I never noticed but that sounds kinda lame. Why say you want to battle on pokemon but you never accept the challenge? You want to make new friends but don't put in the effort? So lame. :/

well, I mean, I ask the questions, and they respond with what their answer, their favorite color, what they do for a living, but they aren't even curious what I do. it's like pulling teeth. forgot to add that in the journal, whoops.

Ohhhhh! That's just odd. Maybe! They think you're trying to steal their souls by learning everything you can about them and have some kind of spell to make them your slaves from great distances! ............ Okay, maybe not. It's just lame that they don't put in the effort after someone has shown an interest in them.

Yes. I'm a soul stealer. All I need now is your mother's maiden name, and your social, and we'll be all set! :)

O_O! SOUL STEALER!!!!!!!!! -runs away, brings back rumcake- Don't eat me. Please.

rum cake is acceptable.


how do all of you know some of my most favorite of treats?

Pure luck. :3

that's how you can tell the difference between someone who is self-centered and someone who isn't. if they don't show any interest in you, that's usually a good sign to let them go.... or at least that's how i think about it.

I think it's just something people say so that they appear to be more social, but I agree, I note and watch people randomly and strike up a conversation with them, just because 1 little thing they have somewhere on there profile I like, I find that common ground and will note them on it and then never hear back from them, what gives???

Yeah.. maybe it's just to seem more friendly I guess.

I dunno, doesn't seem friendly at all, to be honest.

Just passive. I like talking, having meaningful conversation. If you don't bother giving me something I can use to create common ground, which is what I'm really trying to do... Why did you bother adding me in the first place? It's not just one person's job to maintain a relationship the entire time. Same as some people not bothering to say hi first, every once in awhile. I understand people being quiet, more often than not, but if you've known them long enough, and are on friendly enough terms... why not say hi?

R U TALK TA ME PARTNER?

YEAH, YOU.

talk more, and stuff.

have some pie. it's blueberry.

i taaaaalllkkk ;3;

and no. only pumpkin o-o

Pumpkin is <3

Sooooo heavenly. but I love my varieties of pies and other treats too!

Sometime it depends. I kind of feel that you're talking about me here, but my problem is that while I have no trouble talking about mysel I feel incredibly awkward trying to talk about someone else. Enough that questions and such don't really come forth. BUt maybe that's just me.

No, not anyone in particular, just a trend. I think I can get you going on a few subjects, once I find one. Others it's like pulling nails to get anything worthwhile out of. They seem to only latch onto certain people and/or cliques, and the reasons why are well beyond my comprehension, except for maybe being shallow.

Yeah, I know I try to respond to every comment I get except those one word replies and such
that are almost impossible to follow up on LOL
It's good that you try to get to know people. Also, feel free to chat me up if you'd like ^^
I always on FA and Skype. Have a great day!

People are generally selfish, whether they say they like to meet new people or not. Like i dunno everyone has something to prove and everyone has their own agenda. Sometimes you gotta take hold of the conversation and talk about your life, cos they expect it. I mean conversations usually go - person 1 talks about self, person 2 talks about self/relates to first statement, and so on. We're bound by our own perception and it's no excuse not to ask questions but to a lot of people it doesn't come naturally, which is dumb, but it seems to be something the majority suffer from.

So I say if talking to them feels like having a one-way conversation even when you talk about yourself...fuck 'em.

So that was in response to your reply to the first comment. As for people not replying at all...I dunno, people can like to meet new people but sometimes are turned off by some people's mannerisms/profiles I guess? I wouldn't take it personally...like people can still choose who they talk to even if they love meeting new people. I'm choosy with who I befriend/talk to.

Hope this hasn't got your spirits down too much. <3
Some people just aren't worth your time so try not to think about it too much, who knows what their reasons are.

YES *faves journal* I know too much bastards that say they're freaking social and so open and blah blah but after a few shouts or certain messages or even an RP they're quiet, boring and some even get annoyed when you talk to them which I find stupid and atrocious to make someone who is interested in you feel bad after reading a completely misleading info page then you go out of your way to chat and bond but instead they wanna act harsh and be all "busy"... tis why I barely have anyone in my Skype list

DING DING you hit the nail on the head! The funny part is most people will read this and agree with you while being the exact type of person you’re talking about.

Mmm... quite possible. It is funny, that the general group of people I'm referring to in this will never know I'm talking about them, just cause they don't bother to care what the journal is about, only who wrote it.

I know for a fact there are people in here that are a part of the demographic you are venting about talking as if they are innocent of of doing it; their hypocrisy sickens me.

Heeeeyy... you discovered the behaviour of 99.5% of humanity! xD

That's why I stopped bothering with most people. They want to be talked to, without putting out any of that effort; nowadays after getting brushed off/ignored for about a week-to-a-month I just give up and don't bother wasting time and effort on those particular people anymore.

There's no point, regardless of how much they say "I'm trying" or "I don't have anything to talk to". They just don't care about you (or you don't give anything material to them) and would rather talk to others. Such is life! :p

You are right to a part, but please understand that this is very situational.
I would like to use myself as an example. I have a really hard time to get a decent conversation running. I still like to meet new people and having them talk to me or ask questions about myself makes me happy. But it's hard for me to respond. I often end up overthinking things with "What should I ask in return?", "Will it be unpolite to ask the same?", "How detailed should my answer be?". This takes time and in the end I will give a short response, hoping to not annoy the person with details.

I understand that this is basically my fault, but it is in no way meant to be offending towards who ever I would be talking to. I am certain there are other people like me in the same situation.

I would suggest that it might not always be the way it seems to be. But yes, you are still right. Some people are the way you describe and that is a shame. In my case though, I would apologize for my lack of ability to keep a conversation running or to openly show interest. So, maybe the person you were talking to is or was in the same situation. ^..^

I have honestly not spoken to you, so i cannot make such a judgement, but hell, the fact you wrote a few paragraphs in response speak more in volume than someone who would not even follow me in turn, or, if they did, even read the journal, and even more, come to the conclusion I referred to them.

Really, I don't make judgement so quick, though I can see some of the activity the person has on the side and it's far more drastic in how they relate to others, or swoon towards others, in comparison, even if you've known them for as long. there's a definite bias, and to be honest I think most of the fandom is shallow, to the effect they only relate to creatures to which they have a mostly physical attraction.

Just wanted to use myself as an example to show that there can be a reason for the behaviour you described. I didn't mean to say your assumptions are wrong in general. I didn't think you were referring to me or anything either. Actually I doubt we ever really talked to each other (not for any reason though).

I have no doubt there are a lot of 'shallow people' out there, and yes, it's indeed a shame. Just don't conclude that every non-response is to be taken as an insult. ^..^

Oh no, I certainly am not! This was just a growing trend I noticed with alot of people, and, again.

There's plenty of people I talk to that are "non-responsive" usually just cause they are indeed busy, and they do get around to responding, and the times we do talk we get alot of conversation in.

Then there's the types where I get a little bit. I ask their hobbies, and more to the point, I try to ask them about their hobbies, cause I myself have a vested interest, and the responses are very short and lacking in general. If it's a hobby, why would you not want to talk about it?

Hell, my job isn't the greatest in the world, and I've done shit things, and even things I dislike, I'll at least discuss with to people, only cause it's conversation, and getting a feel for the person.

I see what you mean.
I am not really talking to a lot of people so I can't really find those often. I am quite aware that there tend to be people like that though.
Sorry to hear you haven't been lucky enough to meet the right people to talk to. ^..^'

I have a few good friends that I'm grateful for, and I hope they know who they are. At times I admit I have a hard time showing gratitude and commenting on certain things I like.

It's actually a problem that has sewn it's roots into today's society. People only care about their bottom line, and not anyone else. I go through this all the time, but you know, gotta weed out the good from the bad.

^this

I'm usually the first one to say 'hi' to my furfriends on Skype, too :I. That can be really annoying sometimes :\

I know them feels! it sucks :(

Also, that eastern you got there is really cute! I'd love to see a well drawn feral of him :)

I know ._. and aww, thank you ^.///.^ Unfortunately I don't have a pic of him as a feral yet D:

The sooner the better! seriously. so cute.

I'm flattered x#3 and maybe soon, when I'm not too busy :P

*grins* very good <3

X3

^I derped out here, everyone. I do have a few pics of him as a feral >w<

I have noticed a few times. I had one person on Skype who just started hitting on me (even when I said "no") and try to get to know me or let me get to know him o__O