yeah i dont get it either. and its not just the furry fandom either... everyone does this...

Well I know, but I just said furry fandom because where I notice it more... It just eww I just make me so fuckin upset, and one if my close friend did it an his mate gave him the protectin to do it, my respect for them plummeted

it's because furries are more open about it.
probably because furries are more in tune with animals and animals generally don't give a fuck, and most will hump without a care.
There still are a lot of monogamous furs out there though, don't let it get you down.

I'ts just something you have to establish with your mate ahead of time. If you both are ok or not ok with it.

Thats called cheating on you right?

Some people have agreed to let their spouse or mate have other partners. If they've agreed upon who, it's what works for them. But if it's on the sly, it's cheating in my opinion.

Some of us just have open relationships, it's not cheating if they know and are supportive of the decision

Well I know thst, it more or less shock for me when I know a couple for being with each other then out of the blue they told me they fucked this this and that, I mean it doesn't bug me, if how I met u uhg.


I think I'm just More in shock,.

It more or less my fault, my world kinda spiraling

your not wrong for thinking what you do, it's naturally instilled into some of us to lead monogamous lives

If they are doing this then the other person deserves someone better, so it can be looked at as a future bettering for some

Yeah.l-hug- u always seem pop up when I'm at my worst tobi lol

My first furry convention (last summer at AnthroCon), one of the people in our hotel group cheated on his boyfriend. It kinda ruined the rest of the con for everyone in that room... Luckily I was in another room though<3

As me and my mate say, I think it not right to say to the one you love, that they cannot see another. Just seems totally selfish to me. As far as 'cheating' goes, I know no reason to not tell your mate who you are playing with. Why not be up front with things. I say the more the better. Definately keeps things interesting. and in my and my mates case, we get things we dont get from eachother from others.

I don't know it just going all to shit right now

hopes things work out. didnt realise this was about what youy are dealing with, and not just a debate journal. huggs

-hugs back- yeah:/ it's fine

Ok let me see if I can lay this out in a productive way instead of sounding like a complete ass I guess. You have some people in this world (furry or not) that are capable of monogamous relationships. This is fine and wonderful. Hey if you are in love with one person and you want to have sex with that one person for the rest of your life then more power to you. Then you have people who while deeply in love with each other want to add some "spice" to their sex life or maybe as I have known in a few relationships their partner is not able to do something for them sexually that another person can. Does this mean that they love their partner any less? Does it mean that they are going to run off with said individual and leave their partner heartbroken? ABSOLUTELY NOT. Each relationship has its own dynamic. What may work for you may not work for someone else and vice versa. All in all it really depends on the dynamic of the relationship. Also I understand these two people are your friends and you care a great deal about them. That being said if you truely care and love them the way that I am sure you do then why judge them based on something that is no offense not your decision to make? Something that a friend of mine taught me a long time ago and it still rings true to this day. 99% of what goes on in the world doesnt affect me so why should I focus on concentrate on it. Not saying ignore it but at the same time dont focus on it. I am sure they know what they are doing and if there was a problem they would resolve it on their own. Just my two cents. You can take it or leave it.