In the furry fandom in some part of my life theres always been the point of having to hear someone complain of oh im offended by this or im offended by that. Or craming opinions down other one throats or guilt tripping people all the time to make them feel ashamed of themselves and so on and so fourth. U may get where this is going..For the past many months..maybe even a year now. i can admit to one BIG issue i have within myself..I have a problem with over thinking almost everything all the time on a daily basis. The constant torment of worrying what other people...mostly furs think about me or what there saying behind my back or am i in general consitered a nice person or consitered rude and disrespectful. Questioning others motives and wondering about the fur friends that i have truely are my friends. Constantly trying to change my manners around different people to adapt to how they are just to get along with them. The reality of all this is that no matter what i do i cant please everyone...This constant issue is really becoming antagonistic to my brain. and can prevent me from developing socialy. Ive had this discussions with a few of my fur friends before. But i thought id post it on here for everyone to know what im going through. Reciently i lost 3 supposably fur friends about a month ago due to the fact that i was thought of as clingy and a creeper and not an intersting person and such. Basicaly i was told i had some unhealthy habbits and such. And i was told that if i didnt change these things that they were not gonna be my friends anymore..Well..Can u guess how this ends? They arent my friends anymore..No matter what i say they have already desided in advance not to listen to me. And really what are unhealthy habbits anyway if they are being said of that from someone whos this is making an opinion? Definantly many variables to what is consitered healthy or not. Anyway theres many problems here and while im trying to stop with the over thinking and what not i cant please everyone..There are areas where i think ive been more mature than other people too..Ive delt with furs who get all offended by me calling them cute..How can such a positive compliment be so offensive? If someone calls me cute or even says they want to get me in bed with them really actualy DOESNT bother me. It doesnt nesesaraly mean im gonna do anything with them..But i must have something going on that attracts some furs. And no im not the guy or as its been said the uncle frank of the party who sits by himself in the corner. But yes i am exlpring some things sexualy... And yea i get lonely and sometimes lustfull a bit. But oh well. Its just it get super frusterating how many state how much they get offended about something and everyone else just sits around them just blindly agreeing with them while doing the same thing themselves that others hate. So many furs bashing things..Bashing on Bronies bashing on how oh that guy over there is a furvert cause he likes having sex alot with furries in fursuits and he likes plushies and blah blah blah. This guy did this and this person did that and im tired of it. I just met a nice fur at one of the bowling meets and he was happy to see me again at this one that just happened. And no later than the next day from another one of my fur friends i hear bad roomers about this one furs..We arent in high school anymore. Its time to stop playing the roomer game and to stop putting our offence on a pedistool. Id really like to see furs get along with one another and see past the trivial things so we Really can be all one big happy family. And when people insult me or tell me i should act this way or do something a certain way or whatever..all it does is feed into the problem i have with overthinking. Also with overthinkiing another problem branches off of this with me trying to be a perfectionist on some things and as a part of that i dont like failure. If some of you furs have the same problem i do then comment back. I do try to be flexible as a person so cut me some slack. Im just not gonna be perfect at pleasing your every will. I can understand some other points of view as long as they are logicaly relevant. And i do care for others feelings. Just don't try making me feel inferior for my mistakes as a person. Tha'ts all i have to say about that.