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So my little sister is having sex...
11 years ago
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Apparently my mom and sister went to the doctor a while ago, and the doctor asked my sister if she was sexually active. She said yes.
I don't know how I feel about this. I don't want to be mad or upset, but I can't exactly be happy for her, either. I'm friends with her boyfriend, I worked with him before they even knew each other. But that just makes even weirder for me.
I'm still a virgin, for two reasons: I want to wait until marriage, and I don't know which gender I'm supposed to be attracted to. I'm Christian, so it's kind of important to me. Don't get me wrong, I don't have anything against people being gay. But until I know whether I'm supposed to be attracted to men or women, I'm staying away from sex.
I got off-track there. Anyway, my mom told me not to tell my sister I know. And I just hope I'm at work when she tells Dad. If he blew up because I'm transsexual (which he says is just an excuse to sleep with guys), then I don't even want to be on the same planet as him when my sister says she's having sex.
I don't know how I feel about this. I don't want to be mad or upset, but I can't exactly be happy for her, either. I'm friends with her boyfriend, I worked with him before they even knew each other. But that just makes even weirder for me.
I'm still a virgin, for two reasons: I want to wait until marriage, and I don't know which gender I'm supposed to be attracted to. I'm Christian, so it's kind of important to me. Don't get me wrong, I don't have anything against people being gay. But until I know whether I'm supposed to be attracted to men or women, I'm staying away from sex.
I got off-track there. Anyway, my mom told me not to tell my sister I know. And I just hope I'm at work when she tells Dad. If he blew up because I'm transsexual (which he says is just an excuse to sleep with guys), then I don't even want to be on the same planet as him when my sister says she's having sex.
ultimately what Kay says is the truth, All you can do is hope she is equipped with enough sexual education savvy to play safely.
Most places no longer have just an age of consent. For instance, in Canada:
If you are 12-13, it is legal to have sex with a partner that is no more than 2 years older and doesn't hold a position of authority (babysitter, cop, teacher, etc)
If you are 14-15, it is legal to have sex with a partner that is no more than 5 years older and doesn't hold a position of authority
16 is the age of consent unless they have a position of authority
The US calls these "Romeo and Juliet laws". It's perfectly possible that her relationship is totally legal in her state even if she's technically under the age of consent and he is not.
Why would you be mad or upset, and why not happy? Unless you feel like your sister's being coerced in some way, or is not consenting, it seems like the problem is not what she's doing, but instead; your insecurity around sex, probably as a result of your Christian upbringing.
"and I don't know which gender I'm supposed to be attracted to."
Simple; whichever one(s) you are - if neither, that's fine too.
And I'm more attracted to girls than I am guys, but it's still important to me which I'm supposed to be attracted to.
Again, there is no "supposed" to be attracted to; there's just what you're attracted to. Attraction is subjective.