Your situation is not all that uncommon. The key to success if focusing on the accomplishments - like having a fursuit, having a mate, and being self sufficient.

The first two I have. =^_^= The third one I'm still working on, though I am getting there, even if slowly.

I just had a birthday too, and I'm a bit shaken by it. Now I'm not saying this is necessarily helpful for you, but I think it is important to note that Who You Are as a person has done more to influence the world than you will *ever* see.

I will always remember you, because you changed my entire worldview, that I'm still thankful for till this day! I won't put it all in the comment since it's a personal story, but you are MORE than welcome to hit me up via Note or Skype or Steam for the story (again, I know I've told you at least once!)

I work in an Emergency Room now, not putting my degree to use, and I see people who really don't have their lives together. Dude, you may not own, but you ARE paying rent. Your car may not be flashy, but it works.

I know it's not the most uplifting, but just know that your actions and your personality shape and influence the very people you're around, and you are directly influencing the very community you are a part of.

Stay awesome, and happy Level Up

*smiles* Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am glad that I am making a, more or less, positive impact on the world. Knowing that I can affect good on the world helps me. I just go about my life and try to be nice to everyone, I find it makes things so much easier and better.

idk i tend to love the older cars, but its never about what you got but what you have, its never to late and your only as old what you think you are really :) *hugs* you can still achieve a lot in life . It can always be worse i can say. but hope you have a nice birthday

Thanks, hehe, yeah, I feel okay about my car now, cept that it lets the rain in a little bit somewhere around the back driver's side somewhere, gotta figure that out. But yeah, I still plan on doing a lot more in my life, just need to build up to it and nudge my life in certain ways and let life move as it will beyond that. I do plan on having a decent birthday, we will see.

I've been driving 10 - 13 year old Dodge Caravans with 150+ thousand miles on them for years. There's no shame in that either.

True, very true, I plan on driving it a good while longer, just put close to $800 into it to keep it running (new fuel filter and new fuel pump (both original to the car), new shifter linkage, and transmission flush). Purrs like a kitten now, heh.

I'm less than a month away from 32 and still live in an apartment, working a dead end job (that atleast pays good), and driving a van that just cracked 140k miles. So I hear you somewhat in all of this. It's why I have my moments where I feel a bit down about my situation. All I can say is to just keep working at it! *hugs*

At least we are each making things work, which is what counts, I suppose. *hugs*

You are not getting a year older. As with me, you are getting a year better! Every year is better than the last.

Heh, that's a good way to look at it, thank you. =^_^=

Trust me, oh plush one, there is nothing to fear when it comes to entering into your 30s. Having known you for years, I think it's safe to say that you're a good and kind person and one I am always proud to call my friend :) I have no doubt that you'll make great advancements in the years to come.

Hehe, awwww, thank you. I am very proud to call you my friend as well. We will see what advancements this plush for brains mew can come up with, though I'd not hold out hope, the plush paws kinda hinder most kinds of work, hehe.

The 30's are a trip...
Don't fret Fox. Set goals and take steps to reach them over time.
I'm 32 and living at home. I can relate some to what you are saying.
I will find a mate one day.
If you want to talk some you are welcome to.

*nods* I will definitely take you up on that offer. I already have a few goals in place, I am just in a holding pattern until things fall into place, which they should soon, I'm hoping.

You definitely deserve a mate, as, IMO, you're fun to be around, you're kind, you're cute, and you're an all around good guy. *hugs*

... * glows as he hugs you softly* Your very sweet... thank you.... *blushes bright*

Hehe, you are welcome, it is true though, you have been a joy to be around, even though it's not been that many times. *hugs you*

Thank you sweetie * blushes* ^_^

OH TO BE 30 again!!! just wait til you are a true gray muzzle like me .. Ill be 48 June 8 this year starting to knock on the big 5 0!! hugs happy bday my plushie snow kitty

Hehe, thanks. *hugs you back, purring*

Happy birthday buddy, mine is just 12days away for me so I know h how you feel.

*nods* heh, thanks. Hopefully you have a better plan for your bday than I have for mine, which is to work a full day and then come home and be totally lazy. :-P

I feel EXACTLY where you are coming from - as I will be cracking that 3-0 on the 10th of June myself!

It always feels like a climb but you aren't getting any higher - I've had the same feelings as you describe for the last 5+ years. Keep in mind though, as i have reminded myself a lot over the years - a lot of what you see of others online - especially Facebook and such - is never the full truth.
I have a rather good job in my field of engineering - and I drive a 1999 Ford Contour, all those people you see - at our age of 30 - with pics of their brand new car - those pics don't show you how epic the debt they are swimming in is.

Hell - for YEARS, I wanted a fursuit - it took me until last year to feel i was able to afford one and have the time to use it - it was hard for me not to feel like a failure when I see pictures of 19 year old's running around in fursuits at Conventions and i didn't even have one even though i wanted it badly.

Truth is though - look at all you have accomplished - you may not own the place - but you live on your own, you own your own car, you have earned yourself a degree and a job in life, that to me - is the definition of success.

So Happy Birthday *HUGS you tight*

*plushie hugs you tightly* You do have a very good point, my car isn't glamorous but it works, and I do have a roof over my head, and my degree is gonna start helping me soon as far as a better job. You are perfect as the plushie birdy, so I think you waiting was the right move, even though, yes, seeing people just over half our age with suits that they probably got their parents to pay for can be very depressing.

I would like to meet you at a con someday and hang out with Fritzie again as well.

I hope whatever comes your way will bring many happy times. I've got about 15 year old car which still runs and that's great and thinking about getting something newer but used.
I'm glad to have met you at MP yet would have spent more time to get to know you. I hope to see you soon someday. Hang in there and make this next chapter in life a great one and do the best you can.*hugs tightly*

*nods* I just don't see the use in buying a new new car, it's gonna get old and used and abused anyways, hehe.

I agree, I'll be at AC this year and maybe MP, if my mate and I can make the finances and time off from our jobs work. I definitely wanna get to know you more as well.

I'm 40 years old and I'm in basically the same position as you... renting my own place, working a job that's not much more above minimum wage. But there's more to life that just that.

Looking back I feel that while I have done things in my life I'm not proud of, more importantly I have accomplished so much in my life that makes me who I am today.

And I also agree with your last statement... being a fursuiter does help me feel young, and as long as I can fursuit and bring smiles and happiness to others I will continue to do so.

*hugs*

You do have a good point, the job isn't, or shouldn't be everything that defines a person, though it does help things.

I would be a very different person if I wasn't a fursuiter, I know I would feel very differently about having turned 30. Yes, bringing smiles to others is amazing. =^_^=

And happy birthday! ^^

I hope you had a good Birthday!

Hehe, I had a good early celebration last night at the wedding, though I have to work most of the day today, then I'm coming home and just gonna be lazy.

My day was meh....

Happy birthday ^^

*hugs you tightly* Thanks. =^_^=