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I can't ever catch a break! *sigh*
12 years ago
Just when I thought I finally found a job, reality decides to come crashing down on me.
12.50 an hour? okay that's a wonderful salary an hour, but the place is all the way out in another county from where I live and my mom cannot drive me there every day, especially with the constantly shifting schedule the job would require. If I got the job I could be required to go in anytime, any day for any number of hours that I'm needed. that kind of flexibility isn't possible for my mom since she has such a long work day,
The only possible way I could get this job right now would be if I went and lived with my grandparents. Right now that is not viable at all. If I did that not only would my life become immensely harder, having to deal with my grandparents 24/7, but as strict as my grandparents are I would never be able to get on Furaffinity or Deviant art or any other fur site I get on. I wouldn't be allowed to get on Skype, wouldn't be allowed to play any of my video games.
I love my grandparents , but they are extremely narrow minded when it comes to homosexuality, M rated games and a whole other list of controversial topics. I would be isolated from everyone here and that would pretty much kill me.
Unless I could get a car AND some insurance or unless I could find a driver to ferry me to work, I am SCREWED.
12.50 an hour? okay that's a wonderful salary an hour, but the place is all the way out in another county from where I live and my mom cannot drive me there every day, especially with the constantly shifting schedule the job would require. If I got the job I could be required to go in anytime, any day for any number of hours that I'm needed. that kind of flexibility isn't possible for my mom since she has such a long work day,
The only possible way I could get this job right now would be if I went and lived with my grandparents. Right now that is not viable at all. If I did that not only would my life become immensely harder, having to deal with my grandparents 24/7, but as strict as my grandparents are I would never be able to get on Furaffinity or Deviant art or any other fur site I get on. I wouldn't be allowed to get on Skype, wouldn't be allowed to play any of my video games.
I love my grandparents , but they are extremely narrow minded when it comes to homosexuality, M rated games and a whole other list of controversial topics. I would be isolated from everyone here and that would pretty much kill me.
Unless I could get a car AND some insurance or unless I could find a driver to ferry me to work, I am SCREWED.
i applied for a job at a japanese restaurant and did job training one night. when i thought i would get hired, the reality hit hard when i never got called back plus one of my family's two vehicles crapping out on us...
so now, still, no job, no car, no money, me=going nowhere anytime soon...
you'd be pretty damn lucky to get that job
say you do get it, the possibility of you bus-hopping from the county you live in to the other would be a logical way to commute.
or...
depending what your schedule would be...walk out the front door and walk the way there...yeah...not my brightest idea...
bus hopping requires money, which I don't have
have you tried getting published, i.e., writing a novel or something and trying to get it published?
I haven't tried submitting anything yet because I've never written anything longer than a classified shortstory
remember my Once In A Blue Moon posts? (you probably didn't read them knowing the way your days go...)
that was something I was working on when i was in the 9th grade, but didn't get around to completing.
if I cant afford groceries, there is no way I can afford a vacation
on an unrelated note, have you seen my latest journal???
congrats on 2k page views
Assuming you've been actively looking for work all this time, you know how difficult it is to even be offered a position. Yeah, there are downsides to this job, but very few jobs don't have some suck factor attached to them.
I would give serious consideration to the pros and cons of this before making a decision. I know it's tough, buddy, but you have to think about how long it might be before the next opportunity comes along. And what if it's worse?
because of my sexuality would make me a constant source of ridicule from them
hope you can figure it out though bud. and given that you'd just need to put a security lock on all your stuff to keep them oldies out, i'd say just find security having yer sexy time with Rosy Palm each night til ya got yer own place :3
alas, trying to be supportive and optimistic for ya bud ^^" doubt i am doing that as well as you'd favor, but trying at least :) *patpat* do your best man :)
*hugs*
If it were me? I'd take the job. Why? Because job! When will you this opportunity? You said you've had no luck, and now, HERE IT IS! The price? Yes the grandparents. But ahh, there is a way. You say your grandparents are nosey about even the slightest suspicion yes?
The solution is: DON'T LOOK SUSPICIOUS. Plan ahead. And basically, "blend in".
You can get on Furaffinity, all you have to do is put it on General work only then POOF! No gay porn, just have to be aware at what you look at.
If you REALLY REALLY want to though, then simply put yourself near the end of the table, or prop yourself on your bed with your back facing the wall. Will it look suspicious? Not if you give them a reason too. Example: Here comes sweet granny as she makes way to your bedroom and opens the door. You look up, with laptop in lap and give a casual, "Hey Grams." She comes in, "What are you doing?" And you explain, "Just drawing/ Just writing." Now this can end in two ways:
- If she comes to look over your shoulder, do not panic. Think ahead. When you hear your door open that is when you simply switch or close the browser and act casual. Also make sure to put something else that is "OK" in their eyes on the screen in case they look.
- The other way is she simply just chats with you real quick and leaves and you go on with your business.
If you have a P.C though then that may be a little harder, but for that one all I can say is just be careful.
* AND if you aren't allowed to close your door it works with the laptop too. You're still young and you can hear your grams or gramps walking by so that should give you the signal.
BLEND IN: What do I mean by this? I mean, BE INTERACTIVE WITH THEM. Have a conversation about something, they're grandparents talking about how the sky is blue can keep them occupied. You do this with them and keep it up along maybe a month or so, and trust me, you suddenly moving to play on your laptop won't even bother them they have better things to do.
PLAN AHEAD: Know your family, like what they do on a normal basis and when to plan when you want "Gay time" and when to NOT. What do I mean? Basically, know what they do and where they usually are around the house. Find places they aren't around during the time of the day and use it to your advantage. Unexpected things can happen, and that's where you have to think smart planning what to do for the day.
* Now if you don't know your grandparents (not saying you don't but just in case) all that well in order to plan ahead, then when you move in, the first thing you do is fix that: Get to know them. You love them, and hey, getting to know some family history isn't so bad right from the elders themselves? Get to know them for a week, and gather up some info.
I know this because my parents are as you explained your grandparents: VERY NARROW-MINDED AND NOSEY. I would constantly hear my dad just make gay jokes and it annoyed me all the time, or he'd make a gay comment about a movie we're watching and it would ruin it. My dad I had to very careful around since he also was the most nosey as well and would sometimes just burst open my door and scare me. (Luckily he's never caught me when he does that) I had my laptop RIGHT on my desk AND if someone came in my room, The desk was facing RIGHT IN THEIR VIEW! For the longest time, they kept pestering me with what I was doing on my laptop and had always kept me on the alert. It wasn't until Junior year though that they cut me "some" slack when they realized that when they would look at my screen or barge into my room they'd see me drawing on my laptop or just doing homework or watching anime. Eventually I did just as I told you with planning ahead like closing my door so it would give me notice of them, sitting on my bed and just spending time with my parents. Once that was settled, they left me alone and assumed I was doing the same thing: Drawing, homework, or anime and Skype since they're use to me talking to friends. Yes sometimes they do pop in, but not to check up on me anymore, mostly just to have a small conversation or just tell me I have more chores to do.
I want apologize for this SUPER long comment...and the bluntness in my words cause...I'm just being honest. I wouldn't be wasting my thoughts if I wasn't, and it's because I care about ya bud. Your grandparents could be worse and all this info I'm giving you may be a waste of your time, but I'm just giving you options of what you CAN do instead of looking at the "grandparents stay" as just hell on Earth, because there are other options of how to live with people and ya just gotta think. Listen to what your friends have to say like Bannor, he's right about weighing your PROS and CONS. And if you think about it, if the solution is living with your grandparents for a certain amount of time in order to get a job that will give you a really good amount of pay, which will help you earn money and save up in order to move some place else with just the issue of the 'Narrow and Anti-Gay' security in the house then don't you think it's still worth it? Just don't think on it too hard and do what you gotta do. You want to live your dreams right? You NEED this job in order to do that. Think about it, and hopefully this helps.
if I had no other choice but this job, I would probably have to take it and whatever hell comes with it, because yea 12.50 an hour would be too god to pass up. that is far more than minimum wage and it would be an amazing offer
You can be tolerable with what they do and say because once you have what you want, you don't have to listen and you can finally be on your own with your own independent mind.