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Hi guys,
Sorry for not being around much. My new job has been pretty stressful as I try to succeed at it. Also, I started playing Guild Wars 2 and I kind of got addicted. I'll try to be online and posting more soon.
So this journal, primarily, is about relationships. It seems like everyone I know is in a happy one and it looks so appealing from the outside. I have a lot of issues though that seem to prevent me from getting a mate. While I like myself more than I used to and can recognize my strengths, I still have trouble caring about myself. Does that make sense? Anyway, if I don't care much about myself, why would anyone else? However, I feel like I would care more about myself if someone cared about me. It's kind of a catch 22.
Another issue is that I'm a homebody with social anxiety. How does someone like that go out and meet people? I dunno, maybe a dating site is the answer. Anyone tried and had any luck with furrymate?
Being intergendered doesn't help either, especially when you're more attracted to females. All of my relationships thus far have been with males, and I just can't do it any more. My libido is just too low to keep up with a guy in my experience. I'm more interested in female or trans (mtf or ftm) people since I feel like I can relate a bit more to them.
I guess this was just a journal to get some things off my mind. Thanks for listening.
Sorry for not being around much. My new job has been pretty stressful as I try to succeed at it. Also, I started playing Guild Wars 2 and I kind of got addicted. I'll try to be online and posting more soon.
So this journal, primarily, is about relationships. It seems like everyone I know is in a happy one and it looks so appealing from the outside. I have a lot of issues though that seem to prevent me from getting a mate. While I like myself more than I used to and can recognize my strengths, I still have trouble caring about myself. Does that make sense? Anyway, if I don't care much about myself, why would anyone else? However, I feel like I would care more about myself if someone cared about me. It's kind of a catch 22.
Another issue is that I'm a homebody with social anxiety. How does someone like that go out and meet people? I dunno, maybe a dating site is the answer. Anyone tried and had any luck with furrymate?
Being intergendered doesn't help either, especially when you're more attracted to females. All of my relationships thus far have been with males, and I just can't do it any more. My libido is just too low to keep up with a guy in my experience. I'm more interested in female or trans (mtf or ftm) people since I feel like I can relate a bit more to them.
I guess this was just a journal to get some things off my mind. Thanks for listening.
Hiya! I'm Cherri, and I draw lots of weird smutty stuff. =3 18+; strange porn lives here.
Requests: No
Trades: Ask
Commissions: Open
(If you're supposed to be on any of these lists and I haven't added you yet, please reach out and let me know!)
Mobian Beat em' Up commission queue:
1)
jorenard
2)
rikuji-knightblade
3)
leosabre
4)
ayameawoo
General commission queue (not necessarily in order)
1)
phantomshotgun
2)
herion
3)
bowhunter914
Trade queue:
1)
jagalomayor
2)
luxythesheep
3) OPEN
Commission information (pricing and TOS)~
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ixub5xol6she1ifaseofe/CherriTOS.pdf?rlkey=lnc9fndkx3m97uzuh072ajs0p&dl=0
Much love,
~Cherri
Requests: No
Trades: Ask
Commissions: Open
(If you're supposed to be on any of these lists and I haven't added you yet, please reach out and let me know!)
Mobian Beat em' Up commission queue:
1)
jorenard2)
rikuji-knightblade3)
leosabre4)
ayameawooGeneral commission queue (not necessarily in order)
1)
phantomshotgun2)
herion3)
bowhunter914Trade queue:
1)
jagalomayor2)
luxythesheep3) OPEN
Commission information (pricing and TOS)~
https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ixub5xol6she1ifaseofe/CherriTOS.pdf?rlkey=lnc9fndkx3m97uzuh072ajs0p&dl=0
Much love,
~Cherri
Try to focus less on the emotions of what you are, and more on the actual actions you can take for yourself. "I should do Activity X because I would gain Benefit Y." Benefit Y can easily and often should be "Because I will be happier." That way, you can focus on being happy and less on trying to be happy.
I mean... being a guy and all (for the most part anyway), I know it can get pretty crazy.
Now that I'm taking hormones, and by that I don't even mean full blown HRT, everything's become much more manageable.
Much to the chagrin of a lot of furries, most of the time, I don't feel like drawing crazy porn anymore. (Not sure if you saw my gallery before I wiped it clean and started over.)
Now I'd much rather draw comics of cute gryphons making out with cute girls??? I don't know...
May be easy for me to say, I know, but this is the prescribed method of like a billion advice columns I read because I don't trust my own judgement! =B
Relations are a fickle thing that need 2 halves to work in the same direction, Even then some are bound to fail, but one should never fear failure, but learn from it.
Gaming meets can be a thing, hobbyists and the sort also opens potential groups you can socialize with. Heck festivals are good potential places, even if only to atleast acclimate yourself to being around people
That have left it torn, and breaking.
But..in all that ! I found an ounce of love.
It was a risk worth taking.
e.e.Cummings
1915
I signed up for FurryMate, but got rather discouraged by the complete lack of women anywhere near me at the time. I don't know if it's any better now. I have pondered trying to date guys but I prefer women a lot more in real life. Probably doesn't help being somewhere in between with gender, too. @_@
I did a sort of cost/benefit analysis of the whole thing, and felt I'd be better off single.
I haven't been on so much as a date since, and couldn't be happier.
I realize that's rather unusual, but I've never had much problem with loneliness.
Perhaps do what I do and concentrate more on the positive things about being single?
All I'll say is that one doesn't NEED a partner to be happy. Don't feel you need someone just because your friends have people in their lives. I suppose you'd not make a journal like this if you were happy being single, though.
In any case, we're here for you, in general! Sorry I don't have any specific advice.
I actually realized that I hadn't seen you online in awhile so I actually visited your page without checking my journals. Keep well :)