So I found out recently that a friend of mine got involved with the guy I got a restraining order against. Yes, that guy, the one that's never been named publicly. Now you'd think 'okay, then just don't hang out with that person when the other guy is around.' Nope. That's not how restraining orders work in the US. Can't speak to other countries, but in the US when you get a restraining order, they place a restraining order on both of you, and treat the person who got the order with the same degree of innocence as the person it was placed on. That is to say, none. So by mandate, they can't contact me, they can't send me stuff, they can't be X meters from me knowingly, knowingly attend meetings or events I'm at, or solicit known associates or family members....And it goes the same way for me. Most of that ends up being common sense, but....That last bit pretty much rounds out to 'you can't hang out with people who are friends of said person.'

Which means to keep the restraining order against the guy that threatened me, I have to stop hanging out with people I know are friends with him or face the possibility of the order being turned back against me. So I get the great task of telling people I like that I can't be friends with them anymore, because some guy decided to stalk me and threaten me.....Of course some people have already said 'just get them to stop being friends with him.' No...I'm not that guy, and I never want to be that guy. He may be a complete tool, but I'm not going to stoop to his level and try and take his friends away. I rather just back off, even it if ends up hurting me a lot. And my friends...It really, really sucks, because I liked that guy a lot. Enough to call him a close friend and plan stuff with 'em. Now because of shitty laws and a guy that won't take no for an answer, I have to be a villain again and ruin his day. There's a reason I have so few friends....

Iunno......I just find this whole thing to be utter bullshit. First I'm pushed out because I won't talk to my first stalker, then I'm kicked out of the place I hang out with my friends because some prick doesn't like being blocked and has friends higher up? And now to keep the order that's supposedly protecting me from more of his attacks, I have to tear apart my social life.....I just want to know when this ends...