As humans we formulate opinions, and we work to fit in where we are, with the people we find ourselves living and working with. Weather it is school, work, or military, we need to fit into the places we find ourselves. Sometimes people are genuinely working with the best interest of the group in mind, and still do great harm to some individuals. They let their perception of the value of the end, they have in mind justify the means they employ to get there.
To get along in a society, we often have to balance our own self-actualization with what the larger groups we are in, will tolerate. So far there is no need for a malicious intent to do great harm. There simply needs to be a lack of empathy, a familiar to perceive the harm of our actions. One is harmed because they self-regulate to fit a mold not of their own making so the larger community will not be uncomfortable. The other is harmed because the larger community enforces its norms upon its members. Some means of expression and self-actualization do a degree of harm no society can tolerate. Murder is not a thing any society can easily tolerate. But not many behaviors or expressions rise or better said “sink” to that level. Most behaviors and expressions can be accommodated.
I have been harmed by the norms of society, and that I know this buffers my responses. There is nothing in the religions of Abraham to condemn Gay or BDSM or Trans it just is not there. So when someone tells me they cannot accept my life choices because of their religious convictions, I am not convinced. And the reason is, because they are using someone else’s interpretation of the text. I will leave it to other scholars to pars the text of Paul in Romans 1. For my part I will take a breath or two and ask … If my expression is harmful, how is it harmful and how are you harmed? If you are not harmed than what is your responsibility to chastise me built on? I am NOT interested in any religious arguments not backed up by something outside of religion. Circular arguments are not convincing.