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Real Talk about Relationships
9 years ago
I see this a lot on dA and FA and it honestly makes me sick
In a relationship if you:
-force your partner to stay with you/not want to leave you
-guilt trip them into getting what you want or to not leave you (like using suicide or self harm to scare them)
-threaten them
-tell them who they can and can't be friends with/control who they befriend
-turn the relationship into it only being about you and caring for you
-lash out at them or hit them for doing something you didn't "like"
-only being together for their art, money, body, or for sex only
-use your partner as some form of object to vent on and get rid of stress on
-hurt them in any way and say things like "sorry i wont do it again" and proceed to hurt them again
-only make your emotions and opinions matter and not care for your partners
-guilt tripping them for attention
-anything like the above ^^^ the list can go on for hours
Congrats you're some form of an abuser/emotional abuser :^)
and you should probably rethink and fix your ways
because you don't deserve a partner if you treat them like shit/nothing!!!
Being in a relationship is about supporting each other, helping each other, and basically making things work with each other. IF YOU can't even support someone else then you shouldn't be in a relationship.
A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ONE SIDED AND ONLY ABOUT CATERING YOUR NEEDS. THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.
In a relationship if you:
-force your partner to stay with you/not want to leave you
-guilt trip them into getting what you want or to not leave you (like using suicide or self harm to scare them)
-threaten them
-tell them who they can and can't be friends with/control who they befriend
-turn the relationship into it only being about you and caring for you
-lash out at them or hit them for doing something you didn't "like"
-only being together for their art, money, body, or for sex only
-use your partner as some form of object to vent on and get rid of stress on
-hurt them in any way and say things like "sorry i wont do it again" and proceed to hurt them again
-only make your emotions and opinions matter and not care for your partners
-guilt tripping them for attention
-anything like the above ^^^ the list can go on for hours
Congrats you're some form of an abuser/emotional abuser :^)
and you should probably rethink and fix your ways
because you don't deserve a partner if you treat them like shit/nothing!!!
Being in a relationship is about supporting each other, helping each other, and basically making things work with each other. IF YOU can't even support someone else then you shouldn't be in a relationship.
A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ONE SIDED AND ONLY ABOUT CATERING YOUR NEEDS. THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS.
It leaves emotional scars and damages you for life.
Though, I have gotten good at spotting red flags
and yeah same with the red flags.
Sometimes it's even friendships, ESPECIALLYYY the guilt tripping.
It really fuckin hurts.