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About being a furry
10 years ago
Hey. Just some thoughts.
I've been interested in furry and anthro characters for as long as I can remember. The kinkier stuff came in later.
I'm a creative person. I've always loved animals, fantasy stories and drawing, so it was pretty natural to like anthro stuff and create my own OCs.
Now.. I'm honestly ashamed about calling myself a furry since it has such a negative feel to it sometimes. Generally people are like "UGH FURRY PORN, WHY DOES IT EXIST? WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?" For a long time I actually denied the fact that I am a furry just to fit better to the general population.. I guess I kinda feel like I'm in a closet, afraid to come out.
I have other nicknames online to keep this one a secret. I don't want all people to know I have this "dark side" that should never be seen. It feels safe here, I can exist as a real person who can express their creativity and feelings as they are.
This is a wonderful community and I feel like I shouldn't feel ashamed about being a furry. But how the hell do you break this to your partner IRL? Like, hey, I really like big drawn boobs on a cow anthro. I'm very conscious about all those general opinions and my boyfriend seems like he's one of those people who look at furries like they are complete weirdos.
Ugh.. :/
I've been interested in furry and anthro characters for as long as I can remember. The kinkier stuff came in later.
I'm a creative person. I've always loved animals, fantasy stories and drawing, so it was pretty natural to like anthro stuff and create my own OCs.
Now.. I'm honestly ashamed about calling myself a furry since it has such a negative feel to it sometimes. Generally people are like "UGH FURRY PORN, WHY DOES IT EXIST? WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE?" For a long time I actually denied the fact that I am a furry just to fit better to the general population.. I guess I kinda feel like I'm in a closet, afraid to come out.
I have other nicknames online to keep this one a secret. I don't want all people to know I have this "dark side" that should never be seen. It feels safe here, I can exist as a real person who can express their creativity and feelings as they are.
This is a wonderful community and I feel like I shouldn't feel ashamed about being a furry. But how the hell do you break this to your partner IRL? Like, hey, I really like big drawn boobs on a cow anthro. I'm very conscious about all those general opinions and my boyfriend seems like he's one of those people who look at furries like they are complete weirdos.
Ugh.. :/
I can't speak for everyone obviously, but I broached the subject with my dearheart in a roundabout fashion. Werewolves. I mentioned I was writing a werewolf story, and she piped up, "Werewolves are sexy." So, we started talking about shape shifters and other mythological creatures... And slowly, I revealed my love of Furries. By then, the distinction between fantasy and fetish had slipped away.
So, maybe find a foothold and play on that first?
Sometimes you just know your "better half" so good that you can trust to tell them anything.. But sometimes, with a new partner, the situation can be very difficult.
The way you have managed to deal with the situation is pretty clever! I like that. Thanks!
And, yes, there is so much already going on in those early stages that something as 'odd' as furrydom is a real challenge to bring up. Just remember to be true to yourself and what you love. Changing those aspects for someone else strips away who ~you~ are. Easier said than done, I know.
I'm just afraid that he'll look at me like I'm the strangest person he's ever seen D:
I think Charles Delint put it best in his story, Where Desert Spirits Crowd the Night:
“Compromise is necessary... so long as you never give up who you are. That isn’t compromise; that’s spiritual death. You have to remain true to yourself.”
Good luck, my friend I wish you the greatest happiness.
Really, really appreciate it.. Thank you.
...not gonna cry not gonna cry not gonna cry...
*hugs* Wish I knew how to help, but it looks like enmesarra's got a good idea there, maybe try to go with that? :o
Thanks for replying, it really means a lot. *hugs*
The 4chan crowd, CSI and MTV made sure we'd be an internet scapegoat for long times to come. x3