Sorry to hear that all of this is happening. *snugs*

I stand along side you in this - I met my boyfriend at a time - where i still believed being gay was 'wrong'

Over a few months, I fell in love with him - I find myself leaning more towards 'demi-sexual' as what i am - having a deep emotional and romantic bond with the one I love.

I know, my father will never understand or accept it - he became vastly more religious after his heart surgery a few years ago. I've looked up to my father, and hoped to have made him proud in life...and now i know, that will never be - and that really hurts me.

Believe it or not - there are Gay Christians out there - like me - it took many of weeks of soul searching and questioning to understand - and the problem is - most of these people don't bother to really seek answers - they simply follow blindly. I used to believe in "love the sinner hate the sin" - until the lawsuits starting coming up about priest molesting little boys - how can i be condemned to hell for being gay, and they won't be?

My fursona - is more than just that - He is my Guardian Angel - regardless of what others believe or think of me - I've seen him, and he has protected me throughout my life. He has been there to show me that all the doctrine, all the banter, all the nit-picking isn't important - what is important - is that God is Love - and if you are in love with someone, regardless of gender - isn't that a piece of God right there?

I wish you the best - as you and I both have a tough road ahead - my family always has been an important part of my life, so being outcast in it, will be very difficult.

If you ever need someone to talk to, or just to be there for you - please message me - I'd be more than happy to be there for you, and with you in this

I'm sorry for all that you are having to go through. It can be really hard having those that are so close to you work so hard at discouraging and guilting you for something like this.

However, I am glad that you are figuring yourself out, and that (despite others actions) you are being honest with yourself about who you are. It is really important to do that and not hide from your own needs and personal truths. I hope so badly that some of your family and friends can come to an understanding that you are still you. That you are just as wonderful, kind, and caring of a person as they have known in the past, and I hope they will be able to push past their own short-sightedness on this matter sooner rather than later.

The most important thing to remember is that there are always friends, true friends, who will love and accept you no matter what. The people that love you for who you are instead of what your are (or what you are labelled as), and these people are the ones you need to keep in contact the most with now. They'll give you the strength and support you need in a time as hard as this, and they will do it happily. Just remember that, because I know you are often afraid to "burden" or "trouble" others. But, you need to remember that the people who you think you are "troubling" have never (and most likely will never) consider you a trouble at all.

Wishing you the best, dear. Feel free to talk with me or anyone else you feel you can trust. We're here for ya.

Sorry finding your true self is so painful *hugs*

I wish I knew what to say. I didn't come out to my parents until I was safely ensconced a few states away and even then they didn't totally freak out about it; neither is religious at all, though my mom as it turned out still had a lot of the inculcated social conservatism that comes with growing up in a very Catholic country. So I've never had to put up with the worst of the right-wing religious crap from any family or friends.

I suppose in your place I'd get all fighty and combative. There's something deeply unwholesome about that smug impulse to inform someone--particularly family!--that they're going to Hell, and it'd make me say mean things like, "Well, at least you'll know someone else there." But I guess that's an easy thing for someone like me to say, totally distant from your situation and ignorant of its depths.

In the end you'll have to answer only to yourself, and not to them; even if you are just "confused" (I'm not saying you are) it's your business to sort it through, not theirs.

Oh honey we are so sorry, and are here for you if you need anything *hugs* Your friends will always be there for you no matter what.

That is an unfortunate situation. Hopefully I can help you feel a little better tonight ^_^

The advantage of friends over family: You can choose your friends, and change them out if they cause you hurt. Family is forever (until they die, anyway), and a pattern of abuse, either physical or verbal, will continue to occur as it has in the past. And the wounds will sting when you think about those in your family causing the hurt. It's easy to forget about a former friend who has turned sour. With family, it's much harder. SO....

My advice (wise old gator here, take heed): Continue to associate with family members who enrich your life - and stay in contact. Nurture and attend to those alliances, as they will serve you well for your entire life. For the rest, especially those who harm you the most, avoid them. If you can not avoid them, educate them about what you are willing to tolerate. And for those hurtful folk you can not avoid, bite back at their bad choices, immoral actions, and hypocrisy. This will serve to silence them - and leave them wallowing in their disgust for themselves. Act not out of bitterness, but out of the need for self preservation.

Best of luck to you, I hope you get through the worst of this pain without losing people who are important to you.