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gotta get a job, gotta move
7 years ago
hallo fuzzies.
i know most people here probably don't actually care about my life at all, so i apologize. just like to keep updated. TLDR, what the title says. living here is becoming more and more stressful and that's very bad for my depression/anxiety and it's about time i got a new job anyway, so i'm gonna try to do that.
back in november i moved here when my lease ended at my last apartment. i'm on the same property as my dad and he owns the house, but there are two houses on the property so we technically live in separate houses. i don't have to pay rent, but i still pay all my utilities and stuff (and phone and car expenses, all my food, pet stuff, etc etc etc) . i'd never lived with my dad before this, i grew up living with my mom. my dad and i have always had our issues and i was nervous about this, but i figured i'd give it a shot. he was excited about it because he wanted to spend more time with me, wanted another person around, etc. at first it was cool because i didn't have a roommate for the first time and i had my own space and could do my own thing. it helped with the stress/depression a lot. my dad was really happy to have me here cuz technically HE wasn't alone anymore then. but he's been getting more and more controlling of what i do, with almost complete disregard for my thoughts/feelings/preferences/conveniences. he wants to know if and when i'm going places and tells me where to park my truck when i get back (as if it matters, i can park anywhere on the street, really, but not according to him). and THEN he nitpicks where/how i park and tells me i can't do that when there's literally nothing wrong with it to anyone else i explain it to (ei - i "ONLY" left two feet of space between me and the car in front of me). i'm running out of places to park. he comes over whenever he feels like it and will talk to me for an hour or more even if i tell him i'm working on art/commissions or i'm busy/streaming, etc. yknow, making money, to pay my bills. so i can live here. he gets upset if i don't answer his calls/texts or the door when he comes over. since he owns the house, he'll just come in sometimes if he needs to do some work in the house or something. he expects me to do things for him whenever he wants and gets upset if, for example, i'm SLEEPING and don't want to get up at 8AM because normally i GO to sleep at 6am, or for some other reason can't/won't do what he says. he'll come into my house and criticize my CLEANING or PLACEMENT of things in my own own house (btw, my house it cleaner than those of most people i know. maybe i didn't do the dishes for one day, OOPS, or haven't vacuumed this week, SHAME)
among other things. more has happened and i really don't want to get into it more than i have, but it's really dumb and i'm done dealing with it. so i need to find myself a new job ASAP so i can find a new place to live ASAP. it'll be a struggle, i don't really have anything to wear to interviews or money to buy new clothes with, and i've NEVER had luck finding apartments, but.....i need to do it now. i hope it goes well.....
-Nix
i know most people here probably don't actually care about my life at all, so i apologize. just like to keep updated. TLDR, what the title says. living here is becoming more and more stressful and that's very bad for my depression/anxiety and it's about time i got a new job anyway, so i'm gonna try to do that.
back in november i moved here when my lease ended at my last apartment. i'm on the same property as my dad and he owns the house, but there are two houses on the property so we technically live in separate houses. i don't have to pay rent, but i still pay all my utilities and stuff (and phone and car expenses, all my food, pet stuff, etc etc etc) . i'd never lived with my dad before this, i grew up living with my mom. my dad and i have always had our issues and i was nervous about this, but i figured i'd give it a shot. he was excited about it because he wanted to spend more time with me, wanted another person around, etc. at first it was cool because i didn't have a roommate for the first time and i had my own space and could do my own thing. it helped with the stress/depression a lot. my dad was really happy to have me here cuz technically HE wasn't alone anymore then. but he's been getting more and more controlling of what i do, with almost complete disregard for my thoughts/feelings/preferences/conveniences. he wants to know if and when i'm going places and tells me where to park my truck when i get back (as if it matters, i can park anywhere on the street, really, but not according to him). and THEN he nitpicks where/how i park and tells me i can't do that when there's literally nothing wrong with it to anyone else i explain it to (ei - i "ONLY" left two feet of space between me and the car in front of me). i'm running out of places to park. he comes over whenever he feels like it and will talk to me for an hour or more even if i tell him i'm working on art/commissions or i'm busy/streaming, etc. yknow, making money, to pay my bills. so i can live here. he gets upset if i don't answer his calls/texts or the door when he comes over. since he owns the house, he'll just come in sometimes if he needs to do some work in the house or something. he expects me to do things for him whenever he wants and gets upset if, for example, i'm SLEEPING and don't want to get up at 8AM because normally i GO to sleep at 6am, or for some other reason can't/won't do what he says. he'll come into my house and criticize my CLEANING or PLACEMENT of things in my own own house (btw, my house it cleaner than those of most people i know. maybe i didn't do the dishes for one day, OOPS, or haven't vacuumed this week, SHAME)
among other things. more has happened and i really don't want to get into it more than i have, but it's really dumb and i'm done dealing with it. so i need to find myself a new job ASAP so i can find a new place to live ASAP. it'll be a struggle, i don't really have anything to wear to interviews or money to buy new clothes with, and i've NEVER had luck finding apartments, but.....i need to do it now. i hope it goes well.....
-Nix
That sounds really stressful and I understand why you are wanting to move out. Being controlled sucks. I delt with it for over 2 years. It messes with your head badly.
Best wishes though, you probably will struggle a lot with finding a good job and a place to rent honestly, but just try to keep a positive attitude about it :)
actually you should move here, we got nice place, chocolate, I have a fireplace, big garden x3 and I think we can solve the job problem too
Wishing you all the luck! And let me know if I can help any~