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Venting *Do not read if you do not want to hear me rant*
9 years ago
Not sure why, but I think I am the calming force in my house. Ever since I left for college in August, the stability of my tiny family has spiraled down into a black hole. My family consists of my one sister, 17, and my two parents.
My sister is a handful, like any other teenage girl, and tends to get on my parents nerves. Normally she bothers me, but now she seems to be going after them.
Recently, my sis got denied from the same University as I did. She only got into a community college and some other small ones that she did not want to go to. She did not seem upset when she told me, but she was completely destroyed. This anger was put forth towards the people around her, specifically my parents. She continued to ask for money to please her needs because she wanted pity for her failure. My parents did pity her for a bit, but up until yesterday, they snapped on her.
I got a call today from her and could not understand but a few words because she was crying so hard. I hate to say it, but my sister is selfish, ignorant, and lazy about life. She has yet to get a true reality check about it and I plan on giving it to her after her soccer game tonight. She kept on going about how my parents were "mean" because they did not let her open her Mac Computer for Christmas early. She argued it was for her 7 page paper, but we also have two fully functional other computers in the house. My parents went off on her and she is now an emotional wreck.
The thing is, my parents work so hard to make sure me and my sister will be successful in life, and I am so grateful for that, that I am doing a major that I do not really want to do in order to be get money to pay them back for what they have laid out for me. My poor mother is working three jobs to help me pay for my college, and my sister is fucking complaining about not getting a Mac early for Christmas. Jesus Christ! To add, my parents spent almost 5,000 dollars over the course of 5 years on her "developing soccer career". She has made no attempt to get a scholarship despite my parents effort. She loves the sport, but is too lazy to do any research or work. She has gotten offers from schools, but still does not want to play, what the actual fuck. I tried to get a scholarship for goalkeeper, and got one offer from a division 2 school, Georgia Southern University. I did not go because they did not offer Engineering. I am regretting it though, because my parents also laid out a lot of money for me to play soccer. My parents also gave her a debit card for her to use for small snacks and drinks after school, yet she goes out buying 70$ pedicures once a week. The ignorance of her makes me want to smack the shit out of her.
Not sure how I am going to tell her to grow a pair and man up, but it is not going to be pretty and she may hate me for a bit. If it comes from me though, she might listen. Sorry for taking up your time if you read this. Needed to put this on paper or I was gonna lose it myself. Please forgive the profanity as I do not normally curse, but it was what was on my mind.
My sister is a handful, like any other teenage girl, and tends to get on my parents nerves. Normally she bothers me, but now she seems to be going after them.
Recently, my sis got denied from the same University as I did. She only got into a community college and some other small ones that she did not want to go to. She did not seem upset when she told me, but she was completely destroyed. This anger was put forth towards the people around her, specifically my parents. She continued to ask for money to please her needs because she wanted pity for her failure. My parents did pity her for a bit, but up until yesterday, they snapped on her.
I got a call today from her and could not understand but a few words because she was crying so hard. I hate to say it, but my sister is selfish, ignorant, and lazy about life. She has yet to get a true reality check about it and I plan on giving it to her after her soccer game tonight. She kept on going about how my parents were "mean" because they did not let her open her Mac Computer for Christmas early. She argued it was for her 7 page paper, but we also have two fully functional other computers in the house. My parents went off on her and she is now an emotional wreck.
The thing is, my parents work so hard to make sure me and my sister will be successful in life, and I am so grateful for that, that I am doing a major that I do not really want to do in order to be get money to pay them back for what they have laid out for me. My poor mother is working three jobs to help me pay for my college, and my sister is fucking complaining about not getting a Mac early for Christmas. Jesus Christ! To add, my parents spent almost 5,000 dollars over the course of 5 years on her "developing soccer career". She has made no attempt to get a scholarship despite my parents effort. She loves the sport, but is too lazy to do any research or work. She has gotten offers from schools, but still does not want to play, what the actual fuck. I tried to get a scholarship for goalkeeper, and got one offer from a division 2 school, Georgia Southern University. I did not go because they did not offer Engineering. I am regretting it though, because my parents also laid out a lot of money for me to play soccer. My parents also gave her a debit card for her to use for small snacks and drinks after school, yet she goes out buying 70$ pedicures once a week. The ignorance of her makes me want to smack the shit out of her.
Not sure how I am going to tell her to grow a pair and man up, but it is not going to be pretty and she may hate me for a bit. If it comes from me though, she might listen. Sorry for taking up your time if you read this. Needed to put this on paper or I was gonna lose it myself. Please forgive the profanity as I do not normally curse, but it was what was on my mind.
More numb than hurt. I...think that's better?
Money is important, but you spend 1/3 of your waking day minimum at a career- this being said it's important to chose something you can be happy with doing 9-5. The school environment is wildly different from workforce. Get a internship ASAP to make sure engineering workplace is a place you want to spend a LOT of time in.
Try to focus on you and your career- don't let this take away from your schooling (it's hard enough to get through college)!!!
It's like in airline manuals- "put your oxygen mask on before assisting others"- help yourself and others around you by focusing on creating good habits and life skills that will keep stress low in your life and employment high (learn healthy cooking, how to do cleaning regularly, learning how to maintain relationships/ physical fitness while balancing your own work life away from family, paying housing bills etc.)and all other college and career skills. Knowing these things and being able to execute them are your oxygen mask and you need to breath to live.
(the logic here is you can not help others if you are dead from oxygen deprivation haha).
100% College is trial by fire and I'm sure your parents want you to do well, and you sister to.
I know it's hard to back off and focus on yourself but your parents are the adults in this situation and they signed up for two children who they obviously love and want to be happy. It's good you are respectful of their hardwork and love and dedication to you as a son. If you are really worried sit down and talk with them about your worries. Communication is key. : :
oh I've had that tear- it ruined my chance at dance college- maybe for the better. Idk, I didn't end up where I thought I'd be as a youngster but it all works out in the end. You'll probably drift a little and then come back together- it's just something that happens as people leave the nest and figure themselves out :>