Deep Shit- Need all the help I can get RN-
7 years ago
March 2022 - Monthly Goal: $0/800 Needed
Hey all-
Here's the situation- No bullshit. No sugar coating.
Today is the 25th of the month- I have tops TWO days to make at LEAST $700-
that's the bare minimum I need to pay my rent and bills, but it leaves me with nothing else for the month ahead.
Here's the worst part-
My husband and partner of 15 years has told me that if I cannot pick up my financial socks soon, he's going to kick me out until I figure out my shit... possibly for good..
A bit about me so you can understand this situation better; I have severe anxiety disorders, both social and generalized. Getting a job isn't that simple.. I'm in the middle of applying for government assistance [again, since I've been denied twice previously.] but while waiting for that, I am completely on my own to hold up my half of our expenses, which includes student loans, visa payments, phone bill and half of rent.
Here's the breakdown:
My half of rent: $500
Phone: $45
student loans: $125
Visa minimum: $50
I'm willing to work for what I get- If you want to commission me, toss me an offer and I'll see what I can do for you.
I'm really shitty about accepting donations, but at times like this I won't argue- Large amounts get under my skin simply because I don't want to feel like a mooch. LET ME WORK FOR IT.
Anything helps.. Please help me make this work..
FA+

A couple useful bits of reading:
http://www.duhaime.org/LegalResourc.....-Columbia.aspx
I know this one's from Ontario but I expect a lot holds true in BC.
https://www.theglobeandmail.com/new.....rticle9847452/
I can not recommend finding a support group and calling police if anything happens enough. What he's doing is not okay and is not legal.
As for disability, I've tangled with such systems. You don't take the denial at face value. It's almost a 100% refusal rate when you apply. You have to challenge it and keep challenging it, not reapply. It often takes years and many hearings and doctor statements before it's approved.
Lawyers are a good thing for both situations.
I know this is just words and doing it so much harder than saying, but this is all I can offer at the moment.
Never, ever leave the house without ID and proof you live there (if it's not the same thing). Without that proof he can lie to the cops about who you are and whether you live there. Mostly in case he changes the locks while you're gone or calls the cops to get you removed without an eviction notice.
Also remember that your lawyer can go after him for any fees incurred before the divorce is finalized. As long as you are married a debt incurred by one is legally the responsibility of both.
People do some terrible, underhanded things when they are upset or trying to force a breakup.
Journal link: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/8783146/
good luck with everything, last but not least your marriage.