is it possible that the horndogs on this site are for the most part full of bluster 'n bs anyway? vying for attention in a rather sillyarse fashion? you sound quite normal to me

I'm very similar to you.

If you dont do anything about it; yeah a pushover (once again, same as me) Doesn't mean that your that way inherantly though, its just that if you don't draw lines and enforce them, then naturally, pushover. (Not always bad unless its really doing you harm).

Yeah I understand what you are trying to say, I will put my big floppy foot down when I realy have to. But most of the time Im just very passive. For example this was in rl I was on the bus going home when this realy old guy sat down next to me. I mean realy old like ancient and feeble looking. Anyways he was telling me that if I wanted to go back to his place and he'll buy me beer and I could stay with him over night. And I could tell he was drunk... I got upset but Ive always been told to respect my elders so I just kind very politely told him no and to leave me be. Well he pulls the cord and is getting off the bus but before he does he tried to kiss me! The nerve of the old guy, he tries to plant a kiss on my face! I pushed his head away and he left the bus... See if I was less of a pushover I would have punched him or somthing but I didnt wanna kill the old man...

When I start to think of myself being a pushover I remember an old saying "Water wears away the rock"

Thanks for the feed back both of you!

Well normally I would step in and place down my two cents in the form of an essay long speech, but these tend to be matters resolved only by ones self. You seem pretty confident in your sense of the world, and I think that/s all that matters. Stereotypes are always prevalent amongst any kind of group that shares something common and are often set by a minority that takes it a bit too far. Furs are no exception. Make or break the stereotype? Well that is really up to you, and you have your mind concluded. Whats important though is that you chose for yourself.

*bigest hug I can give*
thank you so much for taking the time to read my jibber jabber I realy do value your opinion.

Chro where have you been?? I hope we get the time to hang out or chat soon.

I'm glad I can help. My absence from SL has been in account for the fact that I recently purchased a new desktop. I had to backup the files from my old desktop and transfer/set up my new one. It's take na while but I should be able to get on SL more often now.