So... hi! I can't weigh in with any authority since I don't really know you, but for what it's worth: sometimes it's a relief to have friends who are good conversation starters. While I like to think I'm pretty friendly, I'm also rather shy, so getting the ball rolling can be difficult for me. (Given that there are a lot of shy folks in this fandom, this is probably a common problem.) In other words, if you have shy friends then you may be doing them a favor by initiating discussion. To be honest I'm trying to get better about approaching people and talking to them, since that's something that's hard for me.

If that helps at all :)