Mine was forced
No privacy

so was mine man, was kinda a shit show

Nosey mother then father
All my shit seen and hacked

that's... a lot like what happened to me

Fucking sucked
Freaky too hacked and spied on

the most awkward part was when my mom, dad, and step mom and dad sat me down for it and came out with me being gay and a furry XD

Same
Had to make a 2nd account
They saw it all
Call it cartoon porn and junk

Um bullshit

1. Actual cartoon porn is fucking gross

2. They buy junk all the damn time
Dad has too many fucking plants and cars

Hehe, same here sadly.

Haven't come out yet. Can't. Mom is a batshit crazy Jehovah's Witness and they believe being gay is worse than being a murderer or a pedophile. She has contemplated suicide in the past and I'm pretty sure this would be the thing that would push her over the edge.

I go to school full time and still live at my parents rent-free in exchange for doing chores.

I have a long distance relationship with  Desire4Muscle and we've been together for over 3 years.

One day, when the time is right, when I'm on my own and supporting myself, I'll tell her. I just hope she doesn't do the unthinkable, but she probably will. That cult has turned her brain to jello and turned her into something she isn't.

Same with JW. Sucks :/

I'd love to burn down each and every one of their "Kingdom Halls" and their headquarters. They destroyed my family and nearly drove me to suicide at 12. They nearly destroyed my life so I have no qualms about destroying theirs. And it's not just me there are so many people they hurt, so many families they ruined, so many people they drove to suicide. They're not better that fucking Westboro Church. They just choose to word their hatred differently.

I find it boring as fuck
300 hours on a tiny book and questions that take 2 hours
Mom is trying to make me go
Fuck that

I'd rather burn the book then put out the fire with my piss.

Lol well get a shit load of them because they are awfully small and flat

The more the better. Each one I burn is one less person brainwashed and hurt.

Fucking exactly brainwashed to go to some stupid building for 5 fucking hours
Waste of time

Waste of time, life, sanity, happiness, etc

Yep
Fuck JW

Also can't watch anything involves witches/wizards and monsters etc.

Nope, not at all. No magic, violence, swearing, sex, nothing that is "ungodly"

I came out to my brother actually a year ago from now. I had it all planned what I would say and I even rehearsed it! I was extremely nervous then when we were in the car, I told him, but it was alful because I was crying as I was saying it! After I finished however, the best thing happened to me, he came out to me as well. Let's just say that day was very emotional.

Now my mom. I actually came out to her this June on accident. We were talking about my cousin who had just came out and the other sides of my family were really treating him badly so I was talking to my mother about it to get her stance. Then she tells me you know your brother is gay? And of course I do, so I said yes. She asked me how and well, I said I told him. Eventually she figured it out and asked me if I was. That's how I came out to my mother.

Unfortunately I still haven't mustered up the courage to tell my dad, but I'm sure they'll be a time for that.

Amazingly my parents are Christian so having acceptance from my mother was one of most relieving parts of coming out. It was definitely a weight lifted off my shoulders.



Here's the post I made after coming out to my brother:
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/20650306/

So both you AND your brother are gay? Sorry just curious if I read that right because if someone in a family is already out *sometimes* it can make it just a bit easier. And don't fret about the timing. Either your dad will figure it out, or the time will come.

Yes! He is; after I came out to him he told me he was gay too. It's just interesting I came out to him before He came out to me. He's 10 years older than me.

Nobody knew I was gay when I came out, I don't really fit the gay stereotype (Big, heavy set dude, bearded, masculine, jock in high school, worked construction for years). I told my mother first when I was about 21, she was genuinely surprised but very happy for me and immediately accepted it, I had been desperately hinting at it for a long time but she didn't catch on, she told my younger sister so I didn't have to (it was really tough for me for whatever reason). This was years ago but I'm still absolutely terrified to tell my father (I'm a 27 year old man by the way, so it's ridiculous and pathetic for me to be afraid.) because he's notoriously bigoted & homophobic as is his entire side of the family so I'm afraid I'll be rejected by them, i shouldn't care what a bunch of hicks think about me yet I do, it weighs on me daily. I want to come out to him but I'm just too cowardly to deal with consequences. I know I'll be happier to get it out, but I can't pull the trigger. I mean, I have an amazing boyfriend, we live and work together and I'm proud to be gay (which wasn't always the case honestly,
I dealt with shame issues early on.) and I wish I could introduce him to my Dad and just go to dinner or something simple like that but I fear it going wrong. Any advice on this front? Please, I'll take any help I can get. Thanks for reading my ramblings, sorry for the length.

~ ElvisWolf

I'm not so sure I can offer any advice. But I can tell you I was afraid to tell my dad for the longest time. It wasn't until 2 years ago I think that he found out. And that was because my little sister has a big mouth. lol. He called me over to his place one day and we just had a good long heart to heart talk. It was nice. My mom, though, she to this day still does not accept that about me. She found out about 10 years ago. She just is stuck in her religious ways and I'm sure for her its a struggle in her own way, but it really does hurt a hell of a lot knowing that besides my siblings, my mom was the family member I was closest to, and to know she doesn't accept me, still to this day hurts. I still visit her, and we still talk, but its been 10 years and neither one of us has said a word about it further.

Sorry, I'm rambling now, but I just wanted to say from my experiences, and from what I know, is that it may be scary, especially when your parents show that homophobia, but a lot of the times it turns out better than you would have thought. Sometimes you end up in cases with my mom, which definitely takes work and to which, I'm still trying to work on to this day. Point is... it may go south... but not as bad as you think it will. The only way to know for sure is to just up and do it. You can either plan something or just let it pop up in conversation. Just make sure you have your own way out in case things do get real bad (but I highly doubt it will)

Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sorry you have those issues with your mom, I really am, it must be tough. It's like the metaphorical elephant in the room and no one mentions it. I know deep down I have to eventually tell him I just need to find my balls and do it, it really is the hardest thing to do for whatever reason, I don't why. I've been planning for every contingency for years honestly. Running through every possible scenario in my head a thousand times over. Perhaps I'm just overthinking things and the best option here would be to treat it like ripping off a Band-Aid, just do it quick and hope it doesn't hurt to much. I suppose there are no easy solutions to complicated problems. Thank you for your honesty and for taking the time to respond.

~ ElvisWolf

Yeah. I agree sometimes you just gotta go for it and hope for the best. To be honest, were it not for my sister's big mouth my dad probably still wouldn't know to this day, so I understand. And of course. Anytime. :3

I forgot to delete my browser history.... you fill in the rest.

Oh boy. I'm surprised my fam didn't figure it out sooner. Because I was searching some things that literally scream "HEY I LIKE DUDES" long before I knew how to delete my browsing history. x3

Private mode

The funny thing is, my mom told me that she was GLAD I'm gay. I think it was because she thought girls were so much trouble and/or was always worried I'd knock one up as a teenager which would be bad....
Apparently she'd rather me be gay than for that risk to happen...

lol

Nice

Mine was not so smooth at the start, I told my friends first, they are like, hey cool dude! be yourself, then told my mom who was like... hmmm alright... need to get used to that.

Then 2 weeks later I told my dad, he was... kinda normal about it, but then it all started..

I posted something on facebook the other say that my BF was coming over and stay the weekend, the first comment that came, was from my dad saying "Eww too much information" and that is how the shitroad started.

Dad and BF got into a fight, I left to another country to live together and dad and bf never got a good connection, dad said it was a phase, but more and more said to him that it was not..

Long story short,

2 years later I got back, had a new BF, and then it started all over again, I didn't spoke a year to him untill he appoligized, what he actually did and said, I want my son back, I don't care if you are gay anymore.

2 weeks after that my (new) bf and dad had a talk, a coffee and now a few months later they are best friends.... took 4 / 5 years to get my dad like that!

Unfortunately sometimes it takes people a while to understand. And sometimes you have to cut people out of your life like that, including family, unless they change. I'm definitely glad to hear that your dad came to terms with it. <3

Yeah, took long enough :p. but indeed, I'm glad that part is over now and we can finally get the family together and what not, just normal things

I came out to my dad during a car ride... More of him asking if I had something to say cause I looked troubled. I said yeah... I'm dating a guy. Was silent for a mile or so then he asked if he was cute. I froze for a minute and said yeah. I was blindsided for a second and asked if he was mad or something and he said why would he. He only wants me happy. Questioning why I asked, I told him that my mom made it seem like he would be raging. Dad laughed and said he figured she would. Got along ever since...

Those are some of the best kinds of stories and I love hearing those. When people don't make it a big deal because it shouldn't be. I look forward to the day where people don't have to "come out" and we can just love who we love without judgement from others. I wonder if I'll get to see it in my lifetime.

Shame I can't see you in my lifetime~

Never say never o:

Oh? Be fun little thing to look forward to then

It was easy to come out after my sister came out as an asexual lesbian :P

I recently came out to my brother. We were alone in the house while our parents were away and I had been planning to come out to him for weeks now.

So I made him a card, with "One thing I learned from Harry Potter is that no one should live in a closet" and on the inside it said "I'm gay" in rainbow letters.

I took me an hour to finally give him the card (more like throw it at him :p). He was really calm as if I just told him we need to buy new chips or something.

He told me he kinda knew (I wrote gay with my finger prints on my computer soooo. And the I chose to room with a pan girl and a lesbian during an overnight

summer camp.) What was weird was he didn't have ANY reaction at all and I'm not sure if that's a bad thing or a good thing.

Time will tell when I'm going to tell my parents.

If he didn't have a reaction or rather, a negative one, I don't think that's a bad thing. As a generality I think its a good indication that some people are able to see that it makes no difference who you attracted to and its just who they are. Which is what I feel we should be striving for in general. To not have people feel like they need to "come out." But to just love who you love and not think twice.

Thanks

That makes me feel much better!

Mine went pretty good luckily, I've always had very open-minded parents so that's a huge plus of course. I came out first to my best friend actually, telling him that I had a BF and whatnot, and although he was surprised, he didn't mind one bit. After that I told my sister, who was delighted and thought it was great. Some months after that I wanted to tell my parents, so I went ahead and told them I had something to say, to which my dad instantly responded, "you're gay?". It was awkward as fuck, but after that we had a good laugh and talked about my ex-bf and stuff.
To this day I'm still relieved that I decided to bite the bullet (that's a saying, right?) and tell them, but I'll still have to find a time to tell them I'm a furry as well XD

Hahah. When I was first coming out I wish people would have responded that way, would have made it so much easier. I always had a hard time when it actually came to the part of saying "I'm gay." Glad to hear things went well for you. As for the furry part, I wouldn't sweat that at all. In my opinion, I don't think that needs much of a coming out. More of a hobby-like thing I guess.

I suppose you're right :3
Thanks for taking the time to read all of these stories and sharing your own c:

Of course! I absolutely love hearing others stories/opinions and I certainly don't mind sharing my own. :3

I didn't really come out per se. One day (I was like 14 or something) I pretty much walked up to my pats and told them I had a crush on a girl (I'm female too) and that we were dating. At the time, my parents thought it was "just a phase", even though I went through quite a few girlfriends throughout the following 2 years. My parents rarely met them safe for the occasional "hello" when picking me up from the station or something.
They were extremely supportive of me because they wanted me to be happy. They even paid for the occasional train ticket to visit my long distance girlfriend I had for a while. Homophobia or similar things never arouse because all that mattered to my parents was to see their child happy.

... until, when I just turned 16, I met my current mate of 8 years. We're about 2 hours apart by train and often visit each other, especially since I moved out from home. I'm going to use their preferred them-pronouns here, but I still consider myself in a lesbian relationship. At first, my parents continued their support. I was allowed to visit my mate, go to the movies with them and stuff. Apparently my parents still assumed it was a phase, because we didn't really face any problems until it became clear that this was not me fooling around with a girl for a few months and then being dropped by her, but an actual, developing relationship.
My parents, specifically my mom, turned against us. Mostly against my mate, insulting them to my face and talking about them behind their back. Things like "My daughter's epilepsy is your fault" or "It's too early for her to be in a long-term relationship" and worse.
Eventually, my mate did the only healthy thing to do in this situation: They packed their bags, looked at my parents, gave me a hug and a kiss and then said: "I'm sorry, but if this is how I'm going to be treated in this household, I don't want to be here. I'm sorry, sweetheart. You know you can come visit whenever you want, but I will not come here anymore." And I don't blame them. Our lives have gotten way more relaxed since we don't have to rely on my parents' decisions anymore. Occasionally, my mom says she'd like to talk to my mate and to explain herself and maybe try again - my only reply is "You have their phone number. If you really want this, you can always call them, but this is a thing between you and them. I don't want to get involved."
My mom never called. The two haven't seen each other in 5 years. I don't get actual shit for being with my mate and for planning to marry them eventually, but my mom is visibly and audibly uncomfortable with it.

I'm glad to hear that you initially had support from your folks, that's something that can make a big difference. As for the stuff later on, that's terribly unfortunate that happened. From your story, I feel like you two handled the situation very well, and I'd feel the same, your mom is the one who needs to make the effort to patch things up if she wants to. Hope she'll be able to one day.

I don't think so, not at all.

It is HARD to be out, and I personally don't blame you for wanting to keep it in until you are comfortable.

The only thing I would say is... don't wait too long.

Hehe, maybe. But again, don't feel ashamed in taking your time.

There is a time and place for everything.

I first outed myself when I was in France as an exchange-student. I looked in Forums and that kind of stuff and I talked with one of my best friends that time about my worries. She said whether I am gay, bi or something else she would always like me the way I am and that would never change. Well for a long time she was the only who knew something about my true personality, for the others I wore a mask to hide my true personality from the world aroungd me. Well as time passed I got more comfortable with myself and way way way more extroverted and came out infront of msome persons I trusted. But there was one 'friend' at that time that told nearly everyone in my scholl that I was gay ... I was so angry about her and really pissed that I fell in some kind of a depression. After some time I found over the internet my new friends which I spend a lot of time now. They just looked at me and said 'hey it's cool that you are gay ... we like you ... you are our little Konni-bear. You are our teddy bear.' ... I got so much confidence and courage from them that i finally decided o came out to my mother. She just stood there hugged me and said: 'I always knew you are some kind of gay ... after the first time you went to the school-carneval and said you wanted to dress up as a princess I thought that you were gay' I cried a little, cause of joy because I was so happy my mother understood what I really am. The only one left who don't know anything about my sexual-orientation is my father. I didn't came out infront of him, because he is really really conservative in the way he thinks and thats kind of hard to come out infront of him

I hear ya. I'm glad to hear support from your mother. It seems to me that most people have a hurdle in coming out, whether that be to a friend, or a relative, there just is always one person that takes that courage to get to. Take your time and don't force it out. Wishing you the best.

Parents:
I did it kinda shock-therapy like. One day I came home from a good furry friend that I used to visit often. At dinner we had a discussion about homosexuality, because there was something related in the news that day. At some point I just said something along the lines of " BTW, today we sucked each others ducks, I'm gay". My dad was surprisingly calm, but my mom started to cry. We talked a while about it and everything is fine now. :3

Colleagues:
I guess I never came out officially, but sometimes I casually mention my bf just like others would mention their gf/wife. So I guess quite a few of my colleagues know. Most didn't say anything. Two said that I don't look gay. ^^ And I'm still as liked as before. But they're all well educated academics, so that's no surprise there. :3

Glad to hear everything turned out alright. As far as my colleagues go, I think its pretty much the same. I don't really feel a need to come out. If the subject arises then I just casually talk about guys that I've been dating or something of the sort. Most of them when they hear it for the first time like do a double take and are like... what?? But are usually cool with it.

Well okay here goes nothing. I was driving back from town with my dad in the car and it was clear I was dating someone. That someone turned out to be the man of my dreams whom I married this year but not straying from the point, let's get back to the car ride. I said, "Dad I'm dating someone." And he replied that he knew and wanted to know who "She" was. I replied that I was dating a guy and he just went silent for the rest of the car ride. He told me three things later that night:

1) Don't tell your mother.
2) Dump your boyfriend and find a girl.
3) This was the worst thing I could tell him and I'd be responsible for ripping the family apart.

Well thankfully I have my own apartment and left after he said that. He eventually started talking to me again, but wanted me to keep my husband on the down low. Basically he wanted me to treat it like Vegas, whatever happened at my place stayed there. Fast forward a few months, coming back from a trip to see my husband, who's in the military, I get the confidence to come out to mom. That could have gone better. She went all fire and brimstone when she first found out, saying I would burn in Hell and all that good stuff. To make it better, all this time dad had been talking to me, but the moment I came out to mom ... all communication stopped and he played the martyr. Mom eventually accepted me and my husband; however, dad still hasn't accepted it and worse told my grandparents who now don't speak to me at all.

So that's my coming out story, and I hope that if you are coming out, your experience is better than mine.

Dude I'm really sorry that had to happen to you. People like your father are the kinds of people I never hope to meet in my lifetime but I already have in some way or another. And if that kind of person is your father, that's got to really take a toll on you that your father, the one who watched you grow up and become the man you are now not accept and straight up call you out as the one that will tear the family apart is just sad. I feel bad for you and how that happened but I'm glad you and your husband are together. I hope the two of you last forever

Hey it is what it is. I'm happy with my husband and love him dearly and that's all that matters. The way I see it, if certain people don't like us being happy together, they can look the other way. But thank you for the kind words ^_^. *hugs*

*hugs back* Yeah I totally agree. People who don't like it can pretty much fuck off (excuse the language lol). I'm glad you and your husband are happy together.

I remember first coming out back in like 2014 or 2015 I believe. One night I was playing World of Warcraft and was chatting with some people in a guild I was in and after a while it was just me and one guy who was chatting. During our conversation he came out and I decided to come out for the first time in my life during that. After that I started to come out to some friends, starting with a friend who I was friends with back when Halo 3 was still new, so that's about...2008 I believe and I came out to him a few days afterwards and came out to one of my bestest best friends ever soon after talking with her one night. After that I just opened up about it. As for people who I know near me that I know offline, I only came out to two people who were my best friend in my highschool class and my other best friend who is her soon to be husband. It happened last year around her birthday and I was sitting there and part of me felt like I needed to open up to someone who I knew offline. I trusted them especially during one day on my birthday one year, they said that they didn't mind or care if someone was gay. So on her birthday last year, I decided to come out to her and my other friend since they lived together and took it well and even one of them said that they were bisexual and didn't want to come out to anyone for the same reason I didn't want to until then, because the people who live in my area are highly religious and highly homophobic.

I haven't came out to anyone else I knew offline. My parents in particular I would imagine would lose their shit if I they found out. They said to me at one point that they're okay with LGBT people, but I find it so hard to believe them especially given that they still treat anyone who is LGBT, aside from possibly Lesbians, as disgusting and make very aggressive and angry comments about people who they even suspect is LGBT. I can't trust the rest of my family either in any shape or form, and that they'll more than likely tell my parents if possible, and I more than likely will be kicked out of their house if they find out and I have no where to go nor do I have a job yet so I don't have any income to work with.

When I get my own place to live in and I move in with my boyfriend, maybe I'll tell them, most likely I won't. I don't want my parents to disown me and I still love my parents and I want them to love me back. If them finding out will take all that away from them, then I don't want it to happen.

Totes understand not wanting to come out if you're not financially stable and able to make it on your own. Smart move in my opinion. Though... this is just my opinion, but I personally feel its better to have them stop talking to you, then to have to pretend and live another life around them. I essentially do this with my mom right now, and I'm starting to get tired of it. The day is coming where she's gonna either need to accept the fact that I'm gay, or I'm just gonna stop visiting. I'm tired of pretending to be someone I'm not. I do not and will not do it for anyone else, my mom was the exception but its getting terribly tiring. :c

I led a double life for a long time, years. Finally, I told my sister, knowing that she would tell EVERYONE. Sure enough, she did, and I didnt really have to 'come out' to the whole family. She did it for me.

The double life was tough because most of the people I knew was aware that I was hiding SOMETHING. Their trust level went up a lot after I came out. Also, I had gotten to the point where I just didnt care anymore who knew, and if they couldnt take it, then to heck with them. Some went (including family), most didnt. I found I didnt really miss the ones who left

Overtime I devoloped a bad relationship with my parents so coming out was hard, my friends however were easy to tell I trusted them and my school was the most pro LGBT in the province, but near the end of 7th grade i decided I'd finally tell mom about it, so I woke up in the morning, left a note for her and went out biking in the rain, sat in the cold rain at a park for three hours and came back to see her crying, she wasn't really upset she supported me no matter what (as long as I don't want to be female apparently haha) and that I'm still me, she's just bummed she probably won't have grandkids, then she asked me if I wanted her to tell dad for me and I said yes, and he was fine with it too.

An adoption is an option. It may not be a biological grandchild, but a grandchild nonetheless.

I'm aware but I really have no interest in kids

Understandable.

I came out to my friends first, which I feel like is a good trial run, and in general, probably the safest place for many to do that so... not much can be said about that.

I came out to my mother about a year ago. I was in a failing long distance relationship. One night I went bowling with my family. Because I'm not particularly good at masking emotions, and because my mother and aunt are really good at picking up on nuances in behavior, they picked up extremely quickly that I was bummed for no observable reason. Later that night my mother had some questions for me. They weren't directly about my sexuality and in hindsight, I could have wriggled my way out of it, but I panicked and didn't answer well enough to diffuse the situation, in fact, I kinda put myself in a corner.

Once it happened, I was glad, and she was rather supportive. The one criticism is she's kind of protective, so when I have my (new) boyfriend over it's like, awkward as hell. I told my dad, and he was of the mind set of "I don't care, just don't kill people." (that's literally something he said XD) needless to say, my dad is lit.

A year later, I'm sure my whole school knows, and if not has a pretty fucking big hunch. Most of my immediate family knows, with the exception of my grandmother-- because she's like that. And I'm probably the happiest I've been in quite a long time.

Of course, all good things come to an end. Not because of anything wrong with my sexuality, but because of the fact that I'm about to graduate high school, and I'm hella stressed about my SAT score, and whether or not I'll get accepted to my first choice. Not to mention the prospect of moving away from my family, friends, and boyfriend.

Oh, I wanted to put this in here, and it may only help a small percentage of people, but if I enjoy it and think it's helpful, why not try.

A YouTuber I enjoy named Boinaband (AKA Dave) released a song titled "Spectrum" a little while ago aimed at LGBT youth who were not in a safe enough position to come out. Dave (The channel's heterosexual headman) wanted some help to capture the situation as best as possible, so he wrote the song with help from Cryaotic and Minx (fairly popular LGBT YouTubers. Pansexual and Lesbian respectively).

It's an anthem to the best of us in the worst situation. There's a line repeated in the bridge many times that is a keystone of the LGBT community, in a way, its become my mantra, especially in assuming the role of its last half. "I can choose my friends, and I can choose my family. If they won't accept me, there are others who will have me." It's a reminder that you may be under pressure and be having a difficult time coping with your situation, there's more than just your immediate circle. There are people on the other side of that screen.

I say it may only help a small percentage because Dave produces a sort of rapping alt-rock genera, similar to Linkin Park at times and I know it isn't a taste that many people enjoy. I for one enjoy it, yet understand that it may not as easily appeal to masses.

Anyways, enough rambling, Heres the song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYoapICIfeE

I remember coming out as curious a long time ago when my dad caught me watching gay porn. I don't really know what happened but I found myself attracted to it more than straight and it was really awkward with them giving me the conversation telling me that I was confused at the time. I thought for sure that if I came out as 100% gay, someone in my family or even in my immediate family would either cast me out or think of me as really weird. Even now I'm still kinda in the closet about it with certain family members and friends but I was told that no one in my family will shun or shame me if I told them I was gay which was a huuuuge weight off my shoulders. But I do know of families that do not accept gays in their family and will cast them out, or try to convert them to straight or some shit like that. My mate's parents are like that and it broke my heart when we were forced away for a while. He still has some months to go before he can come back and my heart goes out to any of those who have families like that because they should accept you for who you are, whether it be gay, bi, lesbian, pan, or whatever you are interested in, and not cast you out or shun you because they don't accept it. Anyways, that was more of a rant than a coming out story but I felt like it was worth sharing.

Welp, here goes. I haven't told family but several close friends know (as well as the internet). Anywho, I guess it would end some family relations due to the fact a lot of my folks happen to be pretty conservative. And I guess I really should come out whatsoever, cause it's actually a pretty heavy mental burden. Everyone understands that I'm hiding something and I'm living sort of a double life. Whenever I'm down people ask me what's wrong and I just go "I don't want to talk about it" no matter what. I mean surely I could tell all my friends but I'm sort of afraid of someone slipping the secret to my relatives one way or another. My mum, maybe. My father? I dunno. Grandparents? Hell no. Brother? Probably it'll take some time for him to come to terms with it. I've developed panic disorder, anxiety disorder and depression of the course of some four years and I'm sure my double life has something to do with it. It's heavy. A heavy burden.

Anywho, let's get to those people that I have told it to. One time I was heavily drunk at a house party and I was just staeing at the wall with a straight face while others were having fun. The guy whose house we were at asked me to tell what's going on and I just pulled him aside and said I'm gay and he was like 'oh, aight, grab a beer' :D
Another case was when a friend of mine called last year and asked if we could grab a couple beers and watch a movie and when I came to his place he wad like ay we gotta talk, and I sort of already realized what's going on. He told me he was gay and lived in the said apartment with his boyf and and wanted me to know (I was the first to get to hesr it, right after his conservative parent whom had kicked him out. And I just went yeah I figured, I have a pretty strong gaydar cause I myself am a closet case. And it was more of a surprise for him than it was for me to figure whst he was up to.

I guess I could add up that I'm not particularly a very stereotypical gay dude and everyone that I have told about my gayness, have had that mind = blown experience :p maybe someday I'll find the courage to come out to mum. Pretty sure she'll understand. That'd make it easier to tell it to friends.

Was in my college dorm room with my room mate. He was having girlfriend issues, and I was falling behind on some of my grades. So we started drinking and talking, then I spilled the beans.

He was cool with it though, then I just gradually told everyone else and eventually they all accepted it. The hardest part was telling my parents. Of course I told all my friends before I said anything to my family. They weren't too thrilled at first, but now they just have to deal with it. Even now, I think they harbor a little bit of denial.