Your post on furry identity was eye-opening and expertly put together, and what I've been saying to people for years... except in words I couldn't say myself.

And Happy New Year to you, too~

Thanks!

Sweet! I think this kind of life seems like a good fit for you, because you possess enough emotional intelligence to craft it and keep it going.

Whoever can write such skillful literary insights into emotional and sexual life of people, is bound to have an interesting personal life himself, indeed.

Heh, I appreciate that. :)

Both items ware well put and to the point.

1. I too have used the "What animal would you be...and why?" ploy on non-furrys. It seems to pry their minds open a bit when they come up with an instant (or nearly so) answer.

2. Congratulations, I would like to wish you all many years of happiness and all the best for 2018.

Looking forward to seeing you again at Texas Furry Fiesta.

Thanks! See you there. :)

Good as always to hear you and your loved ones are keeping well! Take one more toast that such continues as we head into 2018! *raises coffee mug*

Cheers! :)

I replied at the blog, because that's how I roll. :p

Indeed. Thanks for your reply there. :)

Most welcome!

wish you all the best man

Thanks! :)

It's really great that you're able to be open, first about your writing identities, and now your relationship. And thank you for your blog post about furry identity; it was, as always, exceptionally well written, and has been bookmarked for future use explaining the fandom to others.

*wags* Thank you! :) I generally encourage everyone to be open so I kinda have to do it myself if I want to have any credibility.

I really enjoyed reading both post, they are pretty insightful and allow us to remember how we started and things that although we have not forgotten its good to look at them again.
Sorry for my english, never sure if im expressing myself correctly.

Thanks! You expressed yourself very well. :)

Coming from a writer like you, its a real relieve

Thank you for the posts. Both where very insightful. May happiness follow all three of you in the fandom.

Many thanks!

congrats! you sound really happy.

Thanks, I am & we are. :)

Honestly, that theme you wrote about is something I would be very interested on learning more about. Wish we'd have time to sit down over coffee (or beverage of your choice) and learn more about it.

I feel a bit silly for first thinking you were adding a PET cat to your relationship... ^^ ;

I definitely wish you lots and lots of luck, admittedly, this made think back to Dude, Where's My Fox. I am a bit curious if that one was in any part motivated by that, though, that might not quite match with what you said about how long things had been going on.

I admit, after seeing one such relationship in my circle of friends end badly, I am inclined to be a bit more fearful that such things will end up in tears, but I would love to see that proven wrong. And if that made its way into a future book, I honestly would be interested to read about it from your point of view.

The ending of DWMF was probably for sure influenced by my life. ^^ And the thing about poly relationships is that they're relatively uncommon, so (1) there's few role models or guides for people who want to try it. It's not like in your two-person relationship where if you have a problem you can talk to family or friends for advice. Like setting out on a journey without a map, you're at a disadvantage compared to well-known routes, and that can mean your trip ends badly. But the solution to that is not to stop taking those trips; it's to map out the territory so others coming after you will have more success. And (2) often people only know of one or two poly relationships among their friends, and those poor relationships bear the entire weight of all poly relationships. So you, quite understandably, say, "I'm worried about poly relationships because the only one I saw ended badly." And the solution to that, again, is to go out and see more of them. Which is why I'm posting about mine. :)

My first experience with threesomes was similar, tbh. I think the first two I heard of both had the +1 end up forming a twosome with one of the original partners, leaving the other original partner pretty heartbroken. But I have some friends who have been a threesome for about twenty years now, and the other fun thing about coming out as poly is that you find out that there are other poly relationships all around you that have been going along just fine under the radar.

Honestly, by this point, I've seen all kinds of relationships begin and end. The determining factor doesn't seem to be related to what kind of relationship it is, but in how the people in the relationship communicate and value each other, and my wolf and cat and I are trying to be our best for each other, so we're confident that this will last at least a while longer. :)

Well, that does make me think my hopes for the characters of that story to keep being happy together may be not that unfounded, or at least that you may have a good aftermath for them in your mind.^^

I think some of this has also been the case for gay long term relationships. So, after recently reading that gay marriages actually have lower than average divorce rates (and gay male relationships in particular actually), I guess there is hope that poly relationships also will work things out.
The one I know definitely had family pressure as a significant issue. There was a rocky relationship between the two people who were together first, there were children involved and there was financial trouble and basically two people who had trouble keeping their life together with a third who had to take the brunt of that and ended up overburdened.
So that one had many reasons to fail beyond being a poly relationship.
Other than that, my experience was journalists writing about things that definitely are firmly in the V camp and which, despite their advocacy to the contrary, seemed to be field guides to how not to do it.

It still does definitely seem like there is more to balance.
I am a bit of an old fashioned romantic about those things, I guess, but I really, really would wish you to not only get to do a while longer but hopefully stay together till death doest thou part.
I honestly feel a bit anxious for you, but I do sure hope it all keeps working really, really nicely!

I grew up surrounded by quite a lot of very stable relationships while also seeing a good share of ones that broke up, sometimes messily.
I always really thought that people who love each other and who are mature and responsible can pretty much always make things work out.
So, I do wish that you never will have any shortage of those three things!

I find the image of you three together rather heartwarming, so, best of luck, I would love to keep reading now and then that things are going great for you.^^

Yeah, that relationship sounds like it had a lot of problems. Sorry for your friends, and I hope they find stability and happiness somewhere!

And thanks for your well-wishes. We hope so as well! But one thing I've learned is that whatever happens next year or the year after...things are good now, and that's a gift.

Well, one of them, the one I have been friends with longer, the one who ended up having to clean up after the others, so to say, got out of it reasonably well and I do hope the other two will keep things going better too, so, it overall looks decent, even though it was not easy on all of them.

For your part, I definitely shall be curious to see how thing in your life will reflect in your writing, as a fan of felines, I rather hope for some adorable cats featuring in future books, maybe inspired by your relationship.^^
I mean, nothing in the slightest against your fox or wolf protagonists, but I guess every furry likes to see his favourite species being featured and I am certainly no exception.