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Grandma Passed Away
7 years ago
My grandma passed away yesterday. I was told when I went on break and turned phone on to see text.
When I went on break I was going to see if my boyfriend would like to meet her before she passed as she had been sick for about a week. So going to break and seeing that was just saddening.
But heres the story. My gramma was a quadriplegic. They gave her about 3 years to live because in that condition any sickness was a death sentence. Well she then went 28 years never getting sick even once as she just controlled her environment so much! It had to be done for survival. But suddenly she got phenomena. Her lungs kept filling up with fluid and since she is quadriplegic she couldnt cough it up so she kept getting worse. They had to put her induced coma for a bit and had tubes all down her throat.
She made them send her home even tho she kept getting better then worse then better than worse. She basically just went home to die. She hadnt slept all week except for the induced coma as she was scared if she fell asleep she wouldnt wake back up . The hospice gave her a sedetive to help her sleep. And her worries were right. During her sleep she just stopped breathing and passed away.
I feel so bad because my part of the family kind of cut her out of our lives about 3 years ago as we were tired of her using us and beign over all ass hat but her other daughters family was just angels straight from heaven. So n0ow I have this unnerving like guilt that she died thinking i hated her and wanted her to die. She was only grandma I knew growing up as dads mom like disowned us for a while. But right when i plan to visit her before she dies she dies.
And now all her life she said wanted to be cremated which is the cheaper option and right at death she changed her wishes to be buried and her medicare or medicade is only putting like $300 or so toward her funeral. So now the rest of the burden is on the family.
Anyways just needed to rant a little I guess? Just a lot to deal with. Doesnt make matters better that part of my name i was named after her.
When I went on break I was going to see if my boyfriend would like to meet her before she passed as she had been sick for about a week. So going to break and seeing that was just saddening.
But heres the story. My gramma was a quadriplegic. They gave her about 3 years to live because in that condition any sickness was a death sentence. Well she then went 28 years never getting sick even once as she just controlled her environment so much! It had to be done for survival. But suddenly she got phenomena. Her lungs kept filling up with fluid and since she is quadriplegic she couldnt cough it up so she kept getting worse. They had to put her induced coma for a bit and had tubes all down her throat.
She made them send her home even tho she kept getting better then worse then better than worse. She basically just went home to die. She hadnt slept all week except for the induced coma as she was scared if she fell asleep she wouldnt wake back up . The hospice gave her a sedetive to help her sleep. And her worries were right. During her sleep she just stopped breathing and passed away.
I feel so bad because my part of the family kind of cut her out of our lives about 3 years ago as we were tired of her using us and beign over all ass hat but her other daughters family was just angels straight from heaven. So n0ow I have this unnerving like guilt that she died thinking i hated her and wanted her to die. She was only grandma I knew growing up as dads mom like disowned us for a while. But right when i plan to visit her before she dies she dies.
And now all her life she said wanted to be cremated which is the cheaper option and right at death she changed her wishes to be buried and her medicare or medicade is only putting like $300 or so toward her funeral. So now the rest of the burden is on the family.
Anyways just needed to rant a little I guess? Just a lot to deal with. Doesnt make matters better that part of my name i was named after her.
Rex-Itchan
~rex-itchan
I feel for you, my gran had the same problem and passed away a few years back. I'm sorry about what happened and I know how it feels but remember, you're not alone, I'm sure there are alot of people around willing to support you, like myself.
VampiricIce
~vampiricice
I'm so sorry
afrisch
~afrisch
I am so sorry to hear. My father passed away last year and left a slew of unanswered issues that my mom had to deal with when it came to finances. Hugs and support to you during this difficult time.
