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The musings of approachability
11 years ago
Just a random rambling journal, but...
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I find that I'm often rather afraid or timid when it comes to messaging certain others, from Fah here, especially. It's odd, since in-person I'm incredibly talkative and not at all shy about approaching others and starting conversation. ^^ But on here, it's different, for some reason.
If I see an artist who has hundreds (or even worse, thousands) of followers, draws a bunch of stuff rather often, seems generally popular, etc... no matter how nice their personality or how much I may want to get to know them, I always find myself afraid to contact them. I suppose my biggest fear is that they'll assume I'm one of three things... either:
1) some adoring fan of their work who will do nothing but ramble on and on about the art and endlessly faun over them
2) some adoring fan who will do the above, and then subsequently try to get free art from them
3) someone looking for some sexy roleplay
Now don't get me wrong... I'm all for giving artists credit for their work, but not slavering over it. And people who message artists for the sake of getting free art blow my mind... I don't see how anyone can be that shallow, really. Lastly, I love me some roleplay... I mean, I do -general- roleplay when I type, just because in-person I tend to... well, talk with my hands a lot. *Snickerwoofs* So online, I like to give -some- sort of feeling to my words. When it comes to the more sexual aspect of roleplay, I don't mind it... but it takes the right kind of company, and a mutual understanding of interest in that. I wouldn't message someone from here with that solely in mind... again, I'm hardly that shallow.
However, with artists that fall into the categories mentioned in the second paragraph, I feel like... to them, I would just be some random piddly little musician from the swarm of Fah users... another person they'd never heard of, who probably just wanted one of the above three things. I've talked to a couple of more "popular" artists in the past... and honestly, they either seem like they're barely tolerating my presence, or they blatantly ignore me altogether. Not that I group all artists in that category... but it's certainly a large basis for my reluctance to be more outgoing in approaching others of that cloth.
In any case, my apologies for being a babbling border. Just something that came to mind, in a recent conversation with someone. Though, honestly... I guess I wouldn't have much to lose in sending along a friendly message to some people, hmm? I try my best to be good company to those who prove they can be such in return....
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I find that I'm often rather afraid or timid when it comes to messaging certain others, from Fah here, especially. It's odd, since in-person I'm incredibly talkative and not at all shy about approaching others and starting conversation. ^^ But on here, it's different, for some reason.
If I see an artist who has hundreds (or even worse, thousands) of followers, draws a bunch of stuff rather often, seems generally popular, etc... no matter how nice their personality or how much I may want to get to know them, I always find myself afraid to contact them. I suppose my biggest fear is that they'll assume I'm one of three things... either:
1) some adoring fan of their work who will do nothing but ramble on and on about the art and endlessly faun over them
2) some adoring fan who will do the above, and then subsequently try to get free art from them
3) someone looking for some sexy roleplay
Now don't get me wrong... I'm all for giving artists credit for their work, but not slavering over it. And people who message artists for the sake of getting free art blow my mind... I don't see how anyone can be that shallow, really. Lastly, I love me some roleplay... I mean, I do -general- roleplay when I type, just because in-person I tend to... well, talk with my hands a lot. *Snickerwoofs* So online, I like to give -some- sort of feeling to my words. When it comes to the more sexual aspect of roleplay, I don't mind it... but it takes the right kind of company, and a mutual understanding of interest in that. I wouldn't message someone from here with that solely in mind... again, I'm hardly that shallow.
However, with artists that fall into the categories mentioned in the second paragraph, I feel like... to them, I would just be some random piddly little musician from the swarm of Fah users... another person they'd never heard of, who probably just wanted one of the above three things. I've talked to a couple of more "popular" artists in the past... and honestly, they either seem like they're barely tolerating my presence, or they blatantly ignore me altogether. Not that I group all artists in that category... but it's certainly a large basis for my reluctance to be more outgoing in approaching others of that cloth.
In any case, my apologies for being a babbling border. Just something that came to mind, in a recent conversation with someone. Though, honestly... I guess I wouldn't have much to lose in sending along a friendly message to some people, hmm? I try my best to be good company to those who prove they can be such in return....
I'd say it is easier to attain this if an artist streams, and you end up being a regular attendant. Especially if the number of people that show up is relatively small. I know that is the case for at least one of the aforementioned artists.
As far as free art goes though, even with people I know, I would never think of asking outright. If they were offering, I might accept; but it's rude to presume that someone will do something for you, even if you call them a friend.
Speaking of talented artists, I do hope to see more stuff from you at some point. I've had a painful lack of bordertunes in the past few months. ;)
Long story short: I haven't stopped doing music! Just a temporary lull while I get things sorted. ^^
(Also I know I'm not super popular; but feel free to pester me any time. )
I love folks that approach me about my art. I make my bead sprites because it's a fun hobby of mine that allows people to nostalgia about fun games and experiences they had in the past. It's a passion of mine, I suppose, and that passion comes through in the art itself as well as the reception of it. I do my best to respond to every note, comment, and shout left on my page when possible. If people want to take me aside and talk about beads for a while I certainly indulge them.
I suppose if I had dozens of people doing this at once it would be overwhelming. I"m sure for the more popular artists (those that do porn especially), they're probably inundated with people that want free things or RP or lord knows what. To be perfectly honest a LOT of this fandom is..less than desirable when it comes to socializing. It'd only be natural to sort of shoo folks away.
I think it ultimately comes down to the individual artist though. If they're producing art because it's a business/way of living/income, I think they're going to be less keen on the social aspects of things. If it's a hobby/passion/desire, I imagine those sort of folks would be happy to share their interest with others.
If folks want to get to know me expressly to get free stuff, I simply let them know it's not possible. If they stick around, awesome. If not, that's their decision. I try and respect their choices either way.
If you have any questions or wanna know more, lemme know. I could blab all day.
2) some adoring fan who will do the above, and then subsequently try to get free art from them
3) someone looking for some sexy roleplay
describes the furry fandom in three sentances *nods*
some artists just want "fans" that will stroke their artistic penile ego and have no time for anyone else. some people call those the Popu-Furs.
I call them ASSHOLES.
with me, I'm an open god dam book online because I have this LCD screen between me and people. I don't have to worry about being uncomfortable because I can delete anything that sounds to stupid before I hit send.
In Person, I'm shy as FUCK. people make me nervous, and I don;t like leaving my house UnArmed. (unfortunately I HAVE to leave the house unarmed for looooong periods of time while I work)