What is Creepy?
9 years ago
First off, I want to say you guys are awesome and I love reading all your comments and shouts here on the page. I know I don't always reply or even seem active, but I do read them all.
Something I have noticed however, is either I am REALLY desensitized, or there is a pretty broad range of what some of you consider creepy. The vast majority of comments here make me raise an eyebrow at most and think, "OK, that's a bit odd." There is one person that has honestly been creepy in my opinion, http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/...../#cid:51218233
So that brings me to the question of the day (or month, or three, depending when I think of something else to post here): What is it that you guys think is creepy? I know a lot of you seem to be trying hard to be creepy in the comments, and thank you very much for doing so, but really, what is it that REALLY makes a comment creepy?
Something I have noticed however, is either I am REALLY desensitized, or there is a pretty broad range of what some of you consider creepy. The vast majority of comments here make me raise an eyebrow at most and think, "OK, that's a bit odd." There is one person that has honestly been creepy in my opinion, http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/...../#cid:51218233
So that brings me to the question of the day (or month, or three, depending when I think of something else to post here): What is it that you guys think is creepy? I know a lot of you seem to be trying hard to be creepy in the comments, and thank you very much for doing so, but really, what is it that REALLY makes a comment creepy?
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However, it seems like comments that are more personal are the ones that are harder to stomach -- the ones where someone seems just a bit too enthusiastic about doing things to you personally. Talking about fantasy situations feels like harmless fun, but when someone's talking about subjecting you-you to certain acts or situations, that can definitely get weird.
Too creepy for my tastes would be comments like: "I'd like your char to rape this cub!" or: "I'd like your char to piss on my char's face!" and things like that. GAH!
DON'T HURT ME
NO MOOOOORE!
I think a more universal creepy comes from the stalkerish things people say. That kind of stuff is lent an air of malice by some uncomfortable realism, in that online stalkers can and do ruin peoples' lives.
"yeah i wanna finger Lucario's dickhole and sniff that shaft as soon as Bowser pulls out"
"i wanna stick my penis in that grey horse"
in other things like social media
"how's the leg doing (uses RL name)?"
my favorite: some very specific details about a relative of theirs.
'is it gay if i circle my nipples with mayonaise?'
while playing TF2, and a female uses mic... i use my creepiest Crux voice: "OOoooh!.... a Giiiiiirllllllah *tongue flickering noises*" always gets instant laughs
The only time I can imagine having a problem is if I say "no" to someone, and the person repeatedly keeps insisting, especially if they are in a position to violate my will in person.
People can seriously say and ask me anything about me or my fursona. They are the same thing in my case, so there's no difference. Even if it involves a fetish I'm not into, it won't upset me to be asked. As long as I'm allowed to say no if desired, then feel free to ask me anything.
So far, one of the creepiest situations I've ran into is a person who apparently can't read or comprehend what "no" means. My profiles on every site I use say that I'm not interested in role playing. Many people still ask, and I simply say "no", and remind them to at least read profiles before writing to new people. That much doesn't bother me, as I know that lots of people are too lazy to read profiles. The creepy part is when I respond and say "no", and the person's next message is, "but I really want to role play with you please." Then I say no again, and they continue to try. That is not only creepy, but also very annoying. It doesn't matter what the topic or fetish is. Once someone says that they are not interested, it is time to move on, rather than begging. Worse yet is when a person gets depressed and suicidal because you aren't into what they want, even though they don't know you, and can care less about what you like.
Ask anything, but know that there is a time to stop in some cases.
I love to hear the unusual things that people are into, and why they are into them. I like to cum and pee on hoodies, kigus and plushies. I like the looks of diapers. I like seeing drawings of characters with lumps in the back of their pants, and I love things that imply strong smells. Most people say those things are creepy simply because they aren't into them. That's their definition of creepy. I don't consider admitting to liking anything to be creepy though, regardless of the fetish. I love comments that bring up unusual fetish topics. I've even encountered a few that I later experimented with and liked. I think it becomes bad creepy when a person targets those who aren't into something and tries to get them to share the fetish or activity, after being made aware that the person does not want to. There's a huge difference between someone saying they like vore, drugs, gore, vomit, snuff, pee, diapers, bondage, poop, etc, and someone actually trying to get a person to participate in something after being told "no".
I love creepy comments in the context of hearing all the unusual fetish comments, no matter how weird they might seem. I even like when people ask if I like the same, or what do I like. It gives me an opportunity to learn about them and them to learn about me. What I don't like is when I tell someone that I'm not personally into something, and they decide to pursue it and even plead with me to do it with them, sometimes for weeks, before I can finally cut them off. I guess there's good (harmless/fetish) creepy, and there's bad (stalking/dangerous) creepy.
Discharging bodily fluids onto people's clothing is not something I'm into, but I'm not into kink shaming. Unless kink shaming is your kink, then maybe I'm into that. But if someone is into kink shaming, then kink shaming them is what they want...?
but how about if i collect jars of pee and cum for baths and enemas, while i wear my latex goat head mask, with a leather corset and fishnets... and Q Lazarrus Goodbye Horses playing...
A person's refusal to accept when I say "no" to something makes them very creepy, and potentially dangerous. I ignore, avoid, or even block those people. That's scary creepy.
A favorite Nietzschie quote of mine, is that "the source of all great art.. is gratitude" fetishes are like a worship of things we're really grateful, exist.
From the mundane, all the way to sexual feelings towards my work, characters or me personally, I don't think I'd take it as anything other than a compliment. Maybe I'm in the minority on this site, but a comment expressing just how much and hard they came to any of my work or influences really makes my day.
The only thing that would be properly creepy and unacceptable I guess is posts expressing how they want to castrate, shit on, invade the property of, or seriously harm- me, ect. But even that jumps to scary or threatening rather than 'creepy.'
For example, if you've drawn a picture of someone being sexually peed upon and someone comments about how they'd just love to have it done to them, it's somewhat contextually appropriate since the original stimulus contains that fetish and it's a logical reaction progression from it given a pornographic context.
If the picture wasn't WS based however and was just a nonsexual picture, maybe folk hugging or something in full clothing, then that would be creepy, weird and unnessessary. I think it often implies how far from the subject matter your going. If I was an artist who drew a big, beautiful butt and the comments were full of horny people wanting to fuck it to pieces and describe just how they'd wanna go about it, I'd say I did a good job with the butt because the emotions intended to be conveyed by the picture of the butt (arousal) were achived. If I drew something completely nonsexual and those came up... I wouldn't be offended... it just wouldn't be contextually appropriate.
The level of kink involved does make the amount of suggestiveness required to be appropriate more severe. I.E, if I drew a standard pinup, bloke in speedos, sexy pose blah blah, it's not too far from the imagination for someone to fantasise about oiling him up and giving him a rubdown, or even sucking his dick, even if it's technically not pornographic as he's still got clothes on, even if it's just underwear. If you were going to jump to scat ideas for example, you'd have to have brought that kink to the table in the picture for it to be appropriate for responding to in kind.
TL;DR Depends on the picture being commented on, i.e. the context.
Now, in the context of comments made sexually on a furry art site? Not too much, really
Though, that said, creepy comments still should fit the person their aimed for. Telling someone who isn't into BDSM how much you "want to tie you down and face fuck you until you gag and then mark you" would be poorly fitted one towards such a person. though, I suppose that's getting off topic to annoying comments rather than creepy.
I suppose truly creepy would be people out there with genuine malice behind them, or maybe anyone obsessed to the point of it being unhealthy, or maybe someone that has no concept of borders around people. Other then that, "creepy" for me would just describe random phobias like being in a house alone at night or maybe some of those good old fashioned primal fears that a good horror movie or creepy pasta might use... vs the bad ones that just lay on the gore until it's more silly then scary, still entertaining all the same.
Or maybe ghosts, which would be maybe creepy but probably more fascinating, and the hoaxes are either entertaining or groan inducing. Aliens aren't creepy, because it's just some aye lmaos. ;p
that's a distinction, sorely missed by the younger crowd.
all that SJW crap is from an astonishing lack of perspective of public/private interests.
i love crossdressing and piss enemas as much as the next guy... but i do not go out in public, let alone expect someone to say i look hot in my outfits.... let alone expect a new human right declared for it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hB0UzaGbUUY << Actually this entire song describes somehing like what really creeps me out (but I secretly love it anyway if it's not in earnest)
I'll take the sardonic route and say that sincerity is creepy. Sincerely developing a connection way too unrealistically.
See, the reason y'all'ses comments about dicks and violence aren't creepy is because that's social norm here.
True creepiness comes from the type of social depravity that not even the furry fandom can sponsor.
(This gets even creepier when the art in question is non-con, and the guy comments just to give it a thumbs up. Poor... judgement.)