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Been rough
10 years ago
This week's been pretty damn rough on me. Friday I got a hysterical call from my grandmother, involving my grandfather...so I rushed over. Glad I did...because I told her, she needed to call the doctor..she hadn't...so he ended up getting taken to the hospital in an ambulance.
The doctors were seriously afraid it had been a mini stroke, but after MRI's they said it's dementia. It was painful to be in the hospital and ask my grandfather who I was, and him look at me and just go 'Yeah, yeah'
Even more so when me and my grandmother had to keep calming him down, keeping him from getting up and out of the bed, pulling his IVs out, oxygen out...
Even worse when he had to be restrained over night.
But I kept my shit together through the whole ordeal and was walking my grandmother through everything, telling her what she needed to ask, what she needed to know, what was going to happen when my grandfather got out of the hospital. She was in denial, she said to me on the phone 'When he gets better' and I had to tell her 'No, he isn't going to ever be 100% better. He will have moments when he is pretty much a man child.'
He cannot be alone by himself, ever again. The chances of him having a dementia moment, and wandering off is to high. He's going to have to wear adult diapers now, and he'll be having some sort of nurse at the house, not sure if it's going to be 24 hour nurse, or just over the night. These were things I had to really drill into my grandmothers head, specially when she said 'I'll put a baby gate up at the head of the stairs' and I nearly melted down. I said No, you cannot do that. What happens if he wakes up in the middle of the night, doesn't know where he's at..and steps over that gate. It makes it a lot worse and harder, that they are in a two story house, and the bedrooms are upstairs.
So I'm on 24/7 call at the moment. If he falls or my grandmother cannot lift him, I'll be going right over to help...thank god they only live 5 blocks away.
But it was the most hardest and painful thing, watching a family member be taken out on a stretcher and seeing the helpless, look on my grandmothers face.
The Only good thing about the week, was yesterday. My Son's 1st birthday :D It was a how to train your dragon 2 themed party. It was quite awesome.
-Spark
The doctors were seriously afraid it had been a mini stroke, but after MRI's they said it's dementia. It was painful to be in the hospital and ask my grandfather who I was, and him look at me and just go 'Yeah, yeah'
Even more so when me and my grandmother had to keep calming him down, keeping him from getting up and out of the bed, pulling his IVs out, oxygen out...
Even worse when he had to be restrained over night.
But I kept my shit together through the whole ordeal and was walking my grandmother through everything, telling her what she needed to ask, what she needed to know, what was going to happen when my grandfather got out of the hospital. She was in denial, she said to me on the phone 'When he gets better' and I had to tell her 'No, he isn't going to ever be 100% better. He will have moments when he is pretty much a man child.'
He cannot be alone by himself, ever again. The chances of him having a dementia moment, and wandering off is to high. He's going to have to wear adult diapers now, and he'll be having some sort of nurse at the house, not sure if it's going to be 24 hour nurse, or just over the night. These were things I had to really drill into my grandmothers head, specially when she said 'I'll put a baby gate up at the head of the stairs' and I nearly melted down. I said No, you cannot do that. What happens if he wakes up in the middle of the night, doesn't know where he's at..and steps over that gate. It makes it a lot worse and harder, that they are in a two story house, and the bedrooms are upstairs.
So I'm on 24/7 call at the moment. If he falls or my grandmother cannot lift him, I'll be going right over to help...thank god they only live 5 blocks away.
But it was the most hardest and painful thing, watching a family member be taken out on a stretcher and seeing the helpless, look on my grandmothers face.
The Only good thing about the week, was yesterday. My Son's 1st birthday :D It was a how to train your dragon 2 themed party. It was quite awesome.
-Spark
~ Vlywncint
Sorry, just...your situation hits home for me. At least I can wish you congratulations on your son's first birthday. *hugs you tight*