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19 years ago
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Heads Up! I'm going to whine here... I hate whining. Depending on how I feel later, I'll probably just delete this. But...
What if you're the person people ususally come to when they have problems? You're the shoulder to cry on, the rock of confidence people seem to anchor to when they're in doubt. So, what happens when you have problems and there's no one you can seem to count on to just listen to you and maybe give some advice? I feel better blabbing to complete strangers here than talking to anyone I know here.
People seem to generally consider me a nice guy. I do get that a lot. So why is it that people just want to crap on the nice guys? I like to feel useful, do the right thing, work my hardest, etc... And I always want to assume the same is true for others. I'm shy and quiet, I know this. I go out and try to be social. Come coworkers tell me they want to invite me out to a club, just to hang out and have a couple drinks, but then call as soon as I get home and back out. Or I end up calling them and they after waiting and something's come up.
I've had few dates the past half year. But here's what happens, after the second date usually, they decide to either: A) Not call back, I try twice, leaving message to try and get them to call back. After that I get the hint, B) Wait till the last minute to cancel the next date, or C) They want to be friends so they can tell me about their next dates, what their problems are, and ask me to go out to movies only to leave me hanging half the day after promising to call back and never do.
So with all the data here I can only assume I'm the problem. People don't want to be with nice guys. They want to hang around loud assholes, talk about football, get loud crazy drunk, or whatever. I'm not into sports. I liked playing when I could get together with friends. But what is the damn excitement in seeing some overpaid jock chase a ball around?
And apparently all the women I've dated only want some guy to be loud, forceful, drunk, and abusive. I'm sorry I'm not an asshole. I can't even fake being an asshole, its just not in me.
Maybe its just the state I'm in. South Carolina is still a bizarre and backward cultural mess to me after 3 years I've spent here. But then I'm not sure if its just here or everywhere I might go.
So, I get along well with people, but they don't want to be around me. How am I supposed to interpret that? ...so very confused...
If you've read through this whole thing. Thanks. Its just come to one of those situations tonight, and I felt the need to vent. Hopefully it didn't come out as just a rambling mess.
What if you're the person people ususally come to when they have problems? You're the shoulder to cry on, the rock of confidence people seem to anchor to when they're in doubt. So, what happens when you have problems and there's no one you can seem to count on to just listen to you and maybe give some advice? I feel better blabbing to complete strangers here than talking to anyone I know here.
People seem to generally consider me a nice guy. I do get that a lot. So why is it that people just want to crap on the nice guys? I like to feel useful, do the right thing, work my hardest, etc... And I always want to assume the same is true for others. I'm shy and quiet, I know this. I go out and try to be social. Come coworkers tell me they want to invite me out to a club, just to hang out and have a couple drinks, but then call as soon as I get home and back out. Or I end up calling them and they after waiting and something's come up.
I've had few dates the past half year. But here's what happens, after the second date usually, they decide to either: A) Not call back, I try twice, leaving message to try and get them to call back. After that I get the hint, B) Wait till the last minute to cancel the next date, or C) They want to be friends so they can tell me about their next dates, what their problems are, and ask me to go out to movies only to leave me hanging half the day after promising to call back and never do.
So with all the data here I can only assume I'm the problem. People don't want to be with nice guys. They want to hang around loud assholes, talk about football, get loud crazy drunk, or whatever. I'm not into sports. I liked playing when I could get together with friends. But what is the damn excitement in seeing some overpaid jock chase a ball around?
And apparently all the women I've dated only want some guy to be loud, forceful, drunk, and abusive. I'm sorry I'm not an asshole. I can't even fake being an asshole, its just not in me.
Maybe its just the state I'm in. South Carolina is still a bizarre and backward cultural mess to me after 3 years I've spent here. But then I'm not sure if its just here or everywhere I might go.
So, I get along well with people, but they don't want to be around me. How am I supposed to interpret that? ...so very confused...
If you've read through this whole thing. Thanks. Its just come to one of those situations tonight, and I felt the need to vent. Hopefully it didn't come out as just a rambling mess.
guess you get to make new friends :B
A lot of girls I went out liked it when I talked silly and dirty, messed around, was a little sexually agressive. Sometimes you have to remember that "between being a nice guy" is just being scared to make the first move.
I'm certainly not advocating going out and throwing yourself at somebody, but go out with them, have fun, go get a drink, go walking, see a movie, tell her she's cute and pinch her butt.
You don't have to be sleazy to let girls know that you find them attractive and wouldn't mind doing more.
Girls get horny too :)
This must seem like wacked out advice, but try it - be yourself, have a good time, touch a boobie and say "beep!" - you might get your hand swatted the first time, but if she keeps giggling about it afterwards, she might like you a little differently.
... Think about it - how many people get married that don't have a fun sexual relationship beforehand? Ever wonder how they got there?
Hope this helps :D
Go out and have fun, let us know what happens! :)
2. Drive to his house on a weekend
3.Party hard futanari-style
4.????
5.PROFIT!
No seriously tho, if I were down there I'd like, pay for us all to go out, even if it was for dinner. Good friends are few and far between, and even the most cheapass mofo's are willing to lay down cash for reliable, good friends.
If everything were in a perfect place and I weren't so broke, I'd love to get together with a few friends from the intarwebs and just like, go to a con. Some ppl don't like cons, but I love them, well at least the anime cons. I dunno about furry cons, never been to one, and being futa fans I'm not sure we belong at one.
Besides, no one has to know we draw futa. :-P