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Question: What counts as genderfluid to you?
9 years ago
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I'm just curious.
Also, sorry for the large journal. ;n;
I mean, I guess there are times, especially today, where I wonder if I could even classify myself as genderfluid without knowing for certainty. I don't want to give that label a bad name by any means, but....
I guess what I'm trying to say is, there are days where I wish I was a man. Sometimes I wonder how I would look if I was a man.
I do have massive, and I mean MASSIVE penis envy, enough to the point where if I see a dick (IRL, artwork, whatever), I start to get a little jealous and upset because, well, I don't have a penis. I sometimes use a toy of mine and pretend stroking it off like it's my own, but it's not exactly the same.
But at the same time, I know for fact that I am a woman, I have a female body and anatomy, and while I am content with it for the most part, there's just that thought in the back of my head, wondering what it would be like to be a man.
I have had people (by accident, I'm assuming) call me 'sir' at my old job, and honestly, it never really bothered me. I actually liked it when I was called sir.
I know I'm not transgender for fact, because I have no desire to try and go through the process of transitioning.
Yet, I wonder if these feelings are just completely natural and feelings that everyone has at one point. I mean, my boyfriend Nolo9 has his character as a male-herm intersex character (no breasts, but vagina and penis), and there are times he thinks it'd be easier to be a girl but he knows that he is male through and through.
I just don't know if I should even call myself genderfluid. I think it'd fit me pretty well, but at the same time I just don't know....
Thoughts?
Also, sorry for the large journal. ;n;
I mean, I guess there are times, especially today, where I wonder if I could even classify myself as genderfluid without knowing for certainty. I don't want to give that label a bad name by any means, but....
I guess what I'm trying to say is, there are days where I wish I was a man. Sometimes I wonder how I would look if I was a man.
I do have massive, and I mean MASSIVE penis envy, enough to the point where if I see a dick (IRL, artwork, whatever), I start to get a little jealous and upset because, well, I don't have a penis. I sometimes use a toy of mine and pretend stroking it off like it's my own, but it's not exactly the same.
But at the same time, I know for fact that I am a woman, I have a female body and anatomy, and while I am content with it for the most part, there's just that thought in the back of my head, wondering what it would be like to be a man.
I have had people (by accident, I'm assuming) call me 'sir' at my old job, and honestly, it never really bothered me. I actually liked it when I was called sir.
I know I'm not transgender for fact, because I have no desire to try and go through the process of transitioning.
Yet, I wonder if these feelings are just completely natural and feelings that everyone has at one point. I mean, my boyfriend Nolo9 has his character as a male-herm intersex character (no breasts, but vagina and penis), and there are times he thinks it'd be easier to be a girl but he knows that he is male through and through.
I just don't know if I should even call myself genderfluid. I think it'd fit me pretty well, but at the same time I just don't know....
Thoughts?
i mean, everyone's going to be jealous of something they can't readily have.
Sometimes i'll look in the mirror and think, "Huh, maybe if I had a chest, some nicer hips,
and less baggage hanging downstairs, I bet i'd be pretty damn hot." xD Maybe that's just me. x]
I'm not even sure how to classify someone who feels they're genderfluid, I'd kinda hope people don't need labels
to fit into society with their own little groups of like-minded individuals; like someone needs some justification
for their feelings. I kinda feel like people can just feel unique, and just themselves, because no one can be you, except you. :3
So (on my own opinion) just don't worry about it and just go about your life as you do. ^w^
You see, it's a matter of feeling. Feeling like you wanted badly to be something else alone is not enough.
A real genderfluid mind has overcome physical bounds, and just perceives male and female as different ways of thought and behavior.
In this way, you can wake up and feel like you are male or female, not just wish you where.
The point is that first you must understand that sexuality, and overall gender (in term of minds, of course biological gender is fixated) is not something related to your body at all.
Your mind is not your body, this is what philosophy has been teaching us all along.
With this in mind, then it's easy to discern someone that perceives the other sex as a pair of genitals and someone that perceives that as a mental pattern.
If you think sex is just a matter of organs, then you can be a trans, and that will be enough.
If you think about sex as a neuronal pattern, then you can be genderfluid, and you'll kinda feel like a male even without having the right set of genitals. Moreover, you'll be able to be in between. It's just a matter of behavior after all.
I really didn't think of it in this manner, which immensely helps out with my own conundrum, in all honesty.
Sorry if I'm not typing so much back in return, woke up and I can't think too well. xD
Thanks for answering my question.
Either way, it's still confusing for me in a way, and I don't need to label myself, it was just something that kept popping up here and there. I thought too much of the physicality of it, and very little of the mentality.
The reality is that sexual organs develop AFTER sex is genetically selected.
More than that, a sexed mind is what developed after the organ itself matured, so the ontogenesis of sex itself is something slow and very subordinated to a lot of factors.
This is why I separate mentality from body.
A penis does not mean XY (you know, it seems Johanne D'Arc actually had XY genes, even if she had a female body... But that's another point).
Female behavioral patterns do not mean actually having a vagina.
That's where my point arises.