You mean like Yerf? Yeah, thanks for that absolute shit show. You grandfathered in many lousy "artists." but denied real talent from ever being able to upload anything. And I know a lot of ones that made themselves quite a bit of money from their work being associated with Yerf. But for the real talent out there, they could never get a break because of the bullshit "standards" that were put in place. No, I 'm not one of them; just a lurker. But the show was interesting, to say the least. Fuck you. I'm glad that horrible, hypocritical site is down.

I don't know if you still need help, but I have a LOT of useful advice! It's more of a process than checkbox, and I think you'll find this useful.

I used to go by  Tremaine. I deleted a bunch of my art some years ago, regretted it and re-uploaded most of it at a later time. With each piece, there's a bit of history about my life at the time, and about my art itself. There was a LOT I needed to forgive myself for, and I learned a bunch of useful stuff!

One is separating "shame" and "guilt". "Shame" is thinking that "I am broken and wrong, and I feel bad about it." "Guilt" is "I did something wrong and I feel bad about it." Shame implies one cannot be fixed or improved, but guilt absolutely can. Shame feels permanent, but guilt is transient.

When we think of the past, we think of the wrongdoing only. It's really important to put whatever happened back in its context! These are some questions to ask yourself for every situation you feel bad about.

* It's important to note that revisiting the past WILL be painful. Pain is necessary to heal. It's going to hurt; the only way out is through. Once you're through, though, the pain WILL greatly lessen!

* About emotional pain: your brain doesn't understand time and pain. All emotional pain feels like it's happening right now, for the first time. The key to dealing with pain in these situations is to sit back and acknowledge it. Don't push the pain away; it will only become stronger. Don't bring the pain closer; it will resist. Let the pain be present, and let it fade on its own accord. (Practice mindfulness; keep your mind Present, in the "Now".)

* What was your life back then?

* What was happening in your life around the time the event happened?

* What other problems were you facing back then?

* What was your reasoning before you did the thing?

* If your reasoning wasn't complete, why do you think it wasn't?

* What intentions did you have? What was the outcome you hoped for?

* What have you learned since then that you'd do differently now?

* Given all the information and knowledge you had at the time, could you really and truly have made a better decision?

* If you faced the same situation today, what would you do differently?

* Would asking for help have resolved it easier?

* Would asking for help in a different way have helped?

* If you wouldn't do anything differently, why do you think that is? What do you think is causing your shame and guilt? Follow the thread of thought to its end.

* Be aware of negative self-talk and self-deprecation. When you find a way to talk badly about yourself, force yourself to catch it and instead describe the situation in a constructive way. Do this every single time.

* With all of the questions above answered, you can start to forgive yourself. No one can know every outcome of their actions. What seems like a good idea at the time with all the knowledge you had in the moment can seem like a terrible idea once we learn more. You are allowed to not know everything. You are human, and that's OK.

* Forgiveness is a process and takes a lot of time and repetition. When I uploaded my art, I had hundreds, thousands of pieces to forgive myself over. Not just about the art, but about a memory of a bad life situation. It took a LOT of time and practice for self-forgiveness to sink in.

I also really, really love these books. LOTS of swearing, but it's really straightforward:
"Unfuck Your Brain": https://www.amazon.com/Unfuck-Your-...../dp/1621063046
"Unfuck Your Boundaries": https://www.amazon.com/Unfuck-Your-...../dp/1621061000

Musing about Yerf as the decades pass: I think a lot of the issues Yerf faced could have been solved with a tagging system. It wasn't a thing back then, but with tags individual users could watch/spoiler/block tags of art and artists they did and didn't want to see. Each person would have a custom experience delivered to their tastes! I came to realize that Yerf as it was couldn't possibly please everyone out there! Less focus on having exacting standards for who can join, but perhaps a bigger focus on moderating user behavior.

A bonus would also be the ability for each user of the site to block other users from viewing/commenting. Every art site ever is going to have its obnoxious users.

I'm thinking about how e621, Furbooru and Derpibooru work today, sort of! In fact, I really wish FA would implement this, but I'm not counting on it.