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8 years ago
Bark Bark!
Update on things.
Birthday was meh, as expected because of drama dropped on me not even a week before. Summarized: Mother informed me that one of my sisters was due to have a baby soon, and it could kill her since she has Cystic Fibrosis and is "old age" for someone with said terminal illness.
She also mentioned that my oldest sister is pregnant and is high risk, and her daughter, my niece, was suicidal, and that me being in NY would do her some good. On top of this, she said that doctors saw grey spots in some of her brain scans, and that it will most likely lead to memory loss of some sort, she's going to try to sue the military (government?) because apparently one of the places that she was stationed in while in service had contaminated water, and she was never notified, and that contamination may be contributing to her issues now. Said issues are arthritis, multiple sclerosis, something with her back, I am not sure if her kidneys are functioning since she has not mentioned it since she last spoke of it.
So, all this was dropped on me not even a week before my birthday, and I was told to decide.
As mentioned in my last post, here I am in New York, and the idea was to stay until the end of summer, then go back. However, my sister mentioned some free healthcare thing that I could take advantage of, and how I need to get the storage paid up to get my things out. In regard to the healthcare: We are fairly certain that I have scalp psoriasis, as well as some level of psoriasis on my skin that needs treatment. On top of that, there is the matter of memory and ability to focus. So, because of that mention, I thought I'd stay and try to make myself better.
Since then, it's been a dramafest. Niece arguing with my middle sister all the time, oldest hopping in to tear her down (middle sister), arguments about money, petty crap, and just anything in general. So, that has built up a lot of stress. One other thing is the storage.
The storage is the biggest thing, really. So, it is in my mother's wife's name, but my mother was initially paying for it. When my mother was no longer making money, I took over and got it current. I have been so regular that they consider me a valued customer, and even pointed out that I'm not even a customer, yet I was more regular than their other customers. So, no late fees on anything, and they're willing to work with me should I need it.
And I need it now more than ever. So~ Match 7th, I was fired, and I had been looking for work, up until the point that I was brought up to NY. Then it got a bit more difficult. I felt awful in doing so, but I resorted to asking my stepfather for assistance with the growing bill since it has apparently become my responsibility, and he has started dealing with health issues of his own and is unable to. It it not his obligation, so I am not mad or anything. More concerned for his health.
However, what I am concerned about is the fact that they auction off overdue units, and the one I was paying on is past due by $654 as of this month, and though they told me there is no immediate danger of auction, I know that it is only a matter of time before they do.
My family is not helping, and I cannot let it go. In that unit is over half of my belongings that I had to leave from the last time I was here, in NY, as well as my graduation stuff, which is a big deal, as I was the only one of four to graduate. On top of that, it has everything that I EVER got from my grandmother who passed away four years ago.
So, what it boils down to is that I need to find a way to make SOME kind of payment on it to keep from losing everything, and right now, aside from some applications out to HOPEFULLY land SOME kind of job, I have nothing...
So; TLDR
Idea was to come stay in NY for summer after family drama bomb was dropped on me.
Sister mentioned some sort of free healthcare that I could take advantage of, so I decided to stay longer and make myself better (Psoriasis, memory/focus, and what my mom and sisters claim is ADD or ADHD).
Storage is $654 past due and will be auctioned off sometime, and I can't pay because I have no job or income.
Half of my belongings are in said storage, including graduation photos, cap and gown; the works, as well as EVERYTHING I ever got from my deceased grandmother. So...
Lots of stress from family drama, on top of the risk of losing so much.. Not making for a great time.
Birthday was meh, as expected because of drama dropped on me not even a week before. Summarized: Mother informed me that one of my sisters was due to have a baby soon, and it could kill her since she has Cystic Fibrosis and is "old age" for someone with said terminal illness.
She also mentioned that my oldest sister is pregnant and is high risk, and her daughter, my niece, was suicidal, and that me being in NY would do her some good. On top of this, she said that doctors saw grey spots in some of her brain scans, and that it will most likely lead to memory loss of some sort, she's going to try to sue the military (government?) because apparently one of the places that she was stationed in while in service had contaminated water, and she was never notified, and that contamination may be contributing to her issues now. Said issues are arthritis, multiple sclerosis, something with her back, I am not sure if her kidneys are functioning since she has not mentioned it since she last spoke of it.
So, all this was dropped on me not even a week before my birthday, and I was told to decide.
As mentioned in my last post, here I am in New York, and the idea was to stay until the end of summer, then go back. However, my sister mentioned some free healthcare thing that I could take advantage of, and how I need to get the storage paid up to get my things out. In regard to the healthcare: We are fairly certain that I have scalp psoriasis, as well as some level of psoriasis on my skin that needs treatment. On top of that, there is the matter of memory and ability to focus. So, because of that mention, I thought I'd stay and try to make myself better.
Since then, it's been a dramafest. Niece arguing with my middle sister all the time, oldest hopping in to tear her down (middle sister), arguments about money, petty crap, and just anything in general. So, that has built up a lot of stress. One other thing is the storage.
The storage is the biggest thing, really. So, it is in my mother's wife's name, but my mother was initially paying for it. When my mother was no longer making money, I took over and got it current. I have been so regular that they consider me a valued customer, and even pointed out that I'm not even a customer, yet I was more regular than their other customers. So, no late fees on anything, and they're willing to work with me should I need it.
And I need it now more than ever. So~ Match 7th, I was fired, and I had been looking for work, up until the point that I was brought up to NY. Then it got a bit more difficult. I felt awful in doing so, but I resorted to asking my stepfather for assistance with the growing bill since it has apparently become my responsibility, and he has started dealing with health issues of his own and is unable to. It it not his obligation, so I am not mad or anything. More concerned for his health.
However, what I am concerned about is the fact that they auction off overdue units, and the one I was paying on is past due by $654 as of this month, and though they told me there is no immediate danger of auction, I know that it is only a matter of time before they do.
My family is not helping, and I cannot let it go. In that unit is over half of my belongings that I had to leave from the last time I was here, in NY, as well as my graduation stuff, which is a big deal, as I was the only one of four to graduate. On top of that, it has everything that I EVER got from my grandmother who passed away four years ago.
So, what it boils down to is that I need to find a way to make SOME kind of payment on it to keep from losing everything, and right now, aside from some applications out to HOPEFULLY land SOME kind of job, I have nothing...
So; TLDR
Idea was to come stay in NY for summer after family drama bomb was dropped on me.
Sister mentioned some sort of free healthcare that I could take advantage of, so I decided to stay longer and make myself better (Psoriasis, memory/focus, and what my mom and sisters claim is ADD or ADHD).
Storage is $654 past due and will be auctioned off sometime, and I can't pay because I have no job or income.
Half of my belongings are in said storage, including graduation photos, cap and gown; the works, as well as EVERYTHING I ever got from my deceased grandmother. So...
Lots of stress from family drama, on top of the risk of losing so much.. Not making for a great time.
I'm sorry you're going through all that
Had I infinitely deep pockets I'd offer to help here and now, but all I have to offer is my sympathy
Best of luck, you're in my prayers
I've paid pretty much everything on my own so far, so asking someone for a handout doesn't sit well with me.
taking money without offering some kind of service or product in return feels sleezy to me
I wish there was SOMETHING I could do to help, but even if I wanted to we're on opposite coasts :c
I lost my storage unit some years back due to similar circumstances, though it was a fraction of the cost but still a couple months over. Initially it sucked, but I was surprised how quickly I got over it. Helps I'm not much of a materialist, really the only part that bothered me was indeed losing the many decades of things from my grandparents, particularly items I was to ship off to other far flung family that wanted certain items and would have been able to house them better than I at the time. But, knowing it at least gets auctioned helped, as it was still to be passed on and enjoyed by whomever.
I hope something works out eventually in your case, but if not, it's not gonna destroy your world by any means. Go worry about your sister. If anything in this story is the one that should be worried about, it's the severely sick sibling(s). As for their constant squabbling, *chuckles*, Family... Keep sane Otter.