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Are Victims of Sexual Assault/Molestation "Defiled?"
11 years ago
In the context of the Bible, defiling has to do with the violation of sexual purity or the desecration of holy things. Virginity is one of those things that is considered holy. In fact, the sexual nature of a human is to be revered and protected. It's one of the things that a human inherently has that ties into the creation of life. The Bible puts it on a pedestal and creates morality involving it because it is so special and so inherent to the nature of the human.
Things like sex before marriage and etc. is defiling of one's sexual nature. They become "spoiled" or ruined.
Violence of a sexual nature tends to be one of the most disruptive forces in one's life. Things like pregnancy can result at the hands of a sexually violent person*. One can be severely injured by the act, both emotionally and physically. Emotional injury lasts a long time and is one of those feedback loops that will cause more and more injury later on. Some who know me know I used to inflict self-injury, mostly because I enjoyed it and became addicted to it. But depression was always there and it wanted more: it wanted me dead.
Sexual crime exists outside of gender. Males tend to be the ones who commit the crimes and women tend to be the victim. So it's helpful to those who have suffered the extreme cases (where the victims are male and the assailant female) to know that there are those out there who can relate and care.
Recently, I kept thinking about whether or not that actually counts towards someone's sexual purity..
At first glance and within examination, being the victim does not matter. You are still a "virgin" and you're not defiled. You are safe to live a life where sex means true love within the context of marriage and nothing can be called into question. Under no circumstance is being the receiver of sexual crime mean being an active and willing participant.
So you can rest your head and sleep well and know you're safe for the future. It helps me out knowing I can too.
* - This is a scary and horrifying and disturbing situation. But don't be afraid to make the best of it if you can. It's been done before and don't think that good can't come from a bad situation.
Things like sex before marriage and etc. is defiling of one's sexual nature. They become "spoiled" or ruined.
Violence of a sexual nature tends to be one of the most disruptive forces in one's life. Things like pregnancy can result at the hands of a sexually violent person*. One can be severely injured by the act, both emotionally and physically. Emotional injury lasts a long time and is one of those feedback loops that will cause more and more injury later on. Some who know me know I used to inflict self-injury, mostly because I enjoyed it and became addicted to it. But depression was always there and it wanted more: it wanted me dead.
Sexual crime exists outside of gender. Males tend to be the ones who commit the crimes and women tend to be the victim. So it's helpful to those who have suffered the extreme cases (where the victims are male and the assailant female) to know that there are those out there who can relate and care.
Recently, I kept thinking about whether or not that actually counts towards someone's sexual purity..
At first glance and within examination, being the victim does not matter. You are still a "virgin" and you're not defiled. You are safe to live a life where sex means true love within the context of marriage and nothing can be called into question. Under no circumstance is being the receiver of sexual crime mean being an active and willing participant.
So you can rest your head and sleep well and know you're safe for the future. It helps me out knowing I can too.
* - This is a scary and horrifying and disturbing situation. But don't be afraid to make the best of it if you can. It's been done before and don't think that good can't come from a bad situation.
