does the constant barrage of bad ever end? [personal]
12 years ago
Just when things were starting to hit a normal/neutral pace.... Settling in at my new job, feeling overall positive from the less stressful environment, got health insurance for Ticky and I, been trying to patch things up with my mom. (well, kind of) I've been working REALLY hard to put everything between my mom and I in the past. So hard. I've been trying to talk to her, be positive, and breed a positive home environment since Ticky and I are pretty much stuck here for a while. I ask her how her day was, offer her dinners I've cooked, try to talk to her about general life things that you should talk over with your mother, but 9/10 times she shoots me down or I get a "whatever" attitude. Okay, fine, be that way. But I'm going to keep trying. Even though it feels like she only talks to me if she wants money from us. (Which 9/10 times we end up giving it to her.)
And then today happened.
My mom texted me around 1pm saying she lost her job and Ticky and I were going to have to step up and pick up a lot of the slack.
Um. Excuse me?! No.
She didn't just "lose her job". She quit. Finally had enough of the bullshit in her office, walked into a meeting, and after it didn't go the way she was hoping, she put in her resignation. They then told her to leave and not come back. She quit her decent-paying, good benefit-giving (for mom and I), life sustaining source of income and career of 14 years and now says Ticky and I have to pick up the slack? What the actual fuck. Seriously.
I'm really lost as to what to do right now. Ticky and I barely make it by on our own, let alone attempting to support my mother even more than we do already. She's done so much to financially cripple me over the past 5 years, and now she's expecting us to take care of her or something. I feel kind of numb. Angry, maybe? Upset? Scared? Yeah, I guess. I don't know what to do. She's threatened to kick us out 3 times in the past month and added $325 to our monthly bills... now she wants us to support her, 3 cats, 2 dogs, a 55 year old house, and the two of us, including health insurance, car insurance and everything else?
Looks like it's going to be sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner for a while. :/
Sorry for the rant and ramble. I guess I just needed to get some of it off my chest.
And then today happened.
My mom texted me around 1pm saying she lost her job and Ticky and I were going to have to step up and pick up a lot of the slack.
Um. Excuse me?! No.
She didn't just "lose her job". She quit. Finally had enough of the bullshit in her office, walked into a meeting, and after it didn't go the way she was hoping, she put in her resignation. They then told her to leave and not come back. She quit her decent-paying, good benefit-giving (for mom and I), life sustaining source of income and career of 14 years and now says Ticky and I have to pick up the slack? What the actual fuck. Seriously.
I'm really lost as to what to do right now. Ticky and I barely make it by on our own, let alone attempting to support my mother even more than we do already. She's done so much to financially cripple me over the past 5 years, and now she's expecting us to take care of her or something. I feel kind of numb. Angry, maybe? Upset? Scared? Yeah, I guess. I don't know what to do. She's threatened to kick us out 3 times in the past month and added $325 to our monthly bills... now she wants us to support her, 3 cats, 2 dogs, a 55 year old house, and the two of us, including health insurance, car insurance and everything else?
Looks like it's going to be sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner for a while. :/
Sorry for the rant and ramble. I guess I just needed to get some of it off my chest.
FA+


I'll pray for you two in hoping things get better fast or soon at least
*huggles*
Many many! Draggy hugs and prayers that you two get out of there and able to leave her to her own issues. I'll miss you guys if you are unable to show up at meets.
*more hugs and stuffs*
Gareth
Not looking forward to moving. Again. .___.; I hate packing up everything and then trying to unpack and get everything settled. Aughhh.