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10 years ago
**Disclaimer, this isnt furry related in any way
I wanted to share something that happened to me at work this morning. I am hoping that by sharing my thoughts on it that it will help those that read it live a little happier.
1. Don't it personally. I feel like peoples actions are their own and that we don't have much impact on others actions. No, this does not mean I think of myself as blameless and I am not saying you should shirk responsibility for your actions either. I am trying to convey that if someone mistreats you, or yells at you, or does something off the wall that it likely isn't your fault, it is what they are choosing to do. People make mistakes.
2. Don't make assumptions. This is a big one, and I think it applies alot more often than the first one. Alot of you are probably familiar with the phrase "assumptions make an ass of u and me." As human beings we are social creatures, and we have the need to communicate. Sometimes though, when we don't have the courage to ask questions we are left with gaps in our logic. We have such a need to fill in the gaps we often plug in assumptions and this leads to unhappiness. I'm sure you can look at your own life and find examples of assumptions you made and how they led you to the wrong conclusion while hurting you or someone else in the process. Perhaps next time you can sum up the courage to ask those questions.
It seems so obvious when you're reading them, that I wonder why I have trouble remembering to do these things myself. I'm not pefect, we arent perfect, but we should do what we can to have positive affects on those around us and make the world a better place.
Thanks for reading,
Siku
I wanted to share something that happened to me at work this morning. I am hoping that by sharing my thoughts on it that it will help those that read it live a little happier.
1. Don't it personally. I feel like peoples actions are their own and that we don't have much impact on others actions. No, this does not mean I think of myself as blameless and I am not saying you should shirk responsibility for your actions either. I am trying to convey that if someone mistreats you, or yells at you, or does something off the wall that it likely isn't your fault, it is what they are choosing to do. People make mistakes.
2. Don't make assumptions. This is a big one, and I think it applies alot more often than the first one. Alot of you are probably familiar with the phrase "assumptions make an ass of u and me." As human beings we are social creatures, and we have the need to communicate. Sometimes though, when we don't have the courage to ask questions we are left with gaps in our logic. We have such a need to fill in the gaps we often plug in assumptions and this leads to unhappiness. I'm sure you can look at your own life and find examples of assumptions you made and how they led you to the wrong conclusion while hurting you or someone else in the process. Perhaps next time you can sum up the courage to ask those questions.
It seems so obvious when you're reading them, that I wonder why I have trouble remembering to do these things myself. I'm not pefect, we arent perfect, but we should do what we can to have positive affects on those around us and make the world a better place.
Thanks for reading,
Siku
You've posted two rules that everyone should live by.
In the first case, if the person is receptive, I will correct them. However, sometimes people are so convinced that they know the "right" story, they won't listen to the truth. I only take it personally when it's a direct attack on my honor or it affects me directly in some way that screws me over.
As for the second, I pretty much go straight to the horses mouth.. It keeps me from making a fool of myself.. And I don't need any extra help with that!!
I wish I could take credit for it but I learned them from a book I read a few years ago called The Four Agreements. http://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Agre...../dp/1878424319
You might enjoy it, I really did. Though it sounds like you've already got most of it down pat. ^^
They're good rules to live by. A lot of it is just plain old common sense.. And I qualify for the old part..
It's important not to be alone!