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delicate topic ... just.. venting.
8 years ago
Okay, So, im living with my mother since always.
im trying to make a living off art and stuff.
But, there's a thing going on right now...
since... 3-4 years.
I literally don't know what to do, or how to do it but here's the situation:
My brother works almost all day. Wakes up at 4-5 am and goes to work till 8-9 pm. (mexico sucks ass with this.)
My mother works all day too.
My brother's wife works at a hospital from 9am till 1pm. BEST SHIFT TBH. Freaking lucky.
EVERYONE ELSE in my family works daily on a whole day thing.
Okay, well, It so happens that randomly, my brother's wife (lets call her Yaja) drops his kid at my mother's.
WITH ME. She rambles about me, most of the time, negatively about me and just leaves. He just drops the kid
and goes.
It's been happening since the kid was 1year old. I've been taking care of this kid all his life. Im not mad at him.
But I am mad at his mother, because she makes me stand up at 5am all days of the freaking week. BECAUSE
SHE'S TOO TIRED TO GIVE HIM BREAKFAST OR ATTENTION. wtf boi?
Drops the kid at 5am, she DEMANDS me to give him EVERYTHING he wants, I am not allowed to scold him, I
am supposed to drop the kid at his school at 7am WALKING A DAMN 3KM WAY on my fucking condition. And expect to
pick him up at 2pm UNDER THE DAMN SUN that's sometimes 45c. IT HURTS.
But I do it anyway. Cause he's my nephew and I love him.
She goes to a shift from 9am till 1pm. This gives her ENOUGH time to do everything I am doing herself. I do can pick him
up, I can make the sacrifice. But, damn, I pick him up and she arrives to pick him at 8pm JUST BEFORE MY BROTHER COMES OUT OF WORK.
And even if I tell my brother that she leaves the kid here all day, he doesn't care.
So... Im standing on a situation where I cannot do this anymore. And even if I could, my body doesnt let me.
Im going against medical orders of going outside and exposing my head to the high UV... I don't know what to do
with my nephew... I love him. But 4 years of doing this and going under stress to feed him and all that, has been
taking a toll on me. I literally been raising him...
I needed to vent.. siiiighhh..
I am afraid of my surgery now.
im trying to make a living off art and stuff.
But, there's a thing going on right now...
since... 3-4 years.
I literally don't know what to do, or how to do it but here's the situation:
My brother works almost all day. Wakes up at 4-5 am and goes to work till 8-9 pm. (mexico sucks ass with this.)
My mother works all day too.
My brother's wife works at a hospital from 9am till 1pm. BEST SHIFT TBH. Freaking lucky.
EVERYONE ELSE in my family works daily on a whole day thing.
Okay, well, It so happens that randomly, my brother's wife (lets call her Yaja) drops his kid at my mother's.
WITH ME. She rambles about me, most of the time, negatively about me and just leaves. He just drops the kid
and goes.
It's been happening since the kid was 1year old. I've been taking care of this kid all his life. Im not mad at him.
But I am mad at his mother, because she makes me stand up at 5am all days of the freaking week. BECAUSE
SHE'S TOO TIRED TO GIVE HIM BREAKFAST OR ATTENTION. wtf boi?
Drops the kid at 5am, she DEMANDS me to give him EVERYTHING he wants, I am not allowed to scold him, I
am supposed to drop the kid at his school at 7am WALKING A DAMN 3KM WAY on my fucking condition. And expect to
pick him up at 2pm UNDER THE DAMN SUN that's sometimes 45c. IT HURTS.
But I do it anyway. Cause he's my nephew and I love him.
She goes to a shift from 9am till 1pm. This gives her ENOUGH time to do everything I am doing herself. I do can pick him
up, I can make the sacrifice. But, damn, I pick him up and she arrives to pick him at 8pm JUST BEFORE MY BROTHER COMES OUT OF WORK.
And even if I tell my brother that she leaves the kid here all day, he doesn't care.
So... Im standing on a situation where I cannot do this anymore. And even if I could, my body doesnt let me.
Im going against medical orders of going outside and exposing my head to the high UV... I don't know what to do
with my nephew... I love him. But 4 years of doing this and going under stress to feed him and all that, has been
taking a toll on me. I literally been raising him...
I needed to vent.. siiiighhh..
I am afraid of my surgery now.
I don't have an idea how to help you, except for listening to your worries.
But I do think that you have to refuse for the time your surgery is and the after time. Even thought it could be bad for your nephew.
There is a point where you have to set yourself first
If it's going to be an issue I think it should be brought up with the brother since it's his kid as well. @@
Don't worry and just say no. You are not a horrible aunt, you are just a person who has other priorities. Your nephew will still love you. Mine adores me still. But it's just not good or healthy for you anymore.
*HUGS*