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I need some advice (personal identity stuff)
10 years ago
So i'v been confused about my sexuality for a long time now, iv always been attracted physically to women, but iv also found men very attractive as well, additionally iv never been able to get emotionally attached to females and i just don't really have any interest, however i do feel strong feelings for many of my male Friends. and honestly i just feel safe around guys. when i imagine a future with someone i usually imagine a male. so after some research looking at alot of different sources about sexuality i realized i'm Bi sexual, this isnt out of the blue, i thought that this might be how i am for a very very long time but never did any research, i try'ed to deny it for a long time.. Now i don't know what to do, iv been denying myself for a long time, and all my friends (including the ones i have feelings for) think im strait. I'm not really sure where to go from here, Do i keep it a secret, and just keep telling people i'm strait, or do i tell them the truth. honestly i just don't know if i'm brave egnuff even coming out like this was a huge step for me. so if you have any advice please let me know. thanks for your time
Greg you know that no matter what you have my support. I think you should just sit your friends down and tell them. If they really love you for you then they will understand and support you too. Who knows maybe one of your guys friends you like are secretly attracted to you. ^^
The reality is, you don't really have to tell anyone what your sexuality is unless you feel it is important that they know
I only told close friends, but I don't feel the need to announce it to my entire friendgroup. I eventually started dating guys and now that I have a boyfriend, people just put two and two together and work it out generally (Although if people ask, I am honest and just say that I am gay). Initially I thought I was bi-sexual but I think, for me at least, it was due to the fact I had a very homophobic family background and a stepdad who "Beat" the gay out of me for a while, so I was afraid to see guys in the light that I should have been all along.
It's very common though to feel a bit unsure and confused at first though, so you are not alone.