Today I attempted to reach out and talk to someone on here, say hello and see if maybe we can be friends if we had similar interests. Out of respect for them and their decision, I will not mention names because I do not know them and therefore cannot judge them.

Quick version, they said " I get way too many people noting me with the pretense of 'getting to know me' that turns out to be 'yeah, give me free art because we're pals now'. If you'd really like to get to know me, I'll see you around in comments and whatnot. You really can't force friendships. "

Now I know there (sadly) are furs out there that try to use their friendships to get free art, and honestly that is despicable, especially if you know your "friend" is hurting for money and puts so much into their art. I dated an artist and they worked so hard on their art and put so much of themselves into it that to ask them for free art is very low. If the artist wants to do art for you for free that is their personal decision and leave it to them, dont ask for it.

Secondly, do not assume about a person because of past hurts, if the world lived that way no one would leave their rooms and we would be better off with our heads buried in the sand. It is very sad to me that someone would think that of me without even giving me or themselves the chance of a new friend. It also hurts me that that person has been used so much they feel the need to guard themselves that way.

My friends, never be afraid to say hello to someone, or return the gesture, im not saying jump into things blindly, that is truly folly. But do not deny yourself the chance at meeting someone truly amazing, it really is your loss.