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Livid.
11 years ago
I received some news this morning that has me absolutely livid.
It's been somewhat rumored in the last week or so (i.e. no confirmation yet) that my rl sister and her husband were separating, and I got confirmation from my mom this morning.
My initial thoughts about the rumors were that my brother in law was just spending too much time with his work (he has a startup biotech firm that takes a lot of his time and requires a lot of travel) and that my sister was just overwhelmed with taking care of their 2 kids. My sister is a little high maintenance perhaps and can be a little bit of a prima dona, so I thought maybe she was over-reacting to things and it would all maybe blow over and things would go back to normal soon enough. But, things are much worse than it seems.
Apparently my brother in law has been having affairs. Plural. Affairs. I'm having trouble typing this right now because my fists keep clenching. I don't know how many or where or with who, but as his business requires him to travel all over the world raising capitol for his startup, it could be anywhere. I don't know when, but I'm assuming that it's been going on for at least a few years as he's been traveling much more in these last 2 years and my sister has been communicating less with us during this time.
Right now, they're renting a separate apartment and they're alternating one week at home with the girls and one week at the apartment. I can't help but think back to Christmas, when we were all together up at our cabin. There were signs of trouble then, but I can only see them now in hindsight. His family all joined us on christmas night and we were all planning to go to his youngest brother's wedding in July. Can't help but wonder if his brothers knew at the time, they're pretty close. I don't know what's going to happen now.
Right now, I want to literally smash his face in. If he were in front of me, somebody would have to pull me off of him, or I'd be going to jail for a long time. I'm not a violent person by nature, never been in a fight, but what this bastard has done to hurt my sister and my nieces is unforgivable. One affair is a mistake, and I think forgivable in the right cicumstances. Multiple affairs is a pattern of behavior and a deliberate attack and disrespect on your spouse. I used to greatly admire my brother in law. His intelligence and drive were inspirational, he was a good dad to his girls, I thought he was a good and loving husband to my sister. They've been married for 15 years, now I wonder how long he's been doing this.
The only consolation of this is that when the divorce inevitably happens, my sister will own half of the bastards company and will probably be set for life.
It's been somewhat rumored in the last week or so (i.e. no confirmation yet) that my rl sister and her husband were separating, and I got confirmation from my mom this morning.
My initial thoughts about the rumors were that my brother in law was just spending too much time with his work (he has a startup biotech firm that takes a lot of his time and requires a lot of travel) and that my sister was just overwhelmed with taking care of their 2 kids. My sister is a little high maintenance perhaps and can be a little bit of a prima dona, so I thought maybe she was over-reacting to things and it would all maybe blow over and things would go back to normal soon enough. But, things are much worse than it seems.
Apparently my brother in law has been having affairs. Plural. Affairs. I'm having trouble typing this right now because my fists keep clenching. I don't know how many or where or with who, but as his business requires him to travel all over the world raising capitol for his startup, it could be anywhere. I don't know when, but I'm assuming that it's been going on for at least a few years as he's been traveling much more in these last 2 years and my sister has been communicating less with us during this time.
Right now, they're renting a separate apartment and they're alternating one week at home with the girls and one week at the apartment. I can't help but think back to Christmas, when we were all together up at our cabin. There were signs of trouble then, but I can only see them now in hindsight. His family all joined us on christmas night and we were all planning to go to his youngest brother's wedding in July. Can't help but wonder if his brothers knew at the time, they're pretty close. I don't know what's going to happen now.
Right now, I want to literally smash his face in. If he were in front of me, somebody would have to pull me off of him, or I'd be going to jail for a long time. I'm not a violent person by nature, never been in a fight, but what this bastard has done to hurt my sister and my nieces is unforgivable. One affair is a mistake, and I think forgivable in the right cicumstances. Multiple affairs is a pattern of behavior and a deliberate attack and disrespect on your spouse. I used to greatly admire my brother in law. His intelligence and drive were inspirational, he was a good dad to his girls, I thought he was a good and loving husband to my sister. They've been married for 15 years, now I wonder how long he's been doing this.
The only consolation of this is that when the divorce inevitably happens, my sister will own half of the bastards company and will probably be set for life.
I really hate hearing stuff like that... I hope things turn out right, at least as much as they can in circumstances like this.
Being unfaithful causes nothing but trouble and I think he should be ashamed of himself, especially considering they have children. It's downright disgraceful.