Q~Q I thought you loved me!!!

I love everyone! No one loves me though. Q.Q

We are both subs :C

That's the other problem. :c Even if I ever found a girl, finding one that was dominant is just... the chance ratio hurts my brain.

So she has to be dom :c?

Well, at least a switch, as much as I hate switching. Most all my fantasies involve being dominated, so if none of that will ever happen, I dunno that there will be a lot of happiness in the bedroom. That and I do prefer getting penetrated over penetrating.

I...could try...

You are very very sweet. <3

But a bit young for me. And so so far away. x.x

I believe it will happen for you hun!

HUG <3

Hope it all works out for you

!

It all depends on how exactly are you looking for your future mate, sometimes you just need to look it in a different way.

well, being unable to speak to anyone you're physically attracted to, and having no where to look for mates other than furmeets or cons where most all females are already taken kinda limits ones ability to look.

Of course, some people have all the luck and their friends just hook them up with people. But, when one doesn't really have any friends either..

Maybe you should try and look outside of the furry places, and maybe have a friend or two who can help build up your courage :3

There aren't really any places outside of furry places to look. I'm not gonna look in bars, cause I don't want to date someone that drinks a lot, or smokes. And other than bars and churches... there aren't many social gathering places in this city.

And I've tried making friends, I just don't seem to be able to... so having friends to help would be difficult.

Oh Scynt. uxu~

.-.

oxo?

//Huggles face!
You will find someone beautiful and wonderful and you will spend the rest of your lives just smothering each other with your loves~

I know how it goes lol

I like ya buddy

Oh dear, sweet skunkie... If you don't have the optimism for yourself, partake of some of mine. If you really, truly want a girlfriend, you will find a special girl for you. Whether or not she will be "The One", I really can't say, and it might take time and pain, but I believe you are really a great person and worthy of a kind woman of your own.

...failing that, I'll be your girlfriend or something. X3

A defeated personality will certainly not net you a woman, man. This reads like you need to work on yourself before you find someone, because women aren't going to be swooning for you if you're so self depreciating about your own characteristics.

Further, whether or not you've had one before is practically irrelevant to whether or not you'll ever have one. There are so many fuckin' outside factors to consider that the idea is crazy. Hell, I think there's a logical fallacy in that idea somewhere.

You won't get a girlfriend by obsessing over how you don't have a girlfriend, and you -certainly- won't get one by being depressed over how you'll "never have one". You'll get one by putting yourself out there (be it virtually or physically) and improving what hurts your confidence. Got a problem with being shy? Work on it. Got a problem with your physical strength or weight? Work on it. Is it where you live? Work on that.

Once you're confident, then you try. And you try. And you try. You try every fuckin' day for the rest of your life. If you don't find a single girlfriend after a lifetime of trying, then you go to god or whoever-the-fuck and you ask to haunt me for the rest of my life so you can shout "I told ya so!" in my face.

I understand the need for vent journals but c'mon, skunk. You are worth far more than you're telling us you're worth. If you want a girlfriend, work towards that shit. It's not exactly an unreachable goal to find a woman who is into dominating. I mean, you say it is, but it really isn't. It's hard to find one if you're not actively trying, though.

I mean, I don't know your life. Idunno how hard you've been trying. So I'm sorry if I'm assuming too much about you. I'm just saying that this story isn't exactly uncommon, especially when the word "shy" is involved. And every time I see it, the problem is too much misery, not enough self-appreciation and effort.

Regardless, I hope you feel better. Sorry to hear the lack of dating life has you down. Submissives unite and all that. *hug*

You need to get drunk! Solves all the problems. I mean whan you're drunk you do stupid things, forget your shyness and also end up havinf sex.

Unfortunately I do not drink.

You sir, look to be in the literal exact same predicament as myself. o-o

-gives super hugs-

Don't give up hope~ The right person is out there for everyone, you just need to look in the right place :)

Buddy, I know just how you feel. There are good girls out there though.
I hope you find what you need, cutie-skunk.

*hugs you* You're a really swell skunkie. Hang in there.

Perhaps you could make some contact cards to give out at cons and such? Just with your FA name and email, a picture of your fursona...nothing that screams desperate, but it might help! Just give them to anyone you interact with at the con ^^ It would help with the shy problem. And it wouldn't seem that weird, I know plenty of furries give out contact cards just because its hard to exchange info sometimes in the business of a con.

Don't give up hope, though! Sometimes love is found in places we'd never expect

I used to think the same way, and it WAS a while before it happened, but things are working out decently so far for me. You just have to be diligent. I know that it's tough to get through, though.

Like wise ive never been in a serious relationship with a girl myself. Let alone a date. Only relationship ive been in was rixam, which didnt last long. So yeah, I know how you feel. Because ive only experienced that one date/relationship. Outside of that...never had others. You have a specific want in someone, and naturally thatll limit the choices. Like wise me wanting a furry girl, kicks the ratio a lot lower than accepting a non-furry.

Shyness can be a cause and all but you can slowly work out of it. To be honest, over the past year, since I met you and all..compared to now I think you have opened up a little. Seems like any time your in the area like at green fox's room party, you do talk. And being around stuff like that will open people up over time. I was extreamly shy myself...work forced me out of it over a couple years of customer service. I like to hang in groups for that reason, which is why ive always offered to you to feel free to hang with us at cons. Once you get to know people, you dont seem shy at all.

Wish you the best of luck in your life~

If you plan to go to Morphicon or Furreality, look me up. :)

I feel This way to.. ;w; I feel ya D:<

*hugs* I understand. It can be tough. I've been where you are now. I was only able to "find" someone after I stopped looking. The details are in the same link that I shared with in in Notes: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/5497028/ .

How can you be shy if you're not looking? Think about it, people more approachable if you're not interested in dating them?

By the way, your orientation reminds me of my own. I have a feeling that you'd be happiest with someone who's feminine, but has a penis. And, if they are vanilla, may you trust each other enough so you can explore your fetishes with other partners. That is the way that it is with my Stacy, and we couldn't be happier.

It will happen, you just have to hang in there and find happiness while you are single. That will make you attractive. Trust me, and you'll find them chasing you as if you were a reverse-Pepe le Pew! ^!^

To an extent. Except you don't understand how ungodly shy I am. I CANNOT TALK to a person, unless they A) engage me first, or B) I have been informed by them previously that they want to meet/hang with me. Attraction has nothing to do with it, though it manages to make me even MORE shy than that, but just speaking to some random stranger on the street, or calling up a store, or asking an aquaintance a simple question is an exercise in excrutiating terror.

As for finding happiness while single, I've tried. And I've come to the conclusion that it can't be done, hence this journal. I thought that making friends would be what would fix my depression, but as I've tried to make friends by going to meets and cons I've realized that the times I feel most depressed are any time I see a female show any attention or affection to anyone. Which means that it isn't a lack of friends that is causing the depression (though it is certainly helping in that I can't make any IRL friends no matter how many meets I go to), but not having a girlfriend.

As for orientation, I've thought about a very effeminet male or a transgender male, but I know that I'd still feel jealous of anyone I see with a girlfriend and like I've been shorthanded in life just knowing that I couldn't get a true, cis-gender girl as a mate. And I would not be able to be in a relationship where either partner is allowed to do anything sexual with anyone outside of the relationship. Snuggling or cuddling other people, sure, but exploring fetishes, could not do it. I also wouldn't be able to properly enjoy a fetish if it wasn't with someone I had strong feelings for anyway.

I've been giving the matter some thought. My roommate for Midwest Furfest lost his wife in September of 2012. He's still badly effected by his loss. I feel that you two might be able to give each other support. Here is his page:
http://www.furaffinity.net/user/phrezbear/
I have already informed him that you might try to contact him, so don't worry about that.

I've known you from online for years, and I've met you before IRL. And I can't see any reason why you wouldn't eventually end up in a relationship if that's what you want. You are nice, you are attractive. Maybe you need to work on being less shy, and not letting that hold you back so much. And believe me, I totally understand what that's like. I used to be extremely shy and had major problems with social anxiety. It hasn't been easy, but I have gotten a lot better. My point is, you CAN work through that. You just gotta work on it a little bit at a time.

I kinda wish we lived closer together. I'd hang out with you. *hugs*