how it will effect you.
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LAST BUT NOT LEAST, KEEP. THEM. TALKING AND LET THEM LET IT ALL OUT.
Please, let them cry it out, let them tell you what's wrong even if it has to be with you. It might hurt, but losing them is not worth it. Don't tell them to shut up or anything like that, that's not okay. Do not PUSH them, do NOT GUILT TRIP THEM, just don't. Just listen, that's what they need. Please, just listen and hell don't be afraid to cry with them and NEVER get on to them later for letting it out. That is very wrong and selfish.
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Well, that's all I have to say.
I really hope this helps people, and I'm sorry if I stepped on any toes, I can only give advice based on my experiences but if it helps others I will be so happy.
Thank you for listening~
and hey, if you are looking for people who are going to listen or links to hotlines please check out these groups:
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To anyone who deals with a friend, partner, family member, etc. that suffers from depression, suicidal thoughts or any mental health issue, I would like to give some advice to you, I am an individual who has frequent suicidal thoughts and extremely low self esteem so I am only speaking from my experience.
☆
NEVER. I MEAN NEVER. YELL AT THE PERSON FOR HOW THEY ARE FEELING.
That is never fucking okay in any situation. They need your help and comfort, trust me, I know how scary it is to think you might lose a loved one when they are like that but yelling at them and telling them they are stupid or wrong is not going to help. If you are there with them, hold them and even if you are not tell them how much they are loved and desired. Remind them that even if there's nothing else that you will be there for them. Tell them how much they mean to you, because some people just want to know how you individually feel, not everyone else.
☆
DO NOT THREATEN TO CALL AN AMBULANCE OR LEAVE THEM.
Do not threaten to call an ambulance unless they are very serious about the threat. Please, they are probably scared and don't want to be forced into anything and for god's sake, DON'T fucking threaten to leave or abandon them. How would you feel if someone did that to you? Why the hell would you crush someone like that? Not okay. Be there for them and reassure them that you will be there for them through it all and do your best to convince them that whatever harmful thing they want to do isn't worth and tell them how it will effect you.
☆
LAST BUT NOT LEAST, KEEP. THEM. TALKING AND LET THEM LET IT ALL OUT.
Please, let them cry it out, let them tell you what's wrong even if it has to be with you. It might hurt, but losing them is not worth it. Don't tell them to shut up or anything like that, that's not okay. Do not PUSH them, do NOT GUILT TRIP THEM, just don't. Just listen, that's what they need. Please, just listen and hell don't be afraid to cry with them and NEVER get on to them later for letting it out. That is very wrong and selfish.
☆
Well, that's all I have to say.
I really hope this helps people, and I'm sorry if I stepped on any toes, I can only give advice based on my experiences but if it helps others I will be so happy.
Thank you for listening~
and hey, if you are looking for people who are going to listen or links to hotlines please check out these groups:
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I'll add some of my advice (as a helper who's never been suicidal herself):
Let them know you'll be there for them no matter what (related to the advice)
If they are receptive to it, let them know how much you value them
Pay attention to how they receive your advice. You may not know their situation and limitations, and you ramming a magical cure for their problems may be stressing them instead of helping.
Be calm if you can. It is scary, but being calm and level headed will give them something to hold to.
Ask help if you need it. You can call a suicide hotline and they can give you advice on how to help if you get stuck. There are also online chatrooms and other resources. Check
Remember that you need to take care of yourself too. Give yourself some time to recover after everything boils down
I've been through periods of constant suicidal thoughts and they do come and go at times when I'm overwhelmed, but I'm grateful to myself for not giving up just yet. I don't care if anyone calls me an egoist, I tried to survive by myself (with some help yes but most was my own work).
I wish you the best and that more people could enlighten us all like you just did c: