In a situation like this, I'd say to just sit down with your closest friend, and start talking with them about it. See what they can do to help, and, if it's more then they can handle on their own, ask if they'll come with you to talk to a counselor. That way you're not going in alone for the first few times.

Other then that, I'd say to seek help of some sort. Anything and everything helps, even if it's just talking quickly with a trusted teacher or friend.

Best of luck to you in finding the help that you seek, I hope you do find it. ^^


Btw, counselors are actually not as scary as they seem. I was forced to go to one (due to court order, long story), and I was scared at first, but talking with her really helped me, and helped me to control a few psychological problems I had. (Mainly, my anger issues)

I remember being sent to the high school counselor because of the (pretty obvious) signs of self-loathing in my art assignments.
It really isn't as scary as I thought even though I wanted to break down crying the whole time, haha.

Perhaps I should seek help at my college like you've mentioned. They have plenty of people who are willing to help with stress-related issues, especially since finals are less than two weeks away. One of my animation instructors is very calm and helpful, perhaps I should talk to him sometime as well.

One thing is that I'm living with my current boyfriend and he's been trying his best to comfort me and it's really making me feel worse because I really hate having to let him put up with me.

Professional help. Odds are you're suffering from a hormone imbalance. It's a flaw in chemistry, not character.

That could be possible. I may look into that.

I started by going to my doctor and telling her that I've been suffering from extreme depression and anxiety and she put my through to a therapist.

I never actually went to the therapist and now I've just spiraled deeper down.


That's my suggestion. Your doctor can recommend you to someone that can help you before it gets any worse. c:

Thankies~ I should have done the same by seeking help earlier in life instead of refusing and trying to fix it all by myself.
Life just sucks, lol.

Many have suggested it but a start would be just sitting down with somebody you trust and talking about it, and looking into getting a psychological evaluation would help too, so you know officially what you're dealing with and what might be done about it.

rawnblade23 and michiael both make good suggestions, it might be a chemical imbalance, in which case a doctor is needed, or it could be a emotional thing, which a counselor/ or a therapist is needed. either way, i suggest you seek one of the two sooner then later, i got a bit depressed at school when i got type one diabetes, and started failing math. talking to some one really helps, otherwise you just sit on it and it brews like a storm, all-ways getting darker every day, talking and seeking help can bring the light back into the world.

the main thing is, you are the only one who can fix it. you have to push yourself to get the help, others might not know of your struggles because your hiding it by pressing on.

hope you work it out ok.

I went to my best friend for the same problems, and he suggested therapy. I don't know if either of those will help you, but they're worth a shot, I think, and if you need someone else to talk to, I'm available, though I'm not the best at giving advice and stuff.

I agree with the other suggestions here, too.

I never thought I was depressed. I didn't feel depressed. I didn't really feel anything. For a year or two I didn't feel much at all. I couldn't sleep properly, eat properly, think properly, and I didn't recognise these things for what they were. But one of my friends did, and he hassled me until I went to see a doctor, and I'm incredibly glad that he did. I'm incredibly glad that I can actually be incredibly glad again.

Never feel bad about asking for help. There's nothing to be ashamed of, and you're not alone. 1 in 4 people have suffered from depression or mental illness, and it's not a life-sentence, it's totally treatable, often just by talking to a professional. If you're on the fence, or unsure, just go. Don't put it off until tomorrow, don't think it'll go away on its own, just make an appointment. You've got nothing to lose, and everything to gain. You'll be glad you did.

Just so you know - many here have recommended therapy and that's fantastic. But I have to tell you that the first therapist you find may not be the right one. If it isn't helping or you just don't like your therapist IT ISN'T YOU. Therapy is all about YOUR needs, and if the therapist you find isn't meeting them, then it's time to find a new therapist! It may take a little shopping around, I know I needed some very specific types of responses from my therapist in order for them to help me. Never be afraid to find the therapist that's right for you. You deserve it!

I forget if you were doing college? If so, your school will have someone you can meet with.

You should probably see a psychologist, I know this has already probably been said by now but.. yeah.

The thing is.. that's only if you want to change. Mine said there's no point on going if you don't plan on changing.

I may not know you that well, but I know anyone has got the strength to change, for some it's harder than others.

You've got the support of us on here on FA, and your friends and family.

The first step is in trying to break one of the longest standing illusions we cast over ourselves :
It's not about just willpower.
With willpower you can certainly channel and adjust the forces flowing through our lives, but you cannot outright force that river to flow backwards and uphill, so to speak.
"I'm okay" is one of the most subtly and utterly destructive white lies a person can utter to both themselves and the people around them.

It can hurt your pride to admit the depth that you need help at, and it can be utterly mortifying to 'confess' the details without discreetly trying to glaze over them, but these are vital things that must eventually be done.

Any who would judge you badly for trying to reach our? They're just complete tools.
No matter what happens, remember this : If you feel pain, if you feel fear, no matter the 'true cause' behind it, no matter the 'best solution', never doubt that the pain or the fear is real. The moment you deny that the pain is real, or that the fear is real, or that the problem is there, is the moment you start to devalue the weight of your own problems. And no matter how you may feel, pain is often a sign of strength, though you feel weak. Imagine for a moment the often televised exploits of people seeking to break world records, people pulling trains by a rope gripped in their teeth, people flipping cars with their bare hands, people whirling ceaselessly and athletically in elaborate trapeze... even as they reach the very brink of what human beings are capable of, pushing the boundaries and setting records, showing incredible feats of strength and agility... do they feel 'strong'? You can bet that every inch of their minds and bodies are crying out in pain. What you feel right now is similar. Your pain is a sign of endurance, of strength.

I'm sorry I cannot offer advice on how to proceed, but all I can offer is that you remember to be on your own side, and to keep your problems focused in the centre of your view, to never bury them or pretend they've gone away when they are secretly hurting you.

Good luck. You can do this <3