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12 years ago
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So... I went out shopping early afternoon with my grandparents and my mother called my grandma's cell phone to talk to me and told me to check my email. I had to use my phone and I checked it and got an email from my mom saying she was leaving my step-dad (For the 3rd time) and wanted to know if I wanted to come live with her again as an adult...
I don't know why, but just the thought in general made me want to cry. Mostly from confusion and the fact I'm emotionally unstable right now due to hormones. I asked her if it was legit this time and she said yes, but I'm still nervous... I haven't live happily with my mom in almost, I don't know 2 years maybe? So I decided to make a list of pros and cons of going with my mom... And was wondering if anyone could give me advice on what I should do...
-- PROS OF GOING BACK TO LIVE WITH MY MOM --
-- She's my mom, and I love her a lot and I haven't gotten to see her in forever.
-- Juan won't be there so I know there won't be any fighting between me and her.
-- She said that Brandon can still come in December because it's not an issue.
-- I'd get to be with my cats again and possibly even get a big dog.
-- Playing World of Warcraft with my mom all the time like I use to.
-- We'd be able to do mother daughter things again like we always use to.
-- I'd get to be loud (I can't at night cause of my grandparents x3)
-- Since it's Wyoming and I love the surrounding view I'd probably get out more.
-- I could easily find a job since I'm well known back there for being a loyal and hard worker.
-- I think I'd be 507 miles closer to brandon...?
-- I could get the medical benefits I needed.
-- Wouldn't have to deal with my sister anymore.
Now... For the bad part... The cons of going back to live with my mom...
-- CONS OF GOING BACK TO LIVE WITH MY MOM --
-- She could change her mind at any moment and go back to Juan and I'd be stuck in Wyoming.
-- I could lose stuff of my stuff that's here in California cause it's to big to move.
-- Some of the stuff I have saved for when I have my own family is VERY breakable and rare.
-- I couldn't see my grandparents anymore or anyone else special to me in California.
-- If something happened to my grandparents I couldn't be there to take care of them.
-- I wouldn't get to see my brother brandon (Won't get to anyway)
-- Juan might still be around and try to cause crap between me and my mom
-- If she's goes back on her word I can't get back to California.
-- I don't know how she feels about me spending money on Art.
-- Drama might start up between us and I wouldn't be able to fix it.
-- She might get depressed and regret having me and then I'd feel like an awful person and want to die.
-- I don't know if I can handle the stress if something goes wrong since I won't have any body to turn to.
I just need some advice... I want to go back to my mom. It's my mom I love her. But I'm so scared that if she goes back on her word and goes back to Juan I will be left alone in wyoming with no way to get back to California... I know Phaedrus won't be able to bail me out because he'll still be in college... I get to be free again but... If something goes wrong I'll automatically be trapped... I need help on what to do... Just any advice...
I don't know why, but just the thought in general made me want to cry. Mostly from confusion and the fact I'm emotionally unstable right now due to hormones. I asked her if it was legit this time and she said yes, but I'm still nervous... I haven't live happily with my mom in almost, I don't know 2 years maybe? So I decided to make a list of pros and cons of going with my mom... And was wondering if anyone could give me advice on what I should do...
-- PROS OF GOING BACK TO LIVE WITH MY MOM --
-- She's my mom, and I love her a lot and I haven't gotten to see her in forever.
-- Juan won't be there so I know there won't be any fighting between me and her.
-- She said that Brandon can still come in December because it's not an issue.
-- I'd get to be with my cats again and possibly even get a big dog.
-- Playing World of Warcraft with my mom all the time like I use to.
-- We'd be able to do mother daughter things again like we always use to.
-- I'd get to be loud (I can't at night cause of my grandparents x3)
-- Since it's Wyoming and I love the surrounding view I'd probably get out more.
-- I could easily find a job since I'm well known back there for being a loyal and hard worker.
-- I think I'd be 507 miles closer to brandon...?
-- I could get the medical benefits I needed.
-- Wouldn't have to deal with my sister anymore.
Now... For the bad part... The cons of going back to live with my mom...
-- CONS OF GOING BACK TO LIVE WITH MY MOM --
-- She could change her mind at any moment and go back to Juan and I'd be stuck in Wyoming.
-- I could lose stuff of my stuff that's here in California cause it's to big to move.
-- Some of the stuff I have saved for when I have my own family is VERY breakable and rare.
-- I couldn't see my grandparents anymore or anyone else special to me in California.
-- If something happened to my grandparents I couldn't be there to take care of them.
-- I wouldn't get to see my brother brandon (Won't get to anyway)
-- Juan might still be around and try to cause crap between me and my mom
-- If she's goes back on her word I can't get back to California.
-- I don't know how she feels about me spending money on Art.
-- Drama might start up between us and I wouldn't be able to fix it.
-- She might get depressed and regret having me and then I'd feel like an awful person and want to die.
-- I don't know if I can handle the stress if something goes wrong since I won't have any body to turn to.
I just need some advice... I want to go back to my mom. It's my mom I love her. But I'm so scared that if she goes back on her word and goes back to Juan I will be left alone in wyoming with no way to get back to California... I know Phaedrus won't be able to bail me out because he'll still be in college... I get to be free again but... If something goes wrong I'll automatically be trapped... I need help on what to do... Just any advice...
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This isnt something that random strangers can help you with...
even friends..
This is YOUR life.. Your future and make sure that whatever choice YOU make.. is what YOU want.
Every choice we make in life has pros and cons.. we just have to decide whats better for us emotionally.. and physically.
Im not saying friends advice is no good.. but I am saying.. make your own choices chica <3
my mom needs my emotionally due to all the problems she has. I'm just worried that a few months down the road
she might change her mind and decide I'm not enough and go back to juan and I'll be all alone.
the blame on me for their problems and my mother could do nothing but go along with it because he was all she had.
Now that I'm not there and there having problems he can't pin the blame on anyone but himself and I think she's
finally coming around to realizing that. We just recently started talking about 2 months ago and I'm gonna talk with her
more just to make sure this is what she wants so I don't get started and come there and she changes her mind and I'm stuck.