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Having so many problems! Can't control it! HELP/SPREAD!
9 years ago
Teacher.....or I just claim he is since he has helped me so much--> 
Uncle......
Uncle......
Ok! At my house, we are literally at the peak of the worst. I love all my family, bt my oldest bro who lives in the house can do whatever he wants and tells mom what she wants to hear. My sister is now a vegan and my mom thinks she's crazy because now she suddenly plays video games too since her boyfriend does, my other brother who is younger than my Sis is never home and doesn't have anything to do with the house escort going to work and sleeping. My next brother who is next to me in age is just there and really has anger issues. And I'm the youngest and mom doesn't trust me for anything because I act hyper and immature at times. She never sees the good in me! And since I'm the youngest of the whole family if 7 brothers/sisters, I have to get punished for everything they do!
To start off, mom said I can't play sports this year because she thinks I hate sports. I don't think watching pros play helps me. It doesn't. She says I don't care because I don't watch it. And since everyone in the family loves basketball, and I like soccer/hockey more, she's now saying I use sports as a social event. I got the most improved in varsity basketball last year. Most spirited in 8th grade JV, most defensive in JV, and in soccer, I got, Most improved 7th and 8th grade, and most defensive in 10th grade.
She still says I hate sports or claims it. And now she says I can't do ANYTHING! at all this school yesr because she wants my grades to be straight A's cuz I'm a senior this year in high school. Sports made my grades better because it gave me a reason to study more. And encouraged me to study more!
So now, everyday my Sister takes me to work, I talk to her about what to do. My mom wants everyone out the house because of personal I can't say. She said she wants me to stay because I'm 17 and has to, but why am I being punished for stuff that involves my family!
And since I just got back from work, I have no idea anymore! My Manager told me to stock shelves, but as a Courtesy Clerk, that isn't my job. He didn't want to do it because he was gonna clock out. I was suppose to work til 11, but the schedule said 10. I got off at ten so I don't know whats gonna happen. I got in the car and my sister said I'm freezing too much to the point where I'm crying for no reason and thinking about Mom and my manager. I don't want to leave a job unfinished, but my mom said if it something you're not suppose to do, then say no, or don't do it. Now that it happened, I was really guilty on what to do or say. My co-worker, who was on break the same time I was, said the people here are taking advantage of me. Solely because I'm the youngest, and the lowest of all positions. She said don't let them get to you. I can't help it if I wanna do whatever my manager tells me, but I quit what he told me 2 mins after doing it. I hate thinking about it but Everytime i just start to cry and think of what I did. He told me to say til 11 which is worse. I have no idea what to do.
I need serious help and advice from ANYBODY right now. I don't care who, just need lots of help, advice, opinions on what I should do. Please spread the word because this is a the heaviest crisis I've ever been in ever. Please spread in journals or however you can.
Talk to me on Skype or wherever if you wanna know how I really feel. I just don't see me ever being how I was before now that I work at Farm Fresh.
To start off, mom said I can't play sports this year because she thinks I hate sports. I don't think watching pros play helps me. It doesn't. She says I don't care because I don't watch it. And since everyone in the family loves basketball, and I like soccer/hockey more, she's now saying I use sports as a social event. I got the most improved in varsity basketball last year. Most spirited in 8th grade JV, most defensive in JV, and in soccer, I got, Most improved 7th and 8th grade, and most defensive in 10th grade.
She still says I hate sports or claims it. And now she says I can't do ANYTHING! at all this school yesr because she wants my grades to be straight A's cuz I'm a senior this year in high school. Sports made my grades better because it gave me a reason to study more. And encouraged me to study more!
So now, everyday my Sister takes me to work, I talk to her about what to do. My mom wants everyone out the house because of personal I can't say. She said she wants me to stay because I'm 17 and has to, but why am I being punished for stuff that involves my family!
And since I just got back from work, I have no idea anymore! My Manager told me to stock shelves, but as a Courtesy Clerk, that isn't my job. He didn't want to do it because he was gonna clock out. I was suppose to work til 11, but the schedule said 10. I got off at ten so I don't know whats gonna happen. I got in the car and my sister said I'm freezing too much to the point where I'm crying for no reason and thinking about Mom and my manager. I don't want to leave a job unfinished, but my mom said if it something you're not suppose to do, then say no, or don't do it. Now that it happened, I was really guilty on what to do or say. My co-worker, who was on break the same time I was, said the people here are taking advantage of me. Solely because I'm the youngest, and the lowest of all positions. She said don't let them get to you. I can't help it if I wanna do whatever my manager tells me, but I quit what he told me 2 mins after doing it. I hate thinking about it but Everytime i just start to cry and think of what I did. He told me to say til 11 which is worse. I have no idea what to do.
I need serious help and advice from ANYBODY right now. I don't care who, just need lots of help, advice, opinions on what I should do. Please spread the word because this is a the heaviest crisis I've ever been in ever. Please spread in journals or however you can.
Talk to me on Skype or wherever if you wanna know how I really feel. I just don't see me ever being how I was before now that I work at Farm Fresh.
KAPP'N'......
Secondly, if you're not responsible for something that isn't a part of your job, you should not get in trouble for not doing it. Someone else is responsible for that task. (And I'm assuming by "quit" you mean clocked out at the end of your shift)
In regards to the home situation, I don't have any good advice to offer about it because quite frankly, I'm not sure what can be done about it.. The only thing I can think of is for you to think on your future plans, and try and focus on how you'll achieve them, not just to get your mind off the situation, but to also help you get away from this potential situation in the future.. but that's the best I got.
I don't think I should aim for pleasing others, but to please myself and others. I am happy to know you give up time to help someone who is immature and extremely loud/obnoxious at times. It means a lot. And I won't try to always please you, pleasing you is making you think I'm obsessed with you. I mean, I do like who you are because you accept me unlike others, but also....I do believe you see some maturity in me since we first met.
Thanks, Rogue Wolf! I'm gonna try to be extra great and listen to you and Pyro's advice, and also my sister's.
And yes, your maturity has grown and shown growth since we first chatted, but that doesn't mean you never had any or was lacking any in the first place. However, understand that I'm not seeing you as an obsessed person with me or anything like that. I've been seeing this as you trusting me to help you feel better, and honestly I am doing my best to keep your trust and ensure you that I do wish for you to feel better through your rough times.
I'm more than sure your siblings will continue to provide you with loving advice to help you feel better. I definitely recommend you continue letting them in to help you out buddy.
*Tackle hugs* Awesome! I leveled up!
Be the "go-to" person at work. If they boss wants you to do something out of your area of responsibility - do it. You are making money so don't worry about whatever work you're assigned. Other higher-ups will notice what's going on eventually and you'll look good and your boss will look bad.
Companies and bosses would much rather have a so-so employee who says "Yes, sir!" and starts the job rather than a great employee who either doesn't show up every day or argues with every decision.
The deck is stacked against you automatically, so just work cheerfully, gain experience and goodwill, then look for another job but you should be able to get a good recommendation from the folks you worked so hard for.
*Smooch!*