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My Quantum boyfriend and other issues.
11 years ago
Ave,
Well, I'm in a poly relationship, been in one for a year. Not that I had any intention of hiding it on FA. It's just relationships can be a bit tenuous and prone to bursting into smoke. My friends know I have two boyfriends, it's not something they care about since they're furries and not complete assholes.
However, my problem comes from having to deal with people who are close enough to me to know I'm gay, but not trustworthy to tell about being poly-amorous. This has caused some unique problems in ordinary dialogue when talking about my relationship, referring to an interest, career, item, experience a boyfriend has, or talking about the general routine or dynamic. Half-lies through omission and editing have to be performed on the spot.
This in turn has created a quantum boyfriend. A boyfriend that has both and neither contradictory attributes of either boyfriend at the same time. Such as: He has a GED and finished Highschool, he hasn't gone to college and has a bachelor's. He is both working and unemployed (although that changed today). He is and isn't on medication! Some things are more plausible like: He has a car he's fixing and a usable one. Or Recovering alcoholic and can't drink because of meds. So like at any given time depending on what information I give to people, it sounds like I might be a compulsive liar. My big problem is I'm used to talking about them as "they" or "them". Might also make me sound schizophrenic.
On that note, one of them was laid off today, the other was fired when I visited a few weeks ago so now they're both unemployed. And on top of it, a schizophrenic ex showed up to their house completely out of the blue, which the other did not handle so well. Yay long distance, nothing like having problems that I can't do anything to solve. /rant
However, my problem comes from having to deal with people who are close enough to me to know I'm gay, but not trustworthy to tell about being poly-amorous. This has caused some unique problems in ordinary dialogue when talking about my relationship, referring to an interest, career, item, experience a boyfriend has, or talking about the general routine or dynamic. Half-lies through omission and editing have to be performed on the spot.
This in turn has created a quantum boyfriend. A boyfriend that has both and neither contradictory attributes of either boyfriend at the same time. Such as: He has a GED and finished Highschool, he hasn't gone to college and has a bachelor's. He is both working and unemployed (although that changed today). He is and isn't on medication! Some things are more plausible like: He has a car he's fixing and a usable one. Or Recovering alcoholic and can't drink because of meds. So like at any given time depending on what information I give to people, it sounds like I might be a compulsive liar. My big problem is I'm used to talking about them as "they" or "them". Might also make me sound schizophrenic.
On that note, one of them was laid off today, the other was fired when I visited a few weeks ago so now they're both unemployed. And on top of it, a schizophrenic ex showed up to their house completely out of the blue, which the other did not handle so well. Yay long distance, nothing like having problems that I can't do anything to solve. /rant
When I gave poly relationships a try the explosion was immediate and thoroughly blighting.
So good job.
But no, seriously, polyamory is really stupid and it won't end you up anywhere good, no matter how much you three trust each other. Better brace for impact while you still can-- if you still can.
http://i.imgur.com/2Ik1yiZ.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/9yvOb31.jpg
http://i.imgur.com/tihUzl1.png
Good way to ensure that your views never get actually challenged and to guarantee that you'll never be in the wrong.
Also; Excellent usage of the word literally. You're good at hyperbole!
A for effort, F for implementation.
Even if you had the same viewpoint as I do, you'd argue against me. There's no point.
Joel: Love you
Ian: Love you too
2/10/2014
Joel: Call me tonight? miss you.
Ian: will do.
2/17/2014
Joel: Keep me informed on what you hear. I want to figure out what we are doing to get
back together.
Ian: Will do.
Joel <3
2/18/2014
Joel: Did you move in with Snow or something? I got a message saying you moved out of your
place at Joe's.
Ian: Yeah. Saves Money.
Joel: Maybe you could have told me? I'm feeling distant enough as is. Are you wanting to
get back together with me still?
Ian: Yes, assurdly absolutely yes
2/22/2014
Joel: How goes? Miss you
Ian: Miss you lots. talked to Kay, they might want me to come out to sf for an interview
pretty soon.
Joel: Awesome, make sure you can! See if they will comp travel. If you land an awesome job
out there I will move with you and figure out school there!
Ian: Yep!
2/25/2014
Ian: I miss you so much. I started humming "you are my sunshine" without realizing it and
now I'm crying
Joel: *hugs tight* as soon as we find out where you are going, I can follow you there.
Ian: Mmmhn
Joel: Love you
Ian: Love you massively.
3/08/2014
Joel: How come you never contact me? :c
Ian: I never know what you're doing. I miss you. And love you.
Joel: Heh, passive fox :P any news on that job interview? What day in march does your
lease end? Really want you here with me
Ian: Kay wants me to interview sometime soon
Joel: Figure out when! and when does your lease end? you need to find out on that job so
we know where we are moving.
Ian: Yes sir! <3
Joel: Love you
Ian Love you too
3/15/2014
Joel: When do you get home?
Ian: Not sure, working with jouster on comp system stuff
Joel: Just let me know then. Love you
Ian: Love you so much
3/16/2014
Joel: Tomorrow I work. Will call you when I get home.
Ian: Okay. I love you.
3/19/2014
Joel: Ok, thank you, Goodnight <3
Ian: Goodnight, I love you
3/20/2014
Joel: Feeling better yet?
Ian: Not really
Joel: Ok, talk to you tomorrow. Love you <3
3/26/2014 2:53 PM
Ian: sorry i haven't contacted you i n a bit, my phone is being a wonky piece of shit. had
a prelim interview today, it went really, really amazingly well, i impressed the women
conducting it. i just have to see what's up, and see if i get a call back for a second
interview.
i got over my stomach bug after a total of 5 days being miserable. do you have any idea
how bad pedialite tastes? apparently it was a thing going around though, i'm just glad its
done.
i love you and can't wait to see you again
forever your foxy
Ian
Apr 1, 2014 12:25 AM
Joel: please give me a status update, and figure out to use a friends phone or something
so we can talk some. I need to find out where you are moving and how we are getting back
together.
3/31/2014 11:26 PM
Ian: I love you too. I'm working on stuff, and yeah, I'll see what I can do. Every day i
think of you more