Most if not all land animals have the capacity to feel and love from what i remember learning. Personally id rather put my dog down rather then destroy his world by trying to rehome him, especially at the end of the line with medical issues, personally i'd rather hold his paw while he's put down then have him be put down in a shelter where i cant be with him while they do it...though thats just my opinion. i teared up a bit just thinking about it >///<

I don't *think* we put animals down willy nilly here in the UK much unless it's *absolutely*, I'm more just worried about her naturally going and feeling alone and unwanted and unloved... But I must admit now I'm kind of worried they might put her down and I won't know about it....

Well if my dog was 2-8 years old and in perfect health again, of course i wouldn't put him down, but hes not and neither is your cat...and on top of that your cat has health problems no-one but you will want to deal with to keep them alive for the possible extra 4-6 years at most? And it would probably cost the shelter more to keep him alive then to put him down, here where i live if your pet has little to no chance of being rehomed or is to expensive to keep around they'll be put down anyway weather in perfect health or not...that's why personally id rather be there to show him he's loved rather then leave him in some scary place around people he doesn't know and is scared of, i mean if you only had a few years left weren't in great health wouldn't you rather hold your loved ones hands and be surrounded by those that love you rather then some metal box surrounded by scary random people?...idk that's how i think about it, what would make me happy if i had to be put down?

I hate to sound super cold hearted, but personally id rather be put down then live what little time i had left in pain and surrounded by those i didnt know...

We don't put them down willy-nilly, but at her age, with her health problems it may be something the Vet might be willing to discuss, because it comes down to quality of life.

oh man.. Reading this nearly brought me to tears ..
I am so sorry to hear that you're in such a situation.
First off: yes cats, such as other animals, do have emotions and are certainly able to feel sadness, loneliness, etc.
If you really cannot keep her until the very end .. well there are several options
Maybe you could set up an ebay classifieds advert - many people "sell" their pets there, just taking like 5 bucks, explaining the situation so the pet gets a good new home (that way you could meet the new owner as well)
Ask directly in your environment, maybe friends, family etc.
and .. Idk. My mate is/was allergic to cats as well, we still have one (and apparently the allergy got better over time) maybe you can keep her in a "restricted" area of the flat?
I don't know but I certainly hope that you find a good solution for the both of you, and I hope your cat gets well soon

It's mostly just... She's nearly 14 years old, she has arthritis in her hind legs, She has intense diarrhoea that smells horrendous that I'm still waiting to find out the cause of - It's not stomach related unfortunately. they think it's a kidney issue. So she'll either need medical special food, or life long medication. And she misses the litter box sometimes, where she's arthritic and can't squat down as far as she'd like to.. . She's not a well bunny, but the vet seems to think there's no reason for her to be... put to sleep because a lot of elderly cats suffer with the same issues it's just a part of old age. But where I can't afford much, I'm moving out, and can't take her with me.. like.. The in laws - they're not heavily allergic.
It's just they have a two year old, and between that and her back end, I don't want to impose on them so heavily. Especially when it's apparently really dangerous for young kids to be around cat waste and stuff..

I'm waiting to hear back from my mum's friend who might know someone who can take her, but I need to be moving out before February, so I don't have long at all. and I can't help but feel like she's going to HAVE to go to a rehoming centre... I just don't want.... I feel like the stress of it all might finish her off honestly, and above all else I dont want her to go.. feeling like she's not loved or wanted. because quite frankly, just hypothetically if I could make a deal where I never EVER draw again, and I get to keep her until her last day, and have her not in pain, and loved, and wanted... I think I'd do it..

I know what it's like to feel unwanted and like a burden, my dad made me feel like that for as long as I can remember, and I know she's "just a cat" and probably can't think in as much depth as humans do, but I don't want her to be sad, or lonely, or miss me, or feel like she's.. alone and unloved.. I just... She's MY cat. And I can't... I feel like I've failed her, and I'm SO ridden with guilt and almost like... grief I guess. and she's not even gone yet...

Oh boy.. I am so so sorry. For both you and your cat :(
So there is no way to somehow keep her (or at least keep her somewhere close) ?
I understand the problem with the kid.. Maybe it's possible to get a special area for your cat (like if they got a garden, maybe your cat can be outside most of the day or something like that)
I really don't know what to do and I'd be in despair as well
Maybe there's a nice old cat lady somewhere near you live? it's a shame that there's not even time left to find a good new home for her ... is it somehow possible to keep her until you found a good home? I mean the situation would be rough, but still .. it's better than having to give her to a shelter

You probably don't want to hear it but if the law allows you need to voluntarilly put her down especially if she's as old and frail as you say. That's the best possible outcome. Any other option is not available from what you've said. You have my condolences.

Sadly, I was thinking the same. :(

I mean, if there’s no other options then...

Unfortunately it's the direction logic leads me.

Yes. It’s an understandable conclusion.
I wish I had put down my old cat because she was at the point of no return but it was too late. Hearing her wheeze & gasp was as much heart wrenching as watching it.

TvT

*pats*

This. Being separated from an owner is very traumatic especially for an older animal. Humane euthanasia may be the only option if she's ill.

Yeah I fear literally any of the other open options will just torture the poor animal...

See if there is a branch of the Celia Hammond Animal trust near you, I follow them on my twitter.. they are a rescue and may be able to help, I can't promise, but its all I have. Even if they cant, they might be able to offer some advice.

I know your pain, when I left my husband 4 months ago I had to rehome my cats, luckily my brother could take them, but I miss them desperately.

Don't lose hope, there may be other options than a rehoming centre!

Also please read this

https://www.drandyroark.com/5-thing.....w-euthanizing/

I don't think you're overpersonifying her at all.

As I can not do anything myself, and have not been in such a situation, I am sorry to say I have no advice, but...

Cats' meowing is something they only do for humans. It's not done with other cats often, if at all, but it's something they reserve for people, so know that it's their way of showing recognition to humans. A small suggestion I might have is if you know of someone who has a cat themselves, get the two cats together. Studies show that cats, when in a group or pairs, will snuggle together and purr lowly if one is injured or in pain — a cat's purring is at a hertz frequency that mammalian bone and tissue responds to, triggering the healing process to those who are near enough to hear it. It might not heal whatever your darling cat has, but it may relieve the pain.

Felines have a tremendous capacity for empathy and emotion. They can sense sorrow and happiness better than most people, even.

... Also, I don't know if you are a religious person, but I shall pray for you, and for your beloved pet. Do not leave her, and ask a friend or trusted loved one to care for her while you sort things. Hold her close to your heart always, and I assure you that when she passes, she will pass with a smile in her heart, and that her spirit will endure with you.

First: -gives you a big hug-
Second: I’m very sure that your cat knows that you love her dearly.
I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation. If I was able to take your cat, I’d do so in a heartbeat and if I lived nearby I’d bring her over to visit each day I was able to.
As Skully666 said don’t lose hope as there might be more options available.
I’m always wishing you all the best Krit and I definitely wish all the best for your kitty as well.

She loves you just as much as you love her.
And at her age? She will miss you if you leave her somewhere.
Just like she misses you when you go out for a few hours. I'd worry that if I left her in a cat home, she'd be waiting for me to come back.
As people have said above
At her age and with her medical issues, she might won't find a place to rehome .
Is there no one who might foster her?
At least that way she wouldn't be alone in a cat home/ shelter.
I had to make the incredibly hard decision with my last cat. He wouldn't have coped with a shelter
and no one could/ would've taken him in. He had issues much like your girl. After talking to the vet
He said it was time. Took me a few days to come to terms with having to take him to the vets for the last time.
I am sorry you find yourself in this position, it is not easy which ever path you pick.

What everyone says here is true, but there is also something that a lot have not mentioned. But when it comes to moving a cat especially when its older to a new environment it can be extremely stressful for them even with their own owners there. So to be put into a new home with strangers can also lead to them stressing and passing away. I say this mainly cause I had to leave my cat with my mother because of her age. Moving her to live with me would mean giving her access to stress about being in a new environment.

I’m so sorry sweetheart.. it’s so complicated and the hardest thing to do is let go.
I’m now a registered foster and I’d offer to care for her but I do have a cat AND a dog and like everyone is saying, the stress could be devastating just traveling..
Spend the time you can with her.
Definitely get advice from the vet for the poor baby..
But try to do what’s best, as you are.
And we’re all here regardless of where this goes.
Just breathe and understand you’ve given your furbaby the most amazing life and she does love you for it and would never hate you.
No matter how mad they may get,
My furbaby would turn her back to me but still force me to hold her..
I’d just be teasing her but she still loved me..
So don’t think she’ll hate you. You’re her mom, no matter what.

I can't say I know what to say in this situation as feeling like the inevitable is coming for someone you love dearly is a horrible feeling to have especially if you can't be with them during their last moments just so they know that you love and care for them dearly.... I wish I had a magic answer to say that you can be with her somehow till that but the situation doesn't accommodate for that. All I can say is just roll with the punches best as you can and do what your able and be with her as much as you are able. Other then that I am not sure what else I can say but hope you will be ok and if you need someone to talk or comfort you then you are not on shortage of friends and people who care for you, myself included.

I've had a few pets throughout my life and letting them go has never been easy but I think that in this situation, the most humane thing to do would be to have her put down. It sucks, but I believe that would be best for the both of you. Best of luck. :(