Advice Needed - Serious
8 years ago
I've a friend who has decided to remain on good terms with someone who has done something unspeakable to me. I do not want to get into the grisly details.
I have tried my best to be kind to them, to give them time to break off their friendship with this other, horrible person, but they refuse, stating that I just cannot "handle" the fact that they don't have to be friends with "only the people I approve of"?
What should I do?
I have tried my best to be kind to them, to give them time to break off their friendship with this other, horrible person, but they refuse, stating that I just cannot "handle" the fact that they don't have to be friends with "only the people I approve of"?
What should I do?
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what did they do to you ::O
If they do and think it's not enough to end the relations with said person, you could try to explain to your friend why this thing that was done to you is so hurtful/serious for you, if that doesn't help, then nothing really you can do, let them be. Or stop being friends with them both, if you can't stand it. Just don't try to sabotage or blackmail, it won't end well and will backfire eventually.
The "unspeakable" can be different things, so more specific advice is not possible, unfortunatlely.
(I'm just a passerby that stumbled upon this journal and decided to leave this input. Good luck.)
I think I will stop being friends with them both, though, because now that I think about it, our mutual friend is bad for me so maybe it would be best to remove them from my life posthaste.
Thank you for your input and well wishes.