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About Furaffinity, Life, and Me
11 years ago
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So, I'm coming up to about a year being active on FA. I thought it was about time that I asked myself:
Why do I visit this site so often?
Truth be told, I come on FA about 5-10 times a day, even on a working day. It fills me with joy when I see that little "1N" or "1C" at the top right of the screen, even though it only really happens once or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I always make an effort to respond to every single note or comment that I get on here. I admire anyone who shows an interest in me, my commissioned work, or my characters. Yes, that means you. :3 The person who is taking their time to read this journal. I think you're a very good person, and I would love to hug you if I could. :3
As you have probably established now, I am a very affectionate person. I love being noticed, and I love when people respond to my social queues, and responding to social queues given to me. But you know what really makes me sad? When those queues fall short. I'll give you the most common example of what I have experienced on this site:
It's a typical day, I'm browsing the recently-uploaded content on FA, and find that so-called person is uploading pretty artwork of their character or fursona. The artwork is really good, and I'm admiring this character in particular. So I decide to visit so-called person's page, finding more art of this character. I would love to get to know this person more, and learn the story behind this character, what better way to do that other than engaging conversation! So I leave a polite message on so-called person's page, saying something along the lines that I really love the choice of colours, patterns, and how it portrays the personality... etc, etc.
Seven days pass, not a single reply from so-called person. Hmm... Must of been either busy or not online, but let's visit so-called profile and see if there are any signs of activity. Oh look! So-called person responded to a few comments. In fact, every comment but mine.
So yeah. This isn't just a one-off thing. This happens quite often to me, with a different person every time. Now, I understand that there are a lot of creepy people out there who leave creepy comments, so you can expect that not all are inclined to read comments. But... When I see that so-called person has replied to numerous other comments... It's slightly offending, and a little bit rude.
On the other end, in the less-likely occassion that I do get a response back, it's such a good feeling! Yeah! Like, I might actually be able to be friends with so-called person who has an awesome character, or who does awesome artwork!
But... You know what? The only real long-term friends that I have made on this site are the ones who instead engage conversation with me. Those few people you see featured on my profile, each one of them engaged. They left me with a message, which made me really happy. And I responded!
So I've came to the point in realising that if I try too hard to make new friends on this site, I'll just end up with nothing, and continue to get depressed while doing so. I have actually been very depressed for the past few months, and I'm beginning to see why.
But it's hard. Seeing all of this beautiful, lovely art with all of these well-designed, personality-rich characters who I would love to meet in character. It's very hard to not try and get to know them more.
Don't get me wrong though! I know there are some really, really nice people on this site who would make for really good conversation and friendship! But for me, they're just very well hidden... And very hard to find...
So I've came to the conclusion that I will stop coming on Furaffinity.
I may make more commissions in the future, but I'll keep that for when I have more income. I could go into more detail, but that would be a huge topic in itself, and I feel this journal is starting to get a little long.. If you've made it this far, then I applaud you! I think you're fantastic! Even if this was very hastily written and not spell-checked.
If you do wish to still talk with me, you'll find me very much alive on Skype. :3 For those who don't have it, Skype is: dr4gonsou1
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TD;DR: Loneliness and depression fueled by FA, quitting is the best solution for me.
Why do I visit this site so often?
Truth be told, I come on FA about 5-10 times a day, even on a working day. It fills me with joy when I see that little "1N" or "1C" at the top right of the screen, even though it only really happens once or twice a week if I'm lucky.
I always make an effort to respond to every single note or comment that I get on here. I admire anyone who shows an interest in me, my commissioned work, or my characters. Yes, that means you. :3 The person who is taking their time to read this journal. I think you're a very good person, and I would love to hug you if I could. :3
As you have probably established now, I am a very affectionate person. I love being noticed, and I love when people respond to my social queues, and responding to social queues given to me. But you know what really makes me sad? When those queues fall short. I'll give you the most common example of what I have experienced on this site:
It's a typical day, I'm browsing the recently-uploaded content on FA, and find that so-called person is uploading pretty artwork of their character or fursona. The artwork is really good, and I'm admiring this character in particular. So I decide to visit so-called person's page, finding more art of this character. I would love to get to know this person more, and learn the story behind this character, what better way to do that other than engaging conversation! So I leave a polite message on so-called person's page, saying something along the lines that I really love the choice of colours, patterns, and how it portrays the personality... etc, etc.
Seven days pass, not a single reply from so-called person. Hmm... Must of been either busy or not online, but let's visit so-called profile and see if there are any signs of activity. Oh look! So-called person responded to a few comments. In fact, every comment but mine.
So yeah. This isn't just a one-off thing. This happens quite often to me, with a different person every time. Now, I understand that there are a lot of creepy people out there who leave creepy comments, so you can expect that not all are inclined to read comments. But... When I see that so-called person has replied to numerous other comments... It's slightly offending, and a little bit rude.
On the other end, in the less-likely occassion that I do get a response back, it's such a good feeling! Yeah! Like, I might actually be able to be friends with so-called person who has an awesome character, or who does awesome artwork!
But... You know what? The only real long-term friends that I have made on this site are the ones who instead engage conversation with me. Those few people you see featured on my profile, each one of them engaged. They left me with a message, which made me really happy. And I responded!
So I've came to the point in realising that if I try too hard to make new friends on this site, I'll just end up with nothing, and continue to get depressed while doing so. I have actually been very depressed for the past few months, and I'm beginning to see why.
But it's hard. Seeing all of this beautiful, lovely art with all of these well-designed, personality-rich characters who I would love to meet in character. It's very hard to not try and get to know them more.
Don't get me wrong though! I know there are some really, really nice people on this site who would make for really good conversation and friendship! But for me, they're just very well hidden... And very hard to find...
So I've came to the conclusion that I will stop coming on Furaffinity.
I may make more commissions in the future, but I'll keep that for when I have more income. I could go into more detail, but that would be a huge topic in itself, and I feel this journal is starting to get a little long.. If you've made it this far, then I applaud you! I think you're fantastic! Even if this was very hastily written and not spell-checked.
If you do wish to still talk with me, you'll find me very much alive on Skype. :3 For those who don't have it, Skype is: dr4gonsou1
~
TD;DR: Loneliness and depression fueled by FA, quitting is the best solution for me.
And besides you know you can throw me messages on Skype, its always logged in except when its not :P
Besides if you leaves, you will miss out on my arts D: your one i am hoping will comment honestly about it once i start getting it submitted!!!
You're such a sweet Kitty, I really appreciate your compliments, and I'm glad that you like Uskie :D. You're right though - I certainly wouldn't want to miss out on your awesome art! You'll have to send me links through Skype. I don't usually get around to going through every single submission of mine. Looking at it now, it's at 5375, nuked last Wednesday. Yeowch!
i like comments alot and notes as well, though most notes tend to be rp-asking ones, its still nice to see how many people like my characters that much to want a rp with them. i respond to most comments unless they are generic 'thanks for the watch' messages.
and the example of the interest you show in someone's character/picture, via giving a meaningful comment out of excitement to see how the person behind the picture/character is, it reflects what i experience almost every day. just last week i remember commenting on some pictures ive faved as well, because i found the character interesting. next morning i was hoping for a reply, nothing. i go check their page for activity, and they have been active but just not replied to my comment. i wait another day and then i give up on getting a reply.
right now im still waiting for a reply to a note i sent a few days ago before fa went down, the user was active but i didnt get a reply. sometimes i also wonder if notes can vanish or be bugged so i dont get a reply although the user has sent a note, but since i have one or two ongoing conversations via notes that i always receive, its just likely that that user simply didnt reply. i hate that. in the past i wrote a few non-generic long fanmail to some artists on here, which i might have comissioned in future, but they never bothered to reply.
so all in all, i still like getting comments on pictures or journals, but i refuse to comment on popular pics/pics from artists that dont reply. it just isnt worth my time. i have a handful of folks whose pics or journals i check out, i reply to them cuz they are nice people, but people who dont even bother to reply to my comments arent worth my time.
Ahh yes. The good old "Thanks for the watch" messages. Even better when they're pre-written to make it look like they really care, when it's really just a copy-paste. I even make an effort to reply to these comments, just because I want to get a message from them that isn't robotic. Haha.. who am I kidding.
That's actually a pretty good point you raise about notes not going through furaffinity properly. Though one thing I *really* like about this site is how you can read whether or not so-called person has read your note. As for comments, I can imagine the occassion that so-called person might have hit the Nuke Comments button just after your comment was posted, thought it happens far too often to be plausible, especially when your comment is right next to another person's comment that has just been replied to.
You actually made me think harder about this, and I appreciate it. Maybe I should stop giving love to those people who I know who won't give anything back. I would be better off focusing on those people who I know that care.
havent thought about the nuke comments thing yet. i always know the number of messages i had when i come back to check. it definitely happens, but it cant just be by mistake how many replies i dont receive.
and to the last point, definitely do that, youll only regret giving comments to people who dont care about them. ive been commenting way more on newbie-art to give some unknown artists a smile. better than giving a comment on a generic porn pic that already has 40 comments
I hope things are looking up for you and if I could I'd give you a really big hug! You've made my FA experience so much better by just being my friend and taking the time to talk to me when I've had issues. I have the same problem with checking everyday multiple times a day but for me it's more so a 'Oh my art only got 1 fav since I posted it' or 'oh, still no replied or comments from anyone...' So I understand how much of a bummer it can be.
I recently got a job at an animation studio though so I've been more inspired to draw lately! That's the only reason I've been updating more regularly though. People on FA don't give two shits about commenting, faving or replying, I learned that a while ago. I used to be very active on DA but I know too many people IRL who think furries are the scum of the earth so I don't post any of that art over there. On DA however people actually take the time to write proper critiques, reply to comments and show some love! People here honestly don't care. Most of them are here for the porn and want nothing else to do with the place.
It's only because of friends and the unstoppable urge to show off my work that keep me here, certainly not the random people and absolutely not the popular artists. I've stopped thanking for favs because so many of them get removed that I just delete them all before I'm disappointed. For a watch I try to go to their page and comment on their art or character as thank you to show I really am taking the time to appreciate them.
Anyway, I'm going to add you on skype so you don't have to come back here for me XD
I returned because I decided trolls are lame, rude people are lame as well. I rather be on here and make some wonderful friends and keep my wonderful buddies. Mostly you. I love ya Uskie. Your amazing and sweet and very kind. I will never regret meeting you. Anyway, I hope you get to chat with me as much as you can and when I remake my skype, I will add you! Cause i love you!
Dont ever forget you have many who love you too, maybe more that i.