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Vent post; Ignored? Creepy? Rude? I really couldn't tell you
11 years ago
*sigh*... I don't even know where to begin. I've recently been interested in getting an art piece or two commissioned, so I've been contacting some of my favorite artists to maybe have something worked out. A couple have responded and told me that they're not open at the moment; okay, that's cool, moving on. Most recently, however, a several artists I've contacted simply won't respond to me, and I'm scared that I've said something to upset them, or something that simply makes them not want to regard me. I dislike being on a person's bad side, and I hate even more not knowing whether or not I've done something wrong, and especially if I have, what I did. No one's telling me. And I can't bear being in the dark like this.
With artist X, I've commissioned them before and had a great experience in doing so; They responded fairly promptly and there were absolutely no problems. I contacted them again, this time a more informally. In hindsight, I should have been more professional and not used the stupid "Shut up and take my money" meme in the subject line. I kind of regret that. If that's the source of the issue with X, then I wouldn't be surprised, and I wish they would at least respond and let me know what exactly is wrong so I can rectify any wrongdoings. I still hope I can commission them, because I really want to get something special for my boyfriend and I...
With artist Y, I've admired their art in the past, and as they mention in their profile, they are/were open for requests. So, I sent a note just to be sure it was okay to ask, and no response. Later on, I found out that they're doing commissions now, and I'm still interested in getting art from them, so I contacted them again, still with no avail. Here, I truly don't have a clue what's wrong.
Maybe I'm just paranoid about doing something wrong; I couldn't really tell you. All I know is, they've been active in posting and faving, and maybe they're just busy... If so, then I'm an immature idiot who should probably get a life and move on. I just can't make myself drop this until I get some sort of answer, and it's killing me...
With artist X, I've commissioned them before and had a great experience in doing so; They responded fairly promptly and there were absolutely no problems. I contacted them again, this time a more informally. In hindsight, I should have been more professional and not used the stupid "Shut up and take my money" meme in the subject line. I kind of regret that. If that's the source of the issue with X, then I wouldn't be surprised, and I wish they would at least respond and let me know what exactly is wrong so I can rectify any wrongdoings. I still hope I can commission them, because I really want to get something special for my boyfriend and I...
With artist Y, I've admired their art in the past, and as they mention in their profile, they are/were open for requests. So, I sent a note just to be sure it was okay to ask, and no response. Later on, I found out that they're doing commissions now, and I'm still interested in getting art from them, so I contacted them again, still with no avail. Here, I truly don't have a clue what's wrong.
Maybe I'm just paranoid about doing something wrong; I couldn't really tell you. All I know is, they've been active in posting and faving, and maybe they're just busy... If so, then I'm an immature idiot who should probably get a life and move on. I just can't make myself drop this until I get some sort of answer, and it's killing me...
They also may have just filled up and are slowly working down a list and will contact you when they reach you, that would be kinda rude and unprofessional but still very possible, [again, never comissioned anybody so don't know how it works sometimes.]
Hope you get it figured out, I'm sure it's either nothing or that you'll get it all settled.
Analyze the situation: did you say anything that would generally be considered disrespectful to the person/artist? If so, then you're in the wrong and should apologize. If not, and they are showing you disrespect by not responding, then they're in the wrong and should apologize. If they never give you that apology, then they don't respect you. Therefore, they don't deserve your respect in return. Don't let yourself believe that you're the only one who should feel all of the guilt, because that's not fair to you.
Don't let yourself fall into the trap of blaming yourself for anything that doesn't work out when you did nothing wrong. That's a direct route to depression and low self-esteem. I know it's hard to do, and I've struggled with it myself. But it's a worthwhile struggle to stop letting your depressive tendencies get to you, when in reality, it's not your fault. Look at a situation for exactly what it is and make a solid determination of who's really in the wrong. Don't let your depression-prone, self-defeating mind convict yourself of somebody else's problems. With practice, you'll start to develop a habit of this, and you'll be happier once you do. There's no happiness in denying reality.
Thanks, I really needed to hear this. I'm falling into depression again, and I guess this is one side effect of it...