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Counselor says i don't have a sex addiction
10 years ago
So i saw my doctor today and i showed her the porn i jerk off to. what was cool, no judgement. in fact, she said it was healthy for me to do so. when i asked her if she thought i had a sex addiction, she said that i didn't even meet the qualifications for addiction. she explained them to me and it is true. for one, having a sex drive is not wrong so long as it doesn't stop me from functioning. she also said that if im not harming anyone while looking at the porn then there should be no issue.
when i got home my parents asked me what was said. i summed it up as i don't have an addiction. i should have kept my mouth shut, because they started accusing me of manipulating my doctor. also, they are calling for me to see a christian doctor. while im not opposed to having a christian doctor, im opposed to the sudden call for one. yet another example of moving the goal post. its now a joke in how my parents are treating me. im able to separate my sexual needs from real life. but they still see a need to cruch anything they see.
i wonder what it would be like if my folks saw the same doctor.
oh and lastly, im going to be examined for mental and emotional abuse.
when i got home my parents asked me what was said. i summed it up as i don't have an addiction. i should have kept my mouth shut, because they started accusing me of manipulating my doctor. also, they are calling for me to see a christian doctor. while im not opposed to having a christian doctor, im opposed to the sudden call for one. yet another example of moving the goal post. its now a joke in how my parents are treating me. im able to separate my sexual needs from real life. but they still see a need to cruch anything they see.
i wonder what it would be like if my folks saw the same doctor.
oh and lastly, im going to be examined for mental and emotional abuse.
Although, you could ask them to either join you in a session or have a private session to at least meet the counselor, get to know her. Just suggest it in a way that it would be beneficial to not judge until you have met someone because it might say more about themselves than about the counselor or you.
As for causing them suffering, I wouldn't go that far, I am not that type of person to inflict it, I just hate people who fail to understand basic reasoning and critical thinking, thus one of the reasons I generally have issues with religion.
I feel a lot of parents like yours just don't think about it because they were raised a certain way and "turned out fine" but it also instills the idea of expectation to be obedient and not questions anything.
That's all I have to say. These people won't stop until they get what they want.