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Depressing realtalk (Drug Woes)
10 years ago
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HOKAI, I didn't want to do this, but I feel like it might help strengthen my resolve somewhat to go over current events. Yesterday was bad. Like... ok. Let me take it from the top.
Those of you who have listened to me ramble inanely on stream have probably heard about my drug addict sister, in one way or another. Well we had another episode with her yesterday. I talked about it a little on Twitter, but I feel like I need to go into greater detail -- and remind myself what I need to do.
SO at the moment, My grandmother's car is in the shop, and I'm driving my mother around due to her health issues. So we pick up my Grandma to bring her to pick her car up, and then we pick up my sister because she needs to talk with someone about getting financial aid for an upcoming surgery to remove some faulty equipment from her back (shattered it jumping off a bridge -- a different story). My sister had only just recently gotten Muscle Relaxers and some Painkiller Patches of sorts to alleviate some of her supposed problems with the whole, broken back powdered feet thing rebuilt with bones from her thigh thing. All of which cost a grand total of at least 320$ which she had to borrow from friends, because our family has since stopped paying for this stuff.
The REAL reason she paid so much money to go to pain management and get them, was to sell them off in some stupid ploy to make more money? But that didn't happen. She's driving, because she's pushy and we're in a hurry so we're not up for arguing, and she seems fine at first. Than she starts swerving off the road, spacing out at the wheel, riding excessively close to the cars in front of us, it's a nightmare. We split up so that i can help Gram get her car and some affairs in order, while my sister takes mom to take care of a doctors visit, and I pray Mom lives through the trip.
Meet back up at Granny's place later. Mom's since taken the wheel away from my sister (thank god), and we go to drop her off at her place. Mom wants My sister to come with us to her house, because she is -SO- messed up at this point, we're concerned we might have to bring her to the emergency room. Sister protests, and I know if we do that, she'll steal all of my mom's prescriptions, and we'll have to take mom to the emergency room again. So I loan my Sister my phone -- because during her drug induced stupor, she lost the new phone we just bought for her -- which I'll pick up later today, so we can call and check on her. Mom also takes away the meds she just got (what's left of them at least), and we head back to the car to leave.
Whereupon we hear my sister slap the shit out of her dog hard enough for us to hear through the house, by the car in the driveway. So we take the Dog with us too. (Which is why I'm up so late typing this out). On the way back, it's revealed she's taken 60 (out of 90) of the muscle relaxers in the past 5 days, lathered herself with at least 4 of the painkiller patches (out of 10 - with each 1 patch supposedly lasting half a week) - , and obtained some other drugs from her boyfriend, whom we had assumed was mostly clean.
So I'm going back there today to pick up my phone ( and maybe drop off the Dog and Meds, though I'll try to talk mom into hanging onto those ), and have a little chat with her. It's my house she's living in -- I'm staying with Mom to help her out, but I'm still paying the bills on it. If I see her fucked up on -ANYTHING-, I'm kicking her onto the street and filing a restraining order. If -ANYONE- besides her or myself is in that house, I'm calling the police to remove them.
Thinking about it... I shouldn't even be that nice. Just, kick her out onto the street now. ;x I'll talk it over with mom tomorrow, but yeah.
Apologies for just kind of dumping this here. Going over it to post might help me stick with the decision. Hardest part about these sort of family drug problems -- you really want them to do well and get better, because they're family... But they'll just use and abuse everyone and everything they can in the long run ;x
Those of you who have listened to me ramble inanely on stream have probably heard about my drug addict sister, in one way or another. Well we had another episode with her yesterday. I talked about it a little on Twitter, but I feel like I need to go into greater detail -- and remind myself what I need to do.
SO at the moment, My grandmother's car is in the shop, and I'm driving my mother around due to her health issues. So we pick up my Grandma to bring her to pick her car up, and then we pick up my sister because she needs to talk with someone about getting financial aid for an upcoming surgery to remove some faulty equipment from her back (shattered it jumping off a bridge -- a different story). My sister had only just recently gotten Muscle Relaxers and some Painkiller Patches of sorts to alleviate some of her supposed problems with the whole, broken back powdered feet thing rebuilt with bones from her thigh thing. All of which cost a grand total of at least 320$ which she had to borrow from friends, because our family has since stopped paying for this stuff.
The REAL reason she paid so much money to go to pain management and get them, was to sell them off in some stupid ploy to make more money? But that didn't happen. She's driving, because she's pushy and we're in a hurry so we're not up for arguing, and she seems fine at first. Than she starts swerving off the road, spacing out at the wheel, riding excessively close to the cars in front of us, it's a nightmare. We split up so that i can help Gram get her car and some affairs in order, while my sister takes mom to take care of a doctors visit, and I pray Mom lives through the trip.
Meet back up at Granny's place later. Mom's since taken the wheel away from my sister (thank god), and we go to drop her off at her place. Mom wants My sister to come with us to her house, because she is -SO- messed up at this point, we're concerned we might have to bring her to the emergency room. Sister protests, and I know if we do that, she'll steal all of my mom's prescriptions, and we'll have to take mom to the emergency room again. So I loan my Sister my phone -- because during her drug induced stupor, she lost the new phone we just bought for her -- which I'll pick up later today, so we can call and check on her. Mom also takes away the meds she just got (what's left of them at least), and we head back to the car to leave.
Whereupon we hear my sister slap the shit out of her dog hard enough for us to hear through the house, by the car in the driveway. So we take the Dog with us too. (Which is why I'm up so late typing this out). On the way back, it's revealed she's taken 60 (out of 90) of the muscle relaxers in the past 5 days, lathered herself with at least 4 of the painkiller patches (out of 10 - with each 1 patch supposedly lasting half a week) - , and obtained some other drugs from her boyfriend, whom we had assumed was mostly clean.
So I'm going back there today to pick up my phone ( and maybe drop off the Dog and Meds, though I'll try to talk mom into hanging onto those ), and have a little chat with her. It's my house she's living in -- I'm staying with Mom to help her out, but I'm still paying the bills on it. If I see her fucked up on -ANYTHING-, I'm kicking her onto the street and filing a restraining order. If -ANYONE- besides her or myself is in that house, I'm calling the police to remove them.
Thinking about it... I shouldn't even be that nice. Just, kick her out onto the street now. ;x I'll talk it over with mom tomorrow, but yeah.
Apologies for just kind of dumping this here. Going over it to post might help me stick with the decision. Hardest part about these sort of family drug problems -- you really want them to do well and get better, because they're family... But they'll just use and abuse everyone and everything they can in the long run ;x
By this point they've effectively kicked her out of the house ("If you show up here, we will call the police to take you away"), except that their mom still cares to some degree (much like yours, I believe), which makes things a bit difficult, and she was forcibly put into a mental hospital/rehab place for a bit that didn't work out at all, and... all that good stuff. It's not pretty.
I can't speak firsthand about a situation like this, so don't necessarily take my "advice" to heart, but it would seem that restraining orders, police arrests, and so on are the only option for a situation this bad... Surely it's not easy because she's still technically family, but she's not going to change and is clearly dangerous to be around...
Hope you can get through this somehow ;_;