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Sort of rant
11 years ago
So something pretty stupid happened at the bar last night. All in all I had an amazing time, but this one thing really got to me. Basically I was sitting with a couple new people I met, playing Magic. Some one comes over, basically insults me (playful or not, still kind of obnoxious) them goes on to talk to the people literally right behind me and tell them he's leaving, and never says goodbye to me. That bothered me quite a bit.
The night did get better because I got to hang out with some good friends after that, but that still bothered me.
On a side note, I also need to be more assertive. I have good friends, who I love and appreciate dearly, but for the most part I don't have many people that I can call my best friends. I used to, but they kinda drifted away from me. Which I know is also partly my fault for not talking to them as much,but it is a two-way street. I can't be expected to do all the talking.
Also, when people have get-together and I'm not even told about it (by people who'd once told me they'd let me know if anything was going on) it makes me feel unimportant. That may not be entirely the case, but I want to at least be a thought when these things come up.
Granted I do get invited out occasionally, usually when I'm busy, which is fine and I do appreciate those offers, but at the same I want to feel wanted somewhere.
Which also reminds me that I really hate confronting people or bothering them about these things, so I figured I'd just get it all out at once. This why I say I need to be more assertive and put my foot down more often, and not let people ignore me or walk all over me.
Don't get me wrong, I do love all of my friends to death, but sometimes I'm just the odd man out, and I'm saying that its been enough of that. But at the same time, I shouldn't be the only one making am effort to talk more. I know people have things going on, can't talk all the time, but I have problems too, which is why I want to be more social and hang out more. Especially now that I have a job and some money.
If you actually did read all this, thank you.
TLDR; I need to be more assertive, and people should at least talk to me a little more so I feel included and wanted.
The night did get better because I got to hang out with some good friends after that, but that still bothered me.
On a side note, I also need to be more assertive. I have good friends, who I love and appreciate dearly, but for the most part I don't have many people that I can call my best friends. I used to, but they kinda drifted away from me. Which I know is also partly my fault for not talking to them as much,but it is a two-way street. I can't be expected to do all the talking.
Also, when people have get-together and I'm not even told about it (by people who'd once told me they'd let me know if anything was going on) it makes me feel unimportant. That may not be entirely the case, but I want to at least be a thought when these things come up.
Granted I do get invited out occasionally, usually when I'm busy, which is fine and I do appreciate those offers, but at the same I want to feel wanted somewhere.
Which also reminds me that I really hate confronting people or bothering them about these things, so I figured I'd just get it all out at once. This why I say I need to be more assertive and put my foot down more often, and not let people ignore me or walk all over me.
Don't get me wrong, I do love all of my friends to death, but sometimes I'm just the odd man out, and I'm saying that its been enough of that. But at the same time, I shouldn't be the only one making am effort to talk more. I know people have things going on, can't talk all the time, but I have problems too, which is why I want to be more social and hang out more. Especially now that I have a job and some money.
If you actually did read all this, thank you.
TLDR; I need to be more assertive, and people should at least talk to me a little more so I feel included and wanted.
I do wanna talk to people more, which would hopefully fix all this, but it isn't quite that easy for me..
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