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10 years ago
im not going to do it anymore.
Like if someone talks to me directly about something I'll chat with them but I'm going to just slowly not start conversations anymore or lend my opinion or thoughts on journals or polls unless specifically requested.
The last couple weeks I've found when I do that I either piss people off, annoy them, or upset them without intending to. Believe me when I say those instances are 100% unintentional and it seems it doesn't matter what I say or how I mean it to come out it still happens. Even if I read it over and think to myself 'yeah that sounds non-upsetting/annoying/ect'. And I can't have people proofreading everything I may want to post to make sure my tone isn't mixed up somehow in a way I'm not seeing.
This isn't referring to any one specific incident but rather just a lot of instances across a spectrum of different people.
I know when I do write I tend to write a lot. I'm going to work on not doing that also. Considering I'm trying to not talk entirely hopefully that won't be much of an issue anymore
It hurt a lot the first time it happened and the feeling has just worsened every subsequent time its happened to the point where I feel like this is the only safe solution to avoid confrontations with....anyone. ._.
I don't like upsetting people; especially when I'm not trying to. It's been really emotionally damaging lately to know I can't talk to anyone without doing so.
So if I seem quiet, or short, or take a long while to respond, or even just plain not online much anymore, it's nothing to do with you.
Like if someone talks to me directly about something I'll chat with them but I'm going to just slowly not start conversations anymore or lend my opinion or thoughts on journals or polls unless specifically requested.
The last couple weeks I've found when I do that I either piss people off, annoy them, or upset them without intending to. Believe me when I say those instances are 100% unintentional and it seems it doesn't matter what I say or how I mean it to come out it still happens. Even if I read it over and think to myself 'yeah that sounds non-upsetting/annoying/ect'. And I can't have people proofreading everything I may want to post to make sure my tone isn't mixed up somehow in a way I'm not seeing.
This isn't referring to any one specific incident but rather just a lot of instances across a spectrum of different people.
I know when I do write I tend to write a lot. I'm going to work on not doing that also. Considering I'm trying to not talk entirely hopefully that won't be much of an issue anymore
It hurt a lot the first time it happened and the feeling has just worsened every subsequent time its happened to the point where I feel like this is the only safe solution to avoid confrontations with....anyone. ._.
I don't like upsetting people; especially when I'm not trying to. It's been really emotionally damaging lately to know I can't talk to anyone without doing so.
So if I seem quiet, or short, or take a long while to respond, or even just plain not online much anymore, it's nothing to do with you.
Though with the internet, if you don't do smilies every sentence you're 'automatically pissed.' and that's really dumb, tbh.
The little squiggly thing, uh, ~ , that thing, can also have a lot to do with sounding sarcastic or playful. I saw someone on tumblr in a fight with someone and every single sentence they typed ended with is that a tilde? that's what we're calling it. but anyway it ended with a tilde and it sounded like they were sarcastic with /literally/ every sentence they sent even though they were trying to be sincere.
I don't know. I mean speaking to another person on the internet is easy in its own way, but there's so much to be missed with body language and tone. It's super unfortunate.
TL;DR -
You've never come across as that way to me, and I'm sorry people have been taking you the wrong way!!
Internet speech is picky.
Just use smilies at the end of everything.