never get defeated he had clearly expected to much just be strong and believe in your self

To be honest, I'm not much of a looker, really, though. It's probably pretty justified.

*hugs*

Keep an eye on your e-mail. I have a new picture to send you that might cheer you up a bit.

Now that I'm more awake, time to elaborate:

I wouldn't feel too bad about these things or feel like you owe someone something. Because you're too kind and are too much of a (insert cutesy term of endearment here: preferably something suffixed with "muffin") to need that pressure in your life.

I know that as much as I enjoy femming up sometimes, I'm too lazy to put on makeup. And for the moment, I'm stuck in a place where I'm not sure how well presenting as female would go over. So I completely understand the discomfort.

Simply put, you weren't comfortable dolling yourself up in public and that's fine. Maybe one day you will either feel that confident or perhaps you may decide you'd rather dress the way you do now than fulfill someone else's expectations. Either way, it's important to be you~

Just keep shining on, cupcake~

I'm just not particularly "out" at the moment, so going out en femme is a terrifying prospect.

Believe me, I completely understand that.

Aww

Well, if you ask me, he doesn't deserve you anyway with that attitude.
Speaking for myself, I go more for personality than looks. And I like what I've seen of your personality so far

As much of a weirdo as I am, I can't be the only one who likes you for you.
Don't give up!

*offers comforting hugs if needed...*
Also if you ever want a sympathetic ear, feel free to note me any time.

Just . . . the emotional shifts from the hormones are getting a little overwhelming.

I know, but if you ever need to get anything off your chest, I can be a good listener
(Or I suppose more like a good reader on here, hehe).

Wishing you all the best there

Frog, tough love mode is engaging.

You presented yourself as a female - wore a wig, emphasized your most feminine features, the whole nine yards. It is your fault he had that look of disappointment on his face, because, quite frankly, you advertised falsely. Your profile promised something you didn't even try to match up to.

It's the same as if a girl dyed her hair, went tanning, and stuffed her shirt, then showed up at a date without any makeup, her A-cups obvious.

You should probably change your profile there have pictures of what you might look like on an actual date, and while you may not have as many suitors, you won't have to deal with disappointment. You're a rad person froggy - you shouldn't have to deal with this kind of stuff.

Actually, we'd talked prior to the meetup, and I let him know that that uneasy going to be dressed up, that I just looked like a regular guy. He said it was fine. I dunno if that makes it worse or better, but it's a detail I should have included in the above journal.

Well, I'm going to insert my foot into my mouth then. Glad to see you're trying. Keep at it!

Nah, nah, my own fault. You had a very valid point, and I left important information out of the initial post.

I was thinking that you should have let him know ahead what to expect, now that I see here you did that is no fault of yours. Not really any fault of his either, it just didn't work out. Don't lose heart, this is not that you are lacking but just one case of incompatability.

Yeah, I don't hold it against him. It was just this subtle, significant blow to my self esteem.