Boyfriend
9 years ago
General
Can you believe it? After years and years of being single, I may have finally landed myself a boyfriend! He lives in town, works in finance, and has a great sense of humor. He's a 6'6" and 260 lb. heavy set guy, but it's more of a muscle chub look which I like. Brown hair, beard, and some chest hair. He even has a tattoo of Max from Where the Wild Things Are on his shoulder. We've been on three dates, and things seem to be going really well.
There is one big problem though. He's not a furry.
I'm sure he's aware of furries online. I don't run around in suit, go to many conventions, or hang lewd furry porn on my wall, but being furry is still a huge part of my life and I know that if we get serious, he's gonna find out at some point. Especially if I'm drawing three-foot dicked muscle tigers all the time.
So, how do I introduce him to the fandom without scaring him off? :/
There is one big problem though. He's not a furry.
I'm sure he's aware of furries online. I don't run around in suit, go to many conventions, or hang lewd furry porn on my wall, but being furry is still a huge part of my life and I know that if we get serious, he's gonna find out at some point. Especially if I'm drawing three-foot dicked muscle tigers all the time.
So, how do I introduce him to the fandom without scaring him off? :/
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Start with the inoffensive material - you're an artist, you take commissions, you're into blablabla, yeah?
If he finds this ok, you can start to divulge that you're a porn artist. Who knows? If he develops a fursona of his own you can doodle a pic of you both :3
It's really easy. If the GUY HAS A TATTOO of Max from where the fucking WILD THINGS ARE then he is Proooooooooooooooooooooobably a furry. And if you asked and he said he wasn't? He PROBABLY said he wasn't because he didn't want you to lose interest in him.
Even if thats not the case. Don't make a big deal out of it. Mention that it's also a source of income for you, and just say you're not one of the 'creepy weird furries' tada. You're done.
It's only going to be a big deal if you propose it ins uch a way as to make it one.
The other advice you gave was perfect, Dineegla and I hope it leads to lots of art from Artizek of the two of them getting hot and heavy.
start with something tame like Zootopia, inch it towards beefy guys like Bogo
let him know about your favorite animals, which is in your case tigers
from there just inch it forward about your furry fandom
Second, like the majority here, break it to him gently, but i would concentrate on the fact you are an animal lover and love to draw, even if we know hou love big ****** tigers x3 .
Good luck if it comes to revealing your furrier, beefier side to him.
CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BIG TIGER :D :D :D BE VERY HAPPY WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND AND ENJOY TOGETHER
my better wishes for you two :)
second point:
give some time before explain him what the fandom is.
i explained to my parents the fandom telling them that is a subculture that likes any art manifestation around
the anthropomorphic animals (animals with human features), telling them what's actually the fandom and putting
emphasis that is not exclusively pornographic or fetishist. the understood very well.
but first at all give him time.
As for the situation, everyone else has pretty much given good advice. All I can say is to agree that going into it slow is best...and that even if he somehow isn't a furry or amenable to them (though with that tattoo it'd be hard to believe he wasn't), if you show him you're not nutty (or can help him see the appeal of what you do) he should be okay with it. If he comes to care for you enough to be with you for the long haul, he'll accept that you have these interests. Especially if it's stressed you are in it for the art and money as much as anything else.
I would say start off by showing him pictures of furry creatures that people can recognize anywhere, like werewolves or something like that. Once he's used to the idea, slowly move your way deeper into the mystical world we all know on the internet. By slowly, I believe it would be best to show him "safe for work" pictures of furrows fully clothed, or show them in fantasy scenarios. That's how I got into the community, and it seemed to work for my parents and friends when I came out to them that I was a furry, so it could work for your boyfriend as well. That's all the advice I can give at the moment. Hope it makes sense in some way.
Step 2: Find a secluded spot in a nearby forest. Create a bonfire - nice and romantic. Have your fursuit in a duffel-bag, along with the spare.
Step 3: Call your boyfriend, tell him where you are, and inform him to bring various romantic items of your shared interests.
Step 4: When he arrives, stare at him while you don your fursuit - do not break eye contact, and do not talk. At this time your friends, who had been hiding in the underbrush, begin to approach while chanting "One of Us!" ever-louder. He should be rooted to the spot in
horrorarousal by the time you finish putting on your suit, and your friends should have formed an impenetrable furry ring around you.Source: Personal experience.